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I agree.
You can always use sex toys to fill 'er up if that is what she craves.
Do you really want to know "why not?"
Taking the "you" out of it so it isn't so personal and all about your dick as you seem to think it is, when everything is said and done ... your wife is going to realize that she had to pay a man to fuck her.
Once that realization sinks in, she is going to hate you for not standing firm and telling her that you think she is hot shit and that (theoretically) men should be paying her to have a go at her.
Spend your cash on some big dick porn and a giant strap-on. Pretend it's someone else's dick if you want to.
You are in one of those situations where just because you can doesn't mean that you should.
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You're right on regarding the cash aspect of this, only what kind of man, that is, who would pay some other @ssh*le to do his wife. The day that happens with me, even for a gf, that's the day that other dude takes over every other financial aspect of the relationship. I may not mind sharing, but let's see what he brings to the swap meet and puts out as prime reciprocity, so that I'm not standing around with my dick in my hand with nothing to do. And wtf, if you're going to charge other dudes to nail your wife, make sure you get enough from it to buy all the toys you want, that is those brand new Callaway golf clubs, a higher end car or 60" SONY HD TV. If you're going to pimp, at least do the transaction right. Heck, if you're itching to spend a couple hundred bucks so bad, send me the $ 200 and I won't even do your wife. Figure it as $ 200 for leaving her alone and not interfering with your relationship. I'll be happy to oblige.
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I doubt that.
Does anyone actually realize he might actually be into it? Is it that hard to believe? It turns him on.
It's up to how necessary you feel monogamy is in your marriage. The fact that you like the idea in the first place tells me you don't mind a somewhat open relationship. Anyway, I doubt this'll be a one time thing, she'll eventually want to do it again if just for the sake of variety. I'd suggest going for free cock next time though, not too hard to cruise a bar or the net and find a guy who'd get off on doing your wife while you watch or whatever.
If he were into it, he would have immediately gone ahead and done it and them come back and posted all about the hot time he had watching her get some mega-dick while he paid for it.
When something truly turns you on, you don't need to get all kinds of opinions first.
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Sex is not a spectator sport, when the option to be the starting QB in that Super Bowl is available. Yeah, we'll all probably stop and watch a train wreck, but let's face it, given the option to play the leading role in getting laid vs shelling out $ 200 to watch someone else, he'd be better off letting his wife do the other guy for free, that way he still gets to keep his $ 200. If the other guy won't pay or won't do it for free, well I guess he's not really interested in getting laid. What if the other guy is one of those 9" disappointments and sucks at screwing his wife and she doesn't even get off on it ? What's he going to do ask the other guy for his money back ?
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I don't think something like this is that easy. You need to think about it. You need to discuss it. You need to make sure you are ready for it.
And for the QB analogy, it seems after all these years of marriage he has been the QB on many a game winning drive, maybe he felt it was time to step aside and let the #1 draft pick get a chance while he watches. Damn, don't you people get tired of fucking the same person for 25 years? Is another cock that detrimental to your relationship?
Hey If she came bang that guy with a big cock Then, you should be able to hook up with girls too. dutch door action. Once you get it out of your systems everything will be all good again
Some things are just bad ideas period. While the fantasy may be hot, the reality is harsh. The finer points (such as the realization that your husband had to pay a man to have sex with you) may take a while to sink in, but when it does, there isn't an undo button that can fix everything.
My relationship went through a phase where we had other men in our bed. It's hard to sum up in just a few lines why this isn't a good idea for 99% of the population. The fact that he is paying for this changes the dynamics even more, and not in a good way.
From everything this person has said, I honestly don't think either one of them truly knows what they are getting into.
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IrishGirl, would she really hate her husband or herself for accepting this proposal? She doesn't have to agree to this; she does have a mind of her own, doesn't she?
Although I could never agree to such a thing, I don't condemn it. If both parties have discussed the matter, and if (and only if) both parties are willing.... There are the consequences.
Although I could never agree to such a thing, I don't condemn it. If both parties have discussed the matter, and if (and only if) both parties are willing.... There are the consequences.
Yes.
No.
Just because it didn't work for you, IrishGirl, doesn't mean it won't work for others. I'm in a loving, productive, honest relationship and we've shared other guys. The experience has been fun and only made us closer. You can be a big Cassandra all you want and say it will spell doom for our relationship, but it's just not going to happen. Step off.
