"....school whose friends called him 'moby 'dick' and that he was hung nearly to his knees. this guy dated another acquaintance of hers. She was told by his ex-girlfriend that "girl, he would split you in two!" To me, this implies that she said that she would like to try him, or someone his size to provoke that sort of response....."
It 'implies'??? Dude you have been with your wife for 14 years, and you are still second guessing her? You should have a frank discussion with her to find out what SHE actually wants and feels..
".... Big cock #2-Finally about six months ago, while having sex, I asked her if she had ever been fucked by a big cock (as I have on several occasions, always answered with a "no") . To my surprise, this time she answered with a low, whispered, "yesssss". When I pressed for details, she got increasingly angry. I wanted to know who it was and she was reluctant to share details, the reason being is that she told me while we were sharing about our pasts that she had hooked up with this guy but not slept with him. I had caught her "omission" and I admit that I was hurt by it. I think she was embarrassed to tell me at that early stage in our relationship simply because he was hung. It didn't hurt me that he was hung. It hurt me that she hid the encounter from me. I cant begrudge her for any of it-it happend before I knew her. Admittedly now this is a huge turn on for me."
I wanted to know.
I was hurt by it.
It's a huge turn on for me..
I
I...
What about 'she' or heaven forbid, 'we'??
"Now, since all of this has come out, I have explained that if it would be pleasurable for her that she should find a well hung lover on the side. She has seen and experienced bigger. As long as the relationship is physical and safe, I have no problem with it. Her pleasure is extremely important to me. I would also like to have an MMF or MMFF with her. She likes when I mention the idea of doing a DP. Sometimes she says she doesn't think bringing someone into our bed is smart, but other times (when aroused) she is all for it. I really want it to happen."
... YOU have explained to your wife how it would be pleasurable for HER??? Are you serious?
You are actually going to tell another person what THEY should do to feel pleasure...?
Can you not see that this entire piece is all about YOU and YOUR needs? You are trying to push/cajole/coerce your wife into something she is obviously not totally comfortable doing.. Sometimes you do that for long enough and people will go along with it just to please their partner (and maybe to shut them up) and that NEVER works.. You cannot make someone be what YOU WANT them to be..
Can't you tell from her defensive nature about these questions, that she may not want to move in that direction?
What we say in the heat of passion, and fantasies we have, are often completely different to what we actually want to happen in the real world..
Listen to your wife, man.. She says she doesn't think it is a smart move, but I guess you don't want to hear that do you, because that's not the answer you're looking for?
Are you just going to keep at her until you get her to do what you want, regardless of how she feels inside about it?
"In closing-I am not a cuckold waiting to happen, I do not want to be dominated in any way and do not consider my self small or weak. I really am ok with my size. I AM, however, fascinated by watching my wife respond physically to a huge cock. I love my wife and am committed in the extreme to giving her the ultimate sexual experience, whatever that may be for her."
I, I, I, I, I....
Why don't you have a real discussion with your wife about this, rather than trying to gain snippets of information during the heat of passion (or when she's drunk) which steers this whole thing on the course YOU want it to take? You're choosing to ignore the things she says which don't comply with your fantasy ['She doesn't think it would be a smart move'], and desperately grab onto anything she says which may.
TALK to her and find out what you want, together...
It 'implies'??? Dude you have been with your wife for 14 years, and you are still second guessing her? You should have a frank discussion with her to find out what SHE actually wants and feels..
".... Big cock #2-Finally about six months ago, while having sex, I asked her if she had ever been fucked by a big cock (as I have on several occasions, always answered with a "no") . To my surprise, this time she answered with a low, whispered, "yesssss". When I pressed for details, she got increasingly angry. I wanted to know who it was and she was reluctant to share details, the reason being is that she told me while we were sharing about our pasts that she had hooked up with this guy but not slept with him. I had caught her "omission" and I admit that I was hurt by it. I think she was embarrassed to tell me at that early stage in our relationship simply because he was hung. It didn't hurt me that he was hung. It hurt me that she hid the encounter from me. I cant begrudge her for any of it-it happend before I knew her. Admittedly now this is a huge turn on for me."
I wanted to know.
I was hurt by it.
It's a huge turn on for me..
I
I...
What about 'she' or heaven forbid, 'we'??
"Now, since all of this has come out, I have explained that if it would be pleasurable for her that she should find a well hung lover on the side. She has seen and experienced bigger. As long as the relationship is physical and safe, I have no problem with it. Her pleasure is extremely important to me. I would also like to have an MMF or MMFF with her. She likes when I mention the idea of doing a DP. Sometimes she says she doesn't think bringing someone into our bed is smart, but other times (when aroused) she is all for it. I really want it to happen."
... YOU have explained to your wife how it would be pleasurable for HER??? Are you serious?
You are actually going to tell another person what THEY should do to feel pleasure...?
Can you not see that this entire piece is all about YOU and YOUR needs? You are trying to push/cajole/coerce your wife into something she is obviously not totally comfortable doing.. Sometimes you do that for long enough and people will go along with it just to please their partner (and maybe to shut them up) and that NEVER works.. You cannot make someone be what YOU WANT them to be..
Can't you tell from her defensive nature about these questions, that she may not want to move in that direction?
What we say in the heat of passion, and fantasies we have, are often completely different to what we actually want to happen in the real world..
Listen to your wife, man.. She says she doesn't think it is a smart move, but I guess you don't want to hear that do you, because that's not the answer you're looking for?
Are you just going to keep at her until you get her to do what you want, regardless of how she feels inside about it?
"In closing-I am not a cuckold waiting to happen, I do not want to be dominated in any way and do not consider my self small or weak. I really am ok with my size. I AM, however, fascinated by watching my wife respond physically to a huge cock. I love my wife and am committed in the extreme to giving her the ultimate sexual experience, whatever that may be for her."
I, I, I, I, I....
Why don't you have a real discussion with your wife about this, rather than trying to gain snippets of information during the heat of passion (or when she's drunk) which steers this whole thing on the course YOU want it to take? You're choosing to ignore the things she says which don't comply with your fantasy ['She doesn't think it would be a smart move'], and desperately grab onto anything she says which may.
TALK to her and find out what you want, together...
