Wife Wants To Do Past Lover. She misses His Size!

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I don't think we're being particularly judgemental, he asked for our opinions and we're giving those based on the information he gave us. She married him and to me that implies an acceptance of his size, if she couldn't accept it the time to say she was going to want a bigger cock was before they got married. I know some people who are married have other partners and it works for them, but for many people it doesn't. Often it isn't their choice, they will go along with it because they feel their only chance to make their marriage work is by letting their partner have what they want. When it's a mutual considered choice that both partners want and they make it work that's fantastic for them, but I've known so many couples who had an open marriage or were swingers and not one of the couples were together three years later. For a lot of people entering into swinging/cuckoldery doesn't make their partnership stronger, it's a symptom that their marriage is in trouble.
 

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Spoiled Princess - I know where HotMILF is coming from.

In our scene it is 80% strong inspiring healthy long term relationships. The three couples we are closest to in terms of friendship are all over 15 years together. One gorgeous couple we drink with sometimes is celbrating their 40th year together next week.

I have been at this particular club for 5 years, and I have yet to see a long term couple break up.

There is a ton of judgement and misunderstanding of swinging. I am going to write a post about it someday.

Many people assume poor relationship, unequal desire to be there, sleazy, abusive etc, when in fact the majority of the "scene" is anything but that.

Open Marriages, or cheating partners are far different to consentual threesomes or moresomes within a marriage.

Some people enjoy all the other lovely things about marriage and commitment , without the sexual monogamy. To most in the scene it is not a priority, or for some, even a desire at all.

It is not for all, but it can and does work for many many people. You would be very surprised how many long term couples add other people into their bedroom.

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Here's the issue. I think the mere fact that she brought it up, means that it already technically happened. She obviously fantasizes about it and makes it a positive part of her thought process.

If she's going to cheat on him, it's going to happen, whether he approves or not. Correct?

If he is absolutely shocked by the idea, it's now forever in both their memories, adding discomfort to the marriage you say would be discomforted by him ALLOW-ing her to do it.

I figure if it's out in the open already, and he's relatively intrigued by it, then let it happen, and let whatever's going to happen afterwards happen. There's obviously no stopping a rift in the marriage now.

If he enjoys it, then what the fuck do you all care? They both get their jollies, and the wife may be even more amazed by her husband's willingness to spice up their sex life and keep her happy.

I say, make it happen, then see what she says about bringing another woman in the bedroom one day. Like I said before, if she flies the coop, then you know this was never meant to be in the first place, and you wipe out her bank account.
 

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Who the fuck...and I seriously mean who the fuck...would ever tell a husband that he is small and want to fuck a past partner? I'm sorry, this smells really bad to me. Even calling you by a nickname as if the size of a cock defines you. Fuck that...DO YOU HEAR ME...FUUUUUUUCK THATTTT.

You can have fantastic mind blowing sex with whatever equipment. If she can't get off to you...maybe it is her head and not yours.

I have a feeling you have married down sir and she is destroying your sense of worth. When she goes back to her big cocked stud...which I doubt he wants her...maybe she should stay.

I agree with this... First, I don't think that she respects you; she shouldn't be calling you those demaining names. On the contrary, she should tell you positive things.... I can feel you love her, but for what you wrote down, I don't think she does... sorry...
If my wife would tell me that, we would get into a lot of trouble... at the end of the day is your call. My advise, think about your relationship as a whole, are you 100% sure that this "incident" will spice your relationship instead of turn it down?? and how sure are you about her feelings?
 

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Thats true, however we all go into swinging or inviting others into our bedrooms with some misgivings.....no one knows if it is right for them untill they talk it out, take baby steps and comuunicate fully.

It may be not for you at all. I doubt anyone contemplates swinging within their relationship with no misgivings at all.

I am certainly NOT saying he should do this, I was kind of hijacking the thread a little with my spin on swinging - sorry :)

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WH you and hotmilf made a success of it, not all of us can be so mature when it comes to sex, I know if any guy I was with told me he wanted to fuck other women he'd find himself eating his own bollocks :)
 

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I'd love to see my wife fuck another guy, especially, if I was fucking that dudes wife at the same time.

HOWEVER, this is just intuition, it sounds like she already went and slept with him at least once recently.
 

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I would not consider it cheating if I know about it and agree that it is ok. It's not like she would be there every day. Also she was never in love with him, they were just f-buddies. She just feels comfortabloe with him as a starter instead of someone we don't know. I have met him several times when we first got together. I was invited to a party with him and just the guys on a night out. We have not seen him in 5 or 6 years.

I think she wants to have a little more fun in the bedroom. We have a solid relationship and have always told each other the truth. If she was going to leave me over a cock, then it would have already happened.

I'm just concerned with how it will be the next morning. Will we look at each other differently? Will life go on the same???

i dont think you should go for it simply because if she does it once she would wanna do it again... then where would you stand... it is very risky to deal also with an ex-boyfriend because they might still have past unsettled emotions. and this might spice up their relationship even though she said they were just f-buddies do you know that for a fact?... really do a little investigating... if so just look for a swinger couple.... you should not be left out....have fun...so there you would be sharing the same emotions....
 