All the judgement about the guy's masculinity and assertiveness aside, guess what, people? Some guys really do like to watch, rather than fuck.
Uhhhh .... Where did I say "it didn't work" for me?
What I did say was that it isn't a good idea for 99% of the population. If you scroll back up, you can see for yourself.
You're "in a loving, productive, honest relationship and we've shared other guys". Good for you. Me too. In fact, unless it involves children or animals, it's pretty safe to say that my partner and I have done it. Most relationships can't handle the things that we have done. We are in the minority, not the majority.
"You can be a big Cassandra all you want and say it will spell doom for our relationship"
I don't recall telling you anything at all other than what I have said in this post. Again, if you scroll back up you can see for yourself.
"Step off."
Let's see ... first you make a blatently false representation of what I said and to whom, then you further go on refute an imaginary statement about your personal relationship that you have publicly attributed to me, and now you want me to "step off" ... or you are going to ... what? Misquote me some more or make up some more statements that I supposedly said to you?
May I suggest that you :censored: instead?
"In fact, unless it involves children or animals, it's pretty safe to say that my partner and I have done it"
Anyone got THE list? I have a difficult time believing anyone when they make that comment. The spectrum is so broad that even if you did something different everyday for a decade I don't think you'd cover it all.
Anyone got THE list? I have a difficult time believing anyone when they make that comment. The spectrum is so broad that even if you did something different everyday for a decade I don't think you'd cover it all.
I honestly think she would.
Not to sound sexist, but men have a very different view of paying for a sexual partner than women do. I know many men who have paid for an escort or a prostitute, a massage aka topless handjob, a blowjob, or whatever and it doesn't bother them one bit; but I cannot think of a single woman who would not feel ashamed, debased, worthless, humiliated or some similar emotion when she comes to the full realization that her husband had to pay someone to fuck her. I think that once her little fantasy is fulfilled and she wakes up, she will be crushed.
It's like he is saying to her that she isn't attractive or seductive enough for a man to want her. One of the most satisfying things about being a woman is knowing that you can attract men. It's a very powerful and exciting feeling. Most women I know (and probably most women in general) could leave the house, find a man and have him agree to have sex with them in 20 minutes or less. Very few men can accomplish that, lol. I think this aspect of the situation is pretty much lost on the men reading this thread. Think of the thing that makes you feel most like a man (being a father, providing for your family, your occupation, etc). Now take that away. Wouldn't not feeling like a man be devastating? I think she is going to wake up and realize that she traded part of herself for $200.
Years ago my partner and I went through a phase where we enjoyed watching each other with a third party. Part of the thrill is seeing how much someone else wants what you already have. Paying for it takes that away. It's a job for them rather than an erotic encounter. I don't think any woman wants to realize that making love to her is work that requires financial compensation.
We knew many people and had many friends who experimented as well, and none of their relationships survived. It takes a certain kind of mindset to have someones heart and mind all to yourself, but to be sharing them sexually. The majority of people who think they can handle it actually can't. We saw many people who thought it was hot and exciting, then sooner or later, things got ugly.
Also, the fact that she just wants a big dick set off alarm bells for me. It's like she doesn't give a damn about her husbands feelings. When you love someone, you love them no matter what size their dick is. There are ways to remain faithful and be fulfilled sexually.
I just think there are too many wrongs in this situation and not enough rights. Neither one of them really knows what they are getting into. Bottom line ... It's their marriage and if they want to risk it, that's their choice.
I'm sorry that you haven't had the sexual opportunities that we have had.
As far as a "broad spectrum", we live in NYC, and have since the 1970's.
For quite some time we spent two or three nights a week going to sex clubs such as Plato's Retreat and Hellfire and to private invitation-only parties. We also entertained quite a bit at home.
You do sound sexist Irishgirl. And I think you are on the wrong site too. You live in a normative world. Most people here think women have the same kind of desires as men do and that they shouldn't be ashamed of them. Money is only a substitute for time and other things, and no matter what the nature of the relationship, there is always a trade-off for what you desire. Therefore, monetary payment in that sense is only a social construct. The gist of what you say is that women don't or actually aren't supposed to have any desires and even more importantly aren't supposed to act on them. I disagree.
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