hello. okay. for a few months now, it's been clear to my wife that a friend who was recently married wants to get with her. actually, he's been talking nasty to her before i even met her, so she thinks it's just steam being blown. however, the other night at a party, she was in a room with him and he suggested to her that we all go home together. at the same time, his wife was trying to flirt with me on the floor below. this has happened before at parties, where they made a comment to one or both of us, but my wife is rigidly against it. me... not so much. take into acount that i'm bi and have never been with another guy, and the fact that i'm actually excited about having a foursome or swapping or something. i'm freaky, i suppose. my wife... not so much. my wife said to me in a haze of pot smoke that the only way she would ever engage with more than just me is if she was attracted to the girl or guy... and both of these two are not her type, but the wife is my type, and i mean, while i wouldn't go out of my way to see this dude's piece, i wouldn't argue against it, either. this sucks. ths isn't the first time i had a talk about this with my wife. and the fact that she said she'd have to be attracted to the girl makes me all wiggly inside. because i know my wife's had crushes on girls before. but, she's also very jealous. if she saw me with another girl, she'd flip out. she gets pissed about me keeping in contact ,over the internet, with girls i knew back home (mostly platonic, thier choices, not mine of course.)... so i don't know where this is going. plus my wife has issues with her body because she's overwieght. that is easy to fix, i tell her, and we've both gone on a diet starting a week ago. what gets me is that she doesn't se how much wieght she's lost from when we started dating (i assume 50 pounds or more.) and she wasn't that big to begin with. so, maybe i can get her feeling confident enough to be adventurous? i don't know... she sounds to me like she 1/4 wants to.. but i think something is holding her back. me, i'm not without my confidence issues... but i think in being with someone i love for 3 years has given me a sexual confidence that i'd be able to take my clothes of in front of someone else now. i guess i'm a bit exhibitionist. i wish my wife was. lil' help?