Will Housecleaning Get Your Man More Action?

[someone1]

I'm going to ignore the cowardly way that you're attempting not to take responsibility for calling women manipulative and evil by pretending that you're just informing us that a book exists that says that, in order to address the second part of your post.

You think it's perfectly okay for a woman to do 7 times as much housework as her mate who works as many hours as she does, but if she gets pissed off at the inequality and doesn't want to fuck him, then THAT is "evil" and "manipulative"?

You feel so entitled to receive sex from your mate that you don't feel like she ever has any right to ever not feel like fucking you. Interesting.

okay this is totally unwarranted aggresion.
personally i dont think women in general are but certain women are like that.
i also think that housework should definatly be shared, i was brought up in a single parent household so i had to most of it my whole life anyway.
all i think is that sex shouldn't be used as some kind of treat for doing something

 

[HiddenLacey]

I read her comment and I really thought that she was being close minded and selfish. She acted like she just opposed him masturbating in front of her and that he needs to hide it from her, like she thinks it's gross and imposes on her somehow for him to touch himself in front of her. I was actually sort of offended by her attitude. Maybe it's because I masturbate in bed next to TheBF sometimes when he's asleep and hoping that maybe he'll wake up... I'd be really hurt if he acted like I was doing something wrong or like I should wait until he wasn't around for that.

Taken out of context from the rest of her comment, I do agree with there being a difference between just wanting an orgasm and wanting sex with your spouse. There's an emotional connection there that you can't get giving yourself an orgasm alone. I do think that you might be able to simulate some of that by masturbating in bed with your spouse, as long as your spouse is engaged and not lying next to you judging you like you're disgusting and rude for masturbating.

Something I've been struggling with myself since my stomach has been expanding is feeling wanted and desired, and I think that not feeling that from your mate can make you feel a little bit lonely in a way. He will have sex with me almost anytime I ask him to, just as long as it doesn't interfere with work or he's not too exhausted for it, but getting him to give me an orgasm isn't the real issue there. I want him to want me, and it's hard for me to believe that he does, especially since he was losing his erection during sex when I was showing a lot less than I am now. It doesn't help that I look more and more hippo-like than the day before, and I strongly suspect that I lost my sex appeal a few months ago. It's a bad feeling and it goes away whenever I feel like he still lusts after my ass because then I feel like he wants me, not just that he's there to give me another orgasm.

I'm going to be perfectly honest, I would much rather my partner wake me up than lay in bed beside me masturbating while I'm sleeping. I've never been pregnant so I can't begin to understand your hormones right now. Hopefully if I ever am, I can take the same attitude that I've begun to adopt since becoming a member here. Either the man wants me and loves me or he can hit the road.

 

[Empathizer]

okay this is totally unwarranted aggresion.
personally i dont think women in general are but certain women are like that.
i also think that housework should definatly be shared, i was brought up in a single parent household so i had to most of it my whole life anyway.
all i think is that sex shouldn't be used as some kind of treat for doing something

The thing is, you STILL don't get that housework isn't a woman's responsibility for being born with a vagina. And, even more troublingly, you seem to think that it's horrible of a wife/female partner to EVER deny sex when a man demands it. It's men like you who think marital rape is hysterically funny when there are no pussy-creatures around to spoil your boy-fun. It is NOT the God-given right of a man to get pussy and a clean house when he demands it. Live with it or continue to get "unwarranted" hostility for your attitude.

I don't care how you were raised, or by whom. You are still acting like a sexist pig.

Housework is the job of whoever wants what cleaning the house gets them.

If a woman chooses to use the fact that a man wants pussy and that she has the legal and moral right to deny pussy until whatever needs she can think of are met, then it is TOTALLY her right to fuck a guy only when those needs are met. It is not her JOB to spread for some guy just because he deigns to bestow upon her his righteous, all-knowing, all-seeing cock!

 

[petite]

I'm going to be perfectly honest, I would much rather my partner wake me up than lay in bed beside me masturbating while I'm sleeping. I've never been pregnant so I can't begin to understand your hormones right now. Hopefully if I ever am, I can take the same attitude that I've begun to adopt since becoming a member here. Either the man wants me and loves me or he can hit the road.

It's a temporary situation, and a whole new range of feelings to deal with that I've never felt before (and that I don't like!) It's really hard to complain when he's such a generous lover, though. It's not like my needs aren't met. Seriously, if I asked him if he would lick me right now, I think there's always a 75% chance that he'll say yes as long as he isn't on his way to work, so I have little to complain about. I think he's a sexy motherfucker (ha!) and I miss how he used to drool over me, too, but I think most of his emotions for me right now are of the sweet gentle dad-to-be type. I'm hoping he'll be full of fire and passion for me again after the baby is born. I can't blame him for not finding the baby bump sexy when I don't think it is either. I wouldn't look at me and think, "God, I want to fuck her!" :redface:

Unfortunately he could sleep through the bombing of Dresden, so he's never woken up when I've masturbated next to him. I still have this fantasy that I start masturbating in the middle of the night and he rolls over and fucks me, but that's never happened. I'm usually having that fantasy while I'm masturbating in bed while he snores. What I sometimes do (if I don't feel too guilty about waking him up) is I'll start playing with him when he's asleep and he gets an erection and starts moaning and I know that he's awake and then I just straddle him. He's never complained. :tongue:

 

[helgaleena]

Short answer: YES!

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[HiddenLacey]

It's a temporary situation, and a whole new range of feelings to deal with that I've never felt before (and that I don't like!) It's really hard to complain when he's such a generous lover, though. It's not like my needs aren't met. Seriously, if I asked him if he would lick me right now, I think there's always a 75% chance that he'll say yes as long as he isn't on his way to work, so I have little to complain about. I just think he's a sexy motherfucker (ha!) and I miss how he used to drool over me, too, but I think most of his emotions for me right now are of the sweet gentle dad-to-be type. I'm hoping he'll be full of fire and passion for me again after the baby is born. I can't blame him for not finding the baby bump sexy when I don't think it is either. I wouldn't look at me and think, "God, I want to fuck her!" :redface:

Unfortunately he could sleep through the bombing of Dresden, so he's never woken up when I've masturbated next to him. I still have this fantasy that I start masturbating in the middle of the night and he rolls over and just fucks me, but that's never happened. I'm usually having that fantasy while I'm masturbating in bed while he snores. What I sometimes do (if I don't feel too guilty about waking him up) is I'll start playing with him when he's asleep and he gets an erection and starts moaning and I know that he's awake and then I just straddle him. He's never complained. :tongue:

LMAO, he sleeps I do. I understand what you are saying better now. You want to be wanted again for the hot sexy woman you are, not the hot sexy momma you are at the moment :tongue: But no matter what your relantionship is going to change with the little beaner to take care of. Doesn't mean you still can't be the hot sexy woman AND the hot sexy momma! Anyway I've drifted off topic. I still enjoyed the article. Thanks for sharing it.

 

[Nekoman]

For me, it's not about gender roles, it's more about doing what makes my wife happy. For her, and for a lot of women, I think it's just about trying to do the little things that make her life easier. When she sees that i care about her feelings, she's much more receptive to amorous overtures. As the saying goes: Happy Wife, Happy Life

 

[someone1]

The thing is, you STILL don't get that housework isn't a woman's responsibility for being born with a vagina. And, even more troublingly, you seem to think that it's horrible of a wife/female partner to EVER deny sex when a man demands it. It's men like you who think marital rape is hysterically funny when there are no pussy-creatures around to spoil your boy-fun. It is NOT the God-given right of a man to get pussy and a clean house when he demands it. Live with it or continue to get "unwarranted" hostility for your attitude.

I don't care how you were raised, or by whom. You are still acting like a sexist pig.

Housework is the job of whoever wants what cleaning the house gets them.

If a woman chooses to use the fact that a man wants pussy and that she has the legal and moral right to deny pussy until whatever needs she can think of are met, then it is TOTALLY her right to fuck a guy only when those needs are met. It is not her JOB to spread for some guy just because he deigns to bestow upon her his righteous, all-knowing, all-seeing cock!

okay it would appaer everything i said has been taken completely wrong.
so i will put it in as simple a way as possible;
Gender/sex does not determine how much housework someone should do.
i was trying to make the point that it should have nothing to do with whether you fuck or not, since you should just get on with housework anyway- anyone who argues over it is petty.
Also that i dont think anyone should use sex to try and condition their guy to do something and i dont believe most women do that, however i have read literature that argues women do anyway- because part of my studies involves sexuality, i have to read a lot of stuff about this sort of thing.

i ll reframe from posting in future since it doesn't matter what i write it will just be disregarded anyway

 

[helgaleena]

okay it would appaer everything i said has been taken completely wrong.


i ll reframe from posting in future since it doesn't matter what i write it will just be disregarded anyway

If you re-frame your posting in better English you will not get responses that seem to miss your point.

You claim you were in agreement with the same points that others made who were objecting to how you put things. 'Nuff said.

 

[hsarge]

I take out the trash, vacuum, and practice my 'Yes Dear' s until they even sound sincere. NO luck!

 

[Shawn8]

Just stopped by to say that putting a more than a little (and regular) effort into helping out around the house returns a never ending source of benefits. A clean house being the least of them to be sure. :wink:

S8

 

[helgaleena]

I love to polish things too! Nothing like watching the oil soak into that wood until it shines :drool:

 

[nudeyorker]

On a side note I have done most of my housekeeping myself most of my adult life because I refused to pay someone to do something that I can do myself only better. I found a great housekeeper recently who does a superior job and it leaves much more time for the dirty hula.

 

[Pitbull]

I love to polish things too! Nothing like watching the oil soak into that wood until it shines :drool:

Nothing like oiling up a woody. :tongue:

 

[PrincessBlueEyez]

Personally I appreciate a considerate partner more. Someone who doesn't leave all of the chores for me to do while he gets free time. I'm more likely to feel amorous if I didn't just work all day then come home and take care of household/ outdoor chores alone. We all need time to relax and unwind.

That's the difference between men and women thinking. The man would be attracted by WATCHING the woman clean in the sexy outfit. The woman would be attracted by her man being so CONSIDERATE as to want to help with the dirty chores.

exactly, nothing about the actual cleaning turns me on, but its great when a guy wants to help out with the small stuff around the house.

 

[Nekoman]

exactly, nothing about the actual cleaning turns me on, but its great when a guy wants to help out with the small stuff around the house.

I'm just amazed that more guys just don't get this about women, but I guess that's why they say men are so clueless.... thinking with the wrong head.

 

[PrincessBlueEyez]

I'm just amazed that more guys just don't get this about women, but I guess that's why they say men are so clueless.... thinking with the wrong head.

lol well fortunately there are a few smart guys around

 

[D_Barbi_Dahl]

Two words - HELL YES!

 

[irox19]

I definitely agree that it is so much more about the consideration, dedication, and feeling of partnership that is a turn on.

I have to say though I am pretty turned on when I see men picking up after themselves...or wiping counters and putting shit back where it belongs. I have noticed it many times.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Ladies, does it turn you on -- sexually -- when your man cleans the house?????

No - couldn't give a fuck.

I'd rather he grabbed me and fuck in a messy house than use his energies picking up first. We can clean together after the post fuck nap.

...or maybe after fucking again.

...or maybe we'll hire a maid.