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I would love to see my wife get fucked by a guy with a massive cock, and tell her regularly. Of cource when I come thinking about it, I'm glad it never really happened. It's scarry, I'd worry after her feeling so full, that I wouldn't be able to satisfy her like the giant cock did. good luck
 

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I don't think any good will come from this arrangement, and why does she need an 11" cock? can she take it all in? have you done any PE?? I know this forum is a large penis forum, those that gott'em and those that want them, or want their's bigger. most doctors agree that PE will add at least an inch to length and girth, some will gain more. personally, if I was you, I would do PE, get my cock to 5 1/2" long. girth seems to come easier than length, at least for me. so make that sucker the fattest 5 1/2 cock you can. womens say they like length and girth, but girth is more important than length for orgasm reasons. if you are 6'6", 260 lbs, and 4 1/2" long, you got short changed, but i think you can improve on that. I'm 6'6", 205 lbs, 7.25"L x 6.25" G. In my teens i was 5.75 long, never checked girth, early 20's I was 6.75"L, still never checked girth. although, girls were shocked to find a fat cock on a skinny guy. I started doing some "clamping" at age 34, wife was pregnant, and I was masterbating late in her pregnancy. when we got back to regular sex she said I thought I looked longer, but wasn't sure because I was visibly thicker. so one night she sucks me hard and measures, right under 7" and 6.25" girth. that was 20 yrs ago, and now I'm 7.25" x 6.25 (still). my point is I think you can add some to your size, and your wife can help with some good long blowjobs and some PE.
 

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THis is really my first post, but I feel I should post on this. She will lose respect for you if you let this happen and it is down hill for you from there.
That's perhaps true for you, but not for everyone.

Who the fuck...and I seriously mean who the fuck...would ever tell a husband that he is small and want to fuck a past partner? .

i completly agree with u.... don't let her give u some fuked up nickname
CUBE and hans, you don't understand a single sentence in the OP. This is called "SPH" (small penis humiliation) and it's a fetish enjoyed by a surprising number of men. He enjoys it. I don't understand it, personally, but it's out there.

I'm guessing that what the OP really wanted was for a few posts to humiliate him, not support him.
 

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Sounds completely like a recipe for disaster and most couples I know go through a bit of a rough road around the 7 year mark (AKA 7 year itch).

I would say no and be very careful of how things pan out if you do say no.
 

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I originally posted that this was a big mistake and questioned the whole set up of this scene and his wife's motives. there have been a few posts saying that this and other posts critical of this are judgemental and out of line. While I agree with your right to disagree and respect your observations of similar situations, I do disagree that we are being judgemental. He asked for our opinions...and that is what he is getting..based on what he posted. Is my opinion/suggestion right or wrong? I don't know. It is my opinion based on the information given. and I might add that...in my opinion...if a man has to ask what he should do in a situation like this of what are really strangers to him...well then he has doubts about it. all the more reason not to do it.
 

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Ok, I guess (WE) should say thanks. My wife and I have read over most of the postings together. For the ones that have insisted she has already done this, it just is not so!

We are truthful to each other. My wife would allow me to do another womanif I wished. That's not the issue, i'm happy with what I get from my wife. My wife is happy also, but wants to go to the next level.

The ex-bed buddy just feels safe to her. She has said it can be another guy if I wish. She wants to include me in to this. This is not a cheating venture on her part.

As far as my cock size and nickname, it's ok. I have a small penis and I have accepted it for some time before her. When I married my wife, I promised to give her the best and make her happy. I think many marriages break up because many stay in what they call the norm. I see most of the men on here are the ones who hate this idea and I can respect that.

I guess I want to hear from people who have done this or know others who have. Yes there is maybe a little doubt, but more information being seeked on my part.
 

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I think before you embark on this you really need to talk at length about every aspect of it and what your rules will be. Once it's done there's no going back and you should be sure your marriage can handle it and also that neither of you will 1- run off with someone else 2 - be overcome with jealousy
 

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I had a girlfriend give me as a present for her lesbian girlfriend on their birthday, it was fun but she was very jelous even though it was her idea, she was afraid her girlfriend would try and steal me away from her, she didn`t realize that her girlfriend would like it as much as she did, considering the fact that her girlfriend hated men. Her girlfriend became totaly mesmerized by my cock, she wanted to fuck me and suck me more than her. We didn`t stay together long after that, she started drinking heavily and became abusive.


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p.s. This is a true story, so do yourself a favor and think twice about it.
 

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Not only no but hell no. You deserve the best too and that's a mate that you don't share with anyone. I see you 6'6 and 260. Loose a bit of wieght like 40-45lbs and start a little PE and in a few months you should see a nice improvement. I would go this route first before the other if you decide on it.