Wife problem

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  1. fizzjizz25

    fizzjizz25 New Member

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    hello ladies,

    i have been married for 9 years and i am a single lady man. few years back i confronted my wife cheating

    on me with her ex lover/boyfriend. They had affair for almost 3 years. finally i caught her and she

    promised and regretted and i forgive her. Now my problem is she doesnt like blowjob or anal or isnt

    eager or show some responsiveness or initiative. i tried talking to her about fantasies stories etc but

    to no avail.

    I had asked her about what she did with her ex and she confessed that she had anal sex, ( though she

    said she didnt like and she cried as he couldnt stop and fucked her till he came), she had blowjob to him

    with chocolate applied and didnt finish him off with orgasm ( again as per her info), had late night nude

    chats, even had sex without condom and then took medication emergency pill.

    Now what should i do ? so she takes part with me actively. i am dissappointed and losing patience.
     
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    This isn't a woman's issue. Try ask a woman.
     
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    I recommend both of you talking to a therapist, marital or sex therapist to help you two work out your deeper issues behind what is going on. None of us here is qualified to sort it out with you.
     
  4. EllieP

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    Listen to @Tattooed Goddess, this really is your only solution to stay together. The other option is to call it quits, but it sounds like you would prefer to salvage what's left.

    If you love her then fight for her. Get help. I will tell you this that if she does not want the help then option 2 is the only thing that will eventually make you happy, sad to say.
     
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    So your completely real problem coincides with your sexual fantasies? Wow. What are the odds?!
     
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    thank you for advice. i am in need of one. i tried to hide myself into fantasies and cuckold and what not. but what i wrote is real truth. and i am pained from it. i love her and want to be with her. i think therapist would be fine. but how i can generate the passion for me? she is like plane jane around me. says love you cooks for me, cuddles me but that intimacy is not there.
     
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    Nevermind. It's just another cuck fetishist.
     
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