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Hey guys. My wife and I were talking the other night and I asked her about her past again. We discussed each others past before we got married. Only thing this time her past was different. She told me about another guy she slept with who she told me before she never slept with. Also before she told me the guys she slept with were all around 5” and skinny and this time she said they all were except one who hurt her. She said he had to go slow cause it was hurting her. She also said she came from him in the first min or two. She told me before he fucked her he fingered her for a long time. She also told me she was in the room with him for a long time. She said she thinks he was bigger then me. I asked how big he was and she just shut down and said she didnt remember. She seemed to remember everything that happened but nothing about her actually touching his dick or is actual size. We have been together for 26 years and are in our early 40’s. This guy was 19 and she was a few years younger then him. What do you guys think. Do u think she knows how much bigger he was or has an idea?
 
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I think the memory does get foggy years later. She told you the dude was bigger than the others. But you needed to know if he was bigger than you. She gave you an answer, that you forced out of her, but she may truly not recall.

Is it that important? I know a lot of guys here get turned on by hearing about their woman being with a dude bigger than they are, but it sounds like this one is bothering you. Maybe let it drop?
 

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Look. I'm pretty sure my wife had had sex with more guys than she told me about.
And let me be clear. I never asked. She told me who the other guys were the very first time we had sex. She felt I should know.

Her stories didn't quite add up, literally and figuratively.

However, if there's one thing I've learned from ~25 years of marriage----when it comes to questions about her sexual past, don't ask. Let it go. Let it go, let it go, let it go.
 

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I think the memory does get foggy years later. She told you the dude was bigger than the others. But you needed to know if he was bigger than you. She gave you an answer, that you forced out of her, but she may truly not recall.

Is it that important? I know a lot of guys here get turned on by hearing about their woman being with a dude bigger than they are, but it sounds like this one is bothering you. Maybe let it drop?
How do you figure I forced anything out of her. Were you there? I asked a question and she answered. Period.
 

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How do you figure I forced anything out of her. Were you there? I asked a question and she answered. Period.

No, I wasn’t there. I can only go on what you shared. But it you continue to ask about something it would appear you are looking for more. She finally told you what you wanted to hear.
 

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I think perhaps she's delivering an edited transcript of her past. Telling you the parts she thinks you want or need to hear without being intentionally hurtful. And that you get a slightly different edition each time, as she reassesses your tolerance for the facts.

I also think that no person recalls every detail of every encounter in perfect clarity on demand every time they're asked.

ETA: also remember that her earlier encounters as a younger person never occurred for the purposes of this board :cool:
 
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I think perhaps she's delivering an edited transcript of her past. Telling you the parts she thinks you want or need to hear without being intentionally hurtful. And that you get a slightly different edition each time, as she reassesses your tolerance for the facts.

I also think that no person recalls every detail of every encounter in perfect clarity on demand every time they're asked.

ETA: also remember that her earlier encounters as a younger person never occurred for the purposes of this board :cool:
Im pretty sure no ones past occurred for the purpose of this board. Thing is it wasent one sided. She asked me questions also.
 

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This is something I just didn't ever do.

What does it matter? Its irrelevant to me because she's with me NOW and enjoying herself with me, NOW. The fact that my partner had sex with someone else at some point in her life before being with me...I don't see why that should matter.

I've never asked a woman "am I better/bigger than your last boyfriend", and come to think of it no woman I've been with has EVER asked me the same. It just seems pointless.
 
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