It's a fetish that some guys who think their size is inadequate, get off on. Typically they have very little sexual confidense with women and suffer from a low sense of worth. One theory is that their sense of sexual inadequacy makes them feel very threatened by women's attraction to larger men and that this triggers an excitement and an instinctive compulsion to mate with women, so as to protect against the threat of another man's sperm. Due to the hightened arousal triggered by this sense of threat, it quickly becomes addictive and replaces all other fantasies. They come to places like this asking to be humiliated, like hungry ghosts. Thankfully, no one ever indulges them. It's quite sad to see how they abuse themselves and live with such shame. They need therapy.
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It's a fetish that some guys who think their size is inadequate, get off on. Typically they have very little sexual confidense with women and suffer from a low sense of worth. One theory is that their sense of sexual inadequacy makes them feel very threatened by women's attraction to larger men and that this triggers an excitement and an instinctive compulsion to mate with women, so as to protect against the threat of another man's sperm. Due to the hightened arousal triggered by this sense of threat, it quickly becomes addictive and replaces all other fantasies. They come to places like this asking to be humiliated, like hungry ghosts. Thankfully, no one ever indulges them. It's quite sad to see how they abuse themselves and live with such shame. They need therapy.
HiddenLacey
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Thanks Bbucko and Incocknito and gunnaknow for the information. I'm not a guy and I don't have a penis so I find SPH weird. But whatever. I don't understand wanting someone to put you down. That sounds alittle like some of what happens during baby play to me... which is just as stomach turning to me. But to each their own!
Alot of them probabaly also suffered from a trauma during adolescense, such as humiliation about their size, in the locker room at school. Those into humiliation baby play probabably had a trauma during infancy that they keep feeling the need to relive, either consciously or subconsiously. Anyone with these kind of traumas needs to stop seeking a solution in humiliation fetishes and get therapy. Sexual gratification will just numb the pain temporarily, not heal the root problem.
The OP needs to ask his wife what would make her happy if he doesn't already know (and it seems as if a big one is NOT one of those things). Women (and men) often fantasize about stuff that they would hate if they actually went through with it.
Pressuring your partner into anything to make YOU happy is a sure way to mess up your relationship.
By the way, submissivegirl, what is baby play? Foreplay?
Pressuring your partner into anything to make YOU happy is a sure way to mess up your relationship.
By the way, submissivegirl, what is baby play? Foreplay?
HiddenLacey
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Ewww no no no. It's just what it sounds like. One person's the parent and one person's the BABY... and I don't mean like "who's your daddy and wearing skirts and pigtails" it can go as far as scat involvement... wiping butt etc. It's the most disgusting thing I've ever discovered besides necrophilia.
Grown men role playing as babies, typically wearing diapers and seeking approval from a woman acting as mummy or nanny. It sounds very funny but there is usually something very sad or traumatic about their past.
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I know 5 AB's and all say they had a crap relationship with their mother,none had cuddles and acceptance from her.All are guys and the mother wanted daughters.All the AB's i know are female AB's and all have cutesie names and wear frilly dresses,frilly knickers and pink nappies and pins.
I have been to a fully functioning nursery and it is a truly amazing sight.I felt like Alice in Wonderland after drinking the potion as the cots,high chairs are so big,i felt so little.
None i have to say pooped in their nappies,infact only one urinated in the nappy.They used chocolate sauce to simulate the poop.
HiddenLacey
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:biggrin1: Let me rephrase this as well... IF I were I guy I still think I would find SPH strange!!!
People read my name and automatically think it mean's I'm a BDSM freak. I should have used something different
listen to their advice bro. bringing in another man won't help your relationship. you're trying to be selfless but may in turn be acting foolish and naive. marriage is between TWO people, keep it that way ... three's a crowd.
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Pardon, did i miss something? Is my attitude about NOT bringing in another man into your bedroom something that prohibits me from being a member at lpsg? Is there something wrong with my viewpoint from a female perspective that having no self esteem about your sexuality could turn against you and make your wife have less respect for you also?
I believe my perspective on this actually uses logic, psychology and the female way of thinking which is not something that should eliminate me from being at lpsg.
If you want to know why i am here, I found lpsg from googling urinary tract infections and large penis. I stayed because my experience could help others and i've met a lot of great people.
So what seems to be the problem?
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I've Bulled and the women really get off on their fantasies. Just a fantasy fuck...
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My friend wanted his wife to fuck another man, it took a couple years but she was at a bar one night, got drunk and did some dirty dancing with a black guy, they made out on the dance floor she stuck her hand down the guys pants, the guy was huge. She started stroking his dick right on the dance floor her guy friends watched everything going on lol. She went to the back with the guy and they made out more he put his fingers down her pants and started fingering her pussy, anyways they ended up going out back of the bar, and they fucked he had her up against the wall fucking her. She loved the feel of different cock so much, she knew her guy friends saw what she had done, she fuck them both two, so this wife went from the idea of fucking a guy, to fucking three different guys in one night. The next morning she told her husband all about it and he fucked her too. From then on when ever she goes out, she either fucks her guy friend or a random.
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I totally understand why guys find this hot and also, why most women won't do this. I have tried a couple of times to do a 3-way, but was unsuccessful. I was emotionally attached to either the woman, or the man. While the sex aspect seemed hot, the idea of my partner, who I had very strong feelings for, having sex with someone else bothered me immensely. I couldn't go through with it.
If you love and respect your wife, don't do it. It could ruin your marriage. Just my opinion, though.
If you love and respect your wife, don't do it. It could ruin your marriage. Just my opinion, though.
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Well, I suppose we've seen a few hundred variations of this situation/question in either this section or the "Ask a Woman" section. Isn't it about time to get some sort of finality on the issue? Let's try.
