Wife thought i was smaller

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  1. crazylazy2us

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    Had a big moment with my wife two nights ago,

    my wife of 5 years (dating 11), and I had a conversation of size which left me with mixed feelings. We dated since high school and i was her first and only partner. So her only real experience with penis has been me, and some porn we have watched together. We have a good sex life, and all throughout she has always said i am big, and she loves my size etc. (she liked to boost my ego), and she even would vaguely and jokingly tell her friends about me being big. So, suddenly we happen to be on a conversation about size, and I ask her how long she things i am (we have never talked inches before). She responded, "5 inches.....i dont know...maybe six?" (she said 6 after seeing my facial expressions). But she really thought 5. My heart just dropped, I was kind of stunned. I said "so, you think i'm small?" And she answered "no, that is normal, you are really thick and i'm happy etc. (trying to be nice). I didn't tell her my length right then, and i acted as though i have never measured (but my obsession with lpsg has caused me to measure many times over the years, she has know clue about). So i told her "well, measure me tonight" (when the kids are asleep). She had like a "you dont have to"/"dont be dissapointed" look, but just said okay.

    So we put the kids to bed, and as soon as she was did, she came over with the measuring tape. She was all business. She helped me get hard, and measured. She saw it hit 7 inches and she remeasured to make sure and got red and just smiled and said "wow, no wonder why you rock my world!" I will always remember this line. I could see her thoughts running through her head, she just started oral, and we had some of the most awesome sex we have had.

    We talked about it after, she said she just thought i was average, but she didn't care much. She said she just thought average(a bit skewed) was plenty big. I don't really see myself as big, just on the bigger side of average (lpsg reminds me all the time), but now she thinks i am just big. She just said she is just luckier than she thought.


    well, this whole situation left me with mixed emotions. I am happy she has a more accurate view of my penis, and she has been more playful these last couple days. But it left me thinking about why she saw it as small.

    My thoughts were that she saw penis looked average because of my overall frame, which i'm 6'2 230 pounds, not super fit, but not too overweight. I have big hands and feet. She is 5'10 or 5'11, i forget, and she is what you consider a tall woman. She is pretty fit, but tall, and she has big hands for a girl, just due to her frame. I always have felt rather small, but my inches were always at 7 from my teenage years, which i think is why i originally came across this site, my feeling of small. I came at peace with it, thinking it is just me overthinking or what not, and all the porn i watch are from smaller frame guys with even longer penises, so proportion they just look so huge. I kind of thought it was just me, so the feeling of small are coming back a bit, but along with the feeling of my wife being satisfied and proud of my length....so it's an odd feeling.

    I was wondering if anyone has encountered similar feeling or situation?
     
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    Well I can do some input from another woman's perspective... don't be too offended by this, if you were her first then she probably has really never had much of an idea about what cock size is 'average' and what isn't...

    The first guy I ever slept with was tiny, but I had no clue as to whether or not that was normal. Then my second boyfriend was probably only average too, but I thought he was actually big lol compared to my first bf. So...really perception is all about what you've seen/experienced and what you haven't...

    And I honestly have no idea in terms of inches or whatever is average or not cos I've never measured a cock and I've never asked a guy what measurement he is haha. So I only know if it's big or small or average or whatever...just by looking at it or feeling it haha.

    Anyway..dunno if that helped or not but I tried explaining anyway lol.
     
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    My Gran always used to say to marry a woman with small hands.

    It makes your cock look bigger.

    Because she is tall for a woman, she may have a complex that people will think she has a big vagina. By being satisfied by what she thinks of as average or even a bit smaller, she may be reinforcing her wish that she isn't big. Tell her she's snug and tight for you.

    I had a GF who was adamant that no one she knew, knew my size. It was almost obsessive, clothes, swimming trunks etc were censored. Eventually i got her to explain and she simply said "Everyone will think I have a huge cunt."

    I dumped her because she had a huge cunt.

    :biggrin1: Only joking.

    She had no tits.
     
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    bahahaaha. that's hilarious :laughing: lol
     
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    remember women r not gifted in measurement ! it's not common that they can predict length, maybe coz they care more about their weight!
     
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    Thank you, not offended at all. I think you hit it dead with it really being just the individuals perception and experiences being the driving force.

    You actually got me to think a bit more about her past experiences, i remember she said she would play truth or dare type stuff with her neighbors, that she seen flashed penis, not hard. I am a grower, so my she may have been comparing in that context.

    I was kind of thrown off by how long we have been together and how off she was on the measurement....got me to think of how women, who aren't as closely intimate as a guy with his own penis, just have difficulty guessing sizes in inches. I've seen amature vids on here with women being off on estimates, but not someone you've been with for 11 years! (i'm only 26 too).

    Thank you so much for your insight!
     
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    She definatly has issues with her being tall, she always felt like a giraffe through her school days, she admitted to me she found most attractive because of my height....

    you're observation is very interesting and deep, very plausible. And you are hilarious! thanks!
     
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    Well, I still have no idea what an average sized penis weighs... ;p
     
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    lol, nice comeback. I like the cut of your jib!
     
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    haha thanks ;p
     
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    Sure if she has only seen one or two penises in real life she is going to consider that size as "average". This is a notable exception to the generally held belief that women always overestimate the size of their partner's cocks. Many do for sure, but I think there are many who are quite accurate and no doubt a few who do underestimate.
     
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    A nice, warm story during this holiday season.
     
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    she knows exactly how big your cock is. she just has difficulty putting a number on it.
     
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    i mean their own weight, not penis weight :biggrin1:
     
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    Thats the fault of the men who have been telling then that 6 inches is 10.5678 inches their wholes lives
     
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    Nice story! What seems most obvious is that your wife loves you. She loves your cock and what you do with it and doesn't care if it's big or small compared to others. So, the conclusion is that you're a lucky guy!
    (with a big cock):smile:
     
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    I would be disappointed to learn that my wife incorrectly thought I was small, too. But remember, people are really bad at estimating penis size visually. LPSG has to have taught you that. How many threads have we seen where everyone's saying, "Fuck, you're so huge, that has to be 9 inches" and then someone else goes, "No way, it's only 4.5" and in reality he's a perfectly average 5.5 but no one believes it, including himself. But ultimately, now your wife knows her husband has a big dick, so I think you're right to forgive her innocent underestimation, which she never seemed to hold against you anyway, and go on with giving it to her like you always have.
     
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    Thank you, she is very loving, and my size is a bigger deal to me than to her, she just knows she enjoys our sex.

    Thanks all for perspective
     
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    I was slightly self-conscious about this a couple years ago. I'm 6'7 so I thought that it looks small compared to my frame regardless what size it is. Also dating taller women I thought it wouldn't look as large in their hands as it would with an averaged sized woman
     
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    How big is your Dick if you don't mind me asking, you look well above average considering your height, very thick, seeing how big your frame is, I wonder what your measurements are, I look very similar to you, but you look bigger.
     
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