Wife Wanting To Have Sex With A Well Hung Man

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you better get busy or you will lose her for sure. women typically don't peak sexually until their forties. this will only get worse if you don't find a solution soon. i suggest helping her experiment and have fun with it. if she leaves you it was going to happen anyhow.
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I think once she has a big member in her to stimulate all those areas that you cannot she will never be satisfied with your average penis even if you had sex with her all the time. You better get to work growing and in the meantime you better get her some daily orgasms. Sorry to be so frank, but if she hasn't already had another man she is sending you a clear message. She is saying that even when you do have sex she is not stimulated enough and probably has to fake it to keep from hurting your feelings. I hope you can work this out.

I can sympathize because i haven't had sex with my wife since we been married. It will be two years november. Once she got me under contract she cut me off. My wife has your sex drive. But since she wont give it up for me i don't try anymore. She doesn't get it when she wants it either. lol. I would trade mine for yours but i'm not that hung. If your wife is mentally going through what I am then she is always thinking of leaving. If you love her you better become her man whore.

Count your lucky stars. Adjust your medications. Schedule sex daily. Get toys and use your hands and mouth if your dick isn't functioning well every day. Many of these guys on here are gonna gladly come to your house and let you watch them have sex with your hot wife. It may even turn you on having one of these porn stars do your wife. Once they were done though your sex life would truly be over, and hers just begun. She would have no more use for you.
 

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Sounds either physiological or psychological to me. I'd see a doc first then ask about therapy.

But you have to face facts, a low sex drive and a high sex drive will not mesh, no matter how much love is involved. Somebody's going to sacrifice, and who knows how long that can last.

And so she has sex with a larger guy. Now what?

Friend, take care of things on your side of the fence first, and do it quickly. Once she sees you're serious about these matters she should be quite supportive.

Good luck.
 

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Thanks for your help guys, I was confused and I couldn't think straight but I took your advice, went to see a doctor along with her. Also working with a sex therapist to work on our sex life. I still haven't said no to her but I hope after I do everything you guys told, she would just forget about it. Its not that I don't love her or cherish her but I want to bond with her at an emotional level. I mean I cook for her, get her all the stuff she wants. We usually go for vacation twice or thrice a year but I guess all these things matter less when she is sexually dissatisfied. And I would love to have sex with her all the time but I'm always busy with work. I'm actually a biomedical engineer so 90% of my work is research intensive and at the end of the day, which is in my case is between 6 - 9 pm, I just want to go home and relax rather than asking my wife to blow me or watch a dirty movie. I just hope she understands my situation and forget about this stuff...
 

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All those things you mention mean nothing in the end.

9 out of 10 women out there will not 'just forget about this stuff'. Being desired sexually is a big part of a woman's self esteem.

Consider yourself lucky that she is still hanging in there. Maybe its the bulge in your wallet that is keeping her around.

You had better change your priorities a little, or you are going to be alone.
 

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I just hope she understands my situation and forget about this stuff...

Well that last sentence blew it for me. It seems you are not interested in woking this all out. You just want her to accept the status quo and long term that's not going to happen. Wake up and smell the coffee before it's too late.
 

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None of this sounds good in any manner.As has been said before, you yourself need to start out with an M.D.. Your libido level is unusually low. There are numerous things that can adversely affect libido including a handful of prescription and over-the-counter medications. You really do need to get this thoroughly evaluated by a medical professional. In addition, the next factor is marital counseling. Fantasies are just that. If a partner wants to stray from a committed relationship to explore fantasies especially at a time when numerous health considerations and STD's are out there lurking like a "mine-field", it indicates a deep seated dissatisfaction with what she has so far experienced.The next factor that concerns me most with regards to your own future is the use of any device that would artificially create a situation where your own penis would be the least desirable alternative. If you were to substitute dildo's. strap-on's, sheaths, or any of the rest, what is the incentive to want to have sex with you? If you do that, you certainly are going to greatly compromise your own enjoyment of an intimate act shared between a married couple. You would only be reinforcing the desire for increased dimensions instead of learning to make use of what you have to the best degree in order to satisfy her.The final thing that also bothers me is that when an individual starts talking "size" especially after a committed relationship, this would be an indicator to me that the individual looking for "larger" has already experienced "larger", compared you to the fellow with larger dimensions and had found that to be far more desirable, and more "important" to her than the organ she married. Now, the next problem for her would be in that situation if it had happened....... The other guy was better in bed.....what do I do now? This has got to be an extremely painful time for you and it has with little doubt shaken you very badly. The questioning of your masculinity would as a normal effect make it very difficult to achieve an erection with your spouse and it would create all kinds of psychological pressure to perform.All of this forces you as a male to try and live up to something that right now seems impossible.I would also take a wild guess that you, as you were growing up, lived in a home were sexual intercourse and relationships were never discussed. Basically, you have had two problems. The first has been the frequency of your desire, and the second is quite probably your lack of knowledge on the subject of intercourse, and a probable situation where you were able to ejaculate, but rarely if ever in your marriage brought your wife to orgasm. Sorry pal, it may hurt a little, but my impression from what you have said for some reason says that this may not really be your fault. There are such things as sex therapists, and this may be another avenue for you to at least investigate. This is a marriage that is already in deep trouble. Both you and your wife are hurting in different ways.After what has been experienced here by both of you it is going to take an absolutely heroic effort on both your parts to save this marriage. I really hope that you are able to do so and wish you the best of luck at trying.