First of all (as I've said MANY times before), this isn't for everyone. I think a few weeks ago I estimated that there were fewer than one in ten couples that could engage in a MFM or MFF sexual encounter without real problems. Let's face it; the sight of your sexual partner not only having sex but ENJOYING sex with someone else would be extremely disconcerting to most people. However, if the estimates that I've read on the number of swingers in this country is anywhere close to the truth, then maybe the number that I should have used is closer to one in twenty.
Still, that means that there are millions of men and women who do engage in this; especially in an "open" setting which means that these folks are actually watching their partners having sex with someone else. So, it seems safe to say that SOMEONE likes it.
It seems to me that it's easier to reduce the question to its simplest level. That is; the ability for the man and woman to separate the EMOTIONAL from the PHYSICAL when it comes to sex. For those couples who can't, this will be the ultimate showstopper when it comes to polygamous sex. That being said, this means NOTHING as to whether it's "right" or "wrong". And, this means that there's no reason for anyone to get judgmental toward anyone who has one viewpoint or the other.
I find it a bit odd that, on this website, a website that could be expected to be a bit "out there" on sexual issues, there are a lot of folks who appear to be eager to render judgment on something that they deem to be outside of their own moral boundary. So, in this situation, we see the frequent use of words like "cuck" or "cuckold" to describe the guy and words even worse to describe the woman. (On the last point, I've always wondered: what is the description of a woman whose husband is having sex with another woman in a MFF or swinging relationship? Is she a "cuckoldess" or a "cuckess"? I mean, as I pointed out above, there are quite a few swingers in this country. Are ALL these male swingers "cucks" and what does that make their wives/girlfriends? Does anyone see some incongruity here? I certainly do.
So, to ALL of you guys who have wondered or maybe fantasized about seeing your wife/girlfriend with another guy (more endowed or not) I will go out on a limb and offer a few pearls of my own wisdom that I've gained over the past year of a MFM relationship.
(1) First of all, BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR; YOU JUST MAY GET IT. The sight of your wife/girlfriend having sex with another guy (and enjoying it) may not be as erotic as you think it might.
(2) For some people, fantasies should remain just that. In your relationship, are BOTH of you able to separate the emotional from the physical?
(3) Is your partner totally on board? If you've tried to convince her but her answer is still a firm "no", then it isn't likely that it's going to change.
(4) Hitting your partner "cold" with the subject is likely going to result in a "no". You're a lot better off with some subtle hints, such as some tasteful porn videos showing some MFM action. If this is repulsive to her, then you'd better just forget it.
So, if you and your wife/girlfriend can have a "meeting of the minds" and you (and she) are going to press forward, then go for it and don't worry about some of the negative comments that you've seen here. There's no difference between you and the people who decide that this activity is not for them. After all, we're all "consenting adults" here, AREN'T WE????:biggrin1:
First of all (as I've said MANY times before), this isn't for everyone. I think a few weeks ago I estimated that there were fewer than one in ten couples that could engage in a MFM or MFF sexual encounter without real problems. Let's face it; the sight of your sexual partner not only having sex but ENJOYING sex with someone else would be extremely disconcerting to most people. However, if the estimates that I've read on the number of swingers in this country is anywhere close to the truth, then maybe the number that I should have used is closer to one in twenty.
Still, that means that there are millions of men and women who do engage in this; especially in an "open" setting which means that these folks are actually watching their partners having sex with someone else. So, it seems safe to say that SOMEONE likes it.
It seems to me that it's easier to reduce the question to its simplest level. That is; the ability for the man and woman to separate the EMOTIONAL from the PHYSICAL when it comes to sex. For those couples who can't, this will be the ultimate showstopper when it comes to polygamous sex. That being said, this means NOTHING as to whether it's "right" or "wrong". And, this means that there's no reason for anyone to get judgmental toward anyone who has one viewpoint or the other.
I find it a bit odd that, on this website, a website that could be expected to be a bit "out there" on sexual issues, there are a lot of folks who appear to be eager to render judgment on something that they deem to be outside of their own moral boundary. So, in this situation, we see the frequent use of words like "cuck" or "cuckold" to describe the guy and words even worse to describe the woman. (On the last point, I've always wondered: what is the description of a woman whose husband is having sex with another woman in a MFF or swinging relationship? Is she a "cuckoldess" or a "cuckess"?
I mean, as I pointed out above, there are quite a few swingers in this country. Are ALL these male swingers "cucks" and what does that make their wives/girlfriends? Does anyone see some incongruity here? I certainly do.So, to ALL of you guys who have wondered or maybe fantasized about seeing your wife/girlfriend with another guy (more endowed or not) I will go out on a limb and offer a few pearls of my own wisdom that I've gained over the past year of a MFM relationship.
(1) First of all, BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR; YOU JUST MAY GET IT. The sight of your wife/girlfriend having sex with another guy (and enjoying it) may not be as erotic as you think it might.
(2) For some people, fantasies should remain just that. In your relationship, are BOTH of you able to separate the emotional from the physical?
(3) Is your partner totally on board? If you've tried to convince her but her answer is still a firm "no", then it isn't likely that it's going to change.
(4) Hitting your partner "cold" with the subject is likely going to result in a "no". You're a lot better off with some subtle hints, such as some tasteful porn videos showing some MFM action. If this is repulsive to her, then you'd better just forget it.
So, if you and your wife/girlfriend can have a "meeting of the minds" and you (and she) are going to press forward, then go for it and don't worry about some of the negative comments that you've seen here. There's no difference between you and the people who decide that this activity is not for them. After all, we're all "consenting adults" here, AREN'T WE????:biggrin1:
