Will Housecleaning Get Your Man More Action?

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  1. Nekoman

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    I've noticed that when I take out the garbage without being asked....

    Vacuum and sweep a lot of floors....

    Clean the bathroom from top to bottom...

    Do TONS of dishes...

    My wife is WAY more apt to be in the amorous mood.

    Ladies, does it turn you on -- sexually -- when your man cleans the house?????
     
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    Yes, absolutely yes! It arouses me in a couple of ways: first, to come home to a clean house gives me a lot more free time - free time I can use for sex; second, a man looks so sexy doing housework. It makes me all warm and tingly inside and loved.
     
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    You think guys know about this? Do we have to get the word out more?
     
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    I agree with Lafemme about opening up free time. It's wonderful to not have to take care of everything all by myself all the time. I'm not going to say I think a man scrubbing a toilet is sexy, because for me it really isn't. However, it is sexy to know he took care of it so I didn't have to.
     
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    sounds a bit like women using sex as a tool to get men to do what they want
     
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    I disagree with you unless the woman is withholding sex specifically for that reason. If she is that's her decision.

    Personally I appreciate a considerate partner more. Someone who doesn't leave all of the chores for me to do while he gets free time. I'm more likely to feel amorous if I didn't just work all day then come home and take care of household/ outdoor chores alone. We all need time to relax and unwind.
     
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    Ah, yes. So horrible and manipulative to ask a guy to do some housework once in a while. Did it ever occur to you that cleaning poo stains from under the rim of the toilet bowl isn't exactly an aphrodisiac?
     
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    there should be a division fo labour with household chorse yea, it does seem some women use sex.
    i cant remember but i read some book, by a women surprisingly, about how evil and manipulative women are- although are conditioned to do so by society. I'm not saying it's true, i'm just putting it out there
     
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    For some reason "calgon take me away," just popped into my mind:tongue:

    Well I'm not saying some women are not like that, but so are some men. There are bad and good apples. :smile:
     
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    :rolleyes: Pitbull in a sexy little French maid's outfit.... :33:
    ....with a feather duster...
    ...bending over...
    ....if it would get me laid?

    Yes. I would

    But I don't think so. :nono:

    I'm guessing the reactions would either be utter horror :eek22:
    or total uncontrollable laughter.:lmao:

    or simply :wtf:
     
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    That's the difference between men and women thinking. The man would be attracted by WATCHING the woman clean in the sexy outfit. The woman would be attracted by her man being so CONSIDERATE as to want to help with the dirty chores.
     
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    I've worked as a cook, so I usually end up doing the cooking. I'm also a neat freak, so I'll sweep the floors, mop, do laundry, etc. The reason I'm up for more frequent sex when a boyfriend helps out with the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. is that I have more energy and time to think about fucking. Working from home, most men think I just have all this free time since I'm home all day. Uh, no, I'm WORKING from home, not watching Oprah all day.

    Honestly, I'm looking for a man right now, just so I can have someone to share the housework with...and someone to reach that spot in the middle of my back I can't ever seem to reach in the shower.
     
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    If you aren't saying it's true, then why are you "putting it out there"?

    According to all statistics, when both the man and the woman work the same number of hours, she still does the vast majority of the housework. I don't see how that makes women "evil" and "manipulative" at all.

    From the article, "Women typically do about 7 times more housework and childcare than their husbands do even when they both have full-time jobs."
     
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    it's not necessarily true, i'm just saying there is literature out there that supports the idea.
    It doesn't, using sex to get your way does though
     
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    Actually I really liked most of that article. Then I read the comments, some of which were great and some were just really pessimistic.

    The comment that got me the most was the one about masturbation and the commenter saying, did he actually want to have sex with his wife or just have an orgasm. I would have never thought of it that way.
     
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    I read her comment and I really thought that she was being close minded and selfish. She acted like she just opposed him masturbating in front of her and that he needs to hide it from her, like she thinks it's gross and imposes on her somehow for him to touch himself in front of her. I was actually sort of offended by her attitude. Maybe it's because I masturbate in bed next to TheBF sometimes when he's asleep and hoping that maybe he'll wake up... I'd be really hurt if he acted like I was doing something wrong or like I should wait until he wasn't around for that.

    Taken out of context from the rest of her comment, I do agree with there being a difference between just wanting an orgasm and wanting sex with your spouse. There's an emotional connection there that you can't get giving yourself an orgasm alone. I do think that you might be able to get some of that by masturbating in bed with your spouse, as long as your spouse is engaged and not lying next to you judging you like you're disgusting and rude for masturbating.

    Something I've been struggling with myself since my stomach has been expanding is feeling wanted and desired, and I think that not feeling that from your mate can make you feel a little bit lonely in a way. He will have sex with me almost anytime I ask him to, just as long as it doesn't interfere with work or he's not too exhausted for it, but getting him to give me an orgasm isn't the real issue there. I want him to want me, and it's hard for me to believe that he does, especially since he was losing his erection during sex when I was showing a lot less than I am now. It doesn't help that I just keep looking more and more hippo-like than the day before, and I strongly suspect that I lost my sex appeal a few months ago. It's a bad feeling and it goes away whenever I feel like he still lusts after my ass because then I feel like he wants me, not just that he's there to give me another orgasm.
     
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    I'm going to ignore the cowardly way that you're attempting not to take responsibility for calling women manipulative and evil by pretending that you're just informing us that a book exists that says that, in order to address the second part of your post.

    You think it's perfectly okay for a woman to do 7 times as much housework as her mate who works as many hours as she does, but if she gets pissed off at the inequality and doesn't want to fuck him, then THAT is "evil" and "manipulative"?

    You feel so entitled to receive sex from your mate that you don't feel like she ever has any right to ever not feel like fucking you. Interesting.
     
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