[*]Why or Why not?
at 23, my wife clearly wanted to have a baby.
In considering the idea... it was immediately apparent to me that no man who claims to love a woman could ethically deny his wife that basic biological yearning.
So I became a father
[*]Have you always known/felt that you would or wouldn't?
I really did not have an interest either way.... as a taoist... when my wife turned up pregnant... I just figured that that must mean its time to become a father.
[*]For those who will have or already have children, do/did you have a drive to procreate or is/was it social/religious or just the thing to do?
Its odd... up until the birth, no... I am a guy... it don't work that way... But when they were born there was some kind of switch thrown... I remember the first time I held my son my sense of smell became supernaturally intense...
TO this day I can identify my sons, their clothing, their cars, their things, by their individual scents.
It changes you... as I looked into my sons eyes minutes after his delivery... I thought to myself, " wow, if life is very good to me, this little person must witness my death just as I witnessed their birth"....
[*]Have your attitudes about biological children changed over the years? If yes, why?
I think I became far more aware of the real structure of human society and its propagation.
I know people who are very "green" and have avoided having children out their concern for the "earth"...
But when they make such ridiculous statements I just tell them they are full of it... that its just a stupid self aggrandizing rationalization for being self centered and not growing up.
There simply is no valid arguement to explain how educated affluent and environmentally aware adults NOT rasing similarly inclined children "helps" the earth in any way.
That leaves just the oblivious jackasses making babies... and how much do you think THAT generation will care about clean air and water?
The folks who say they donlt want kids cause they are too selfish are at least being honest about the reason.
And BTW, its a perfectly good reason not to have kids...
What I learned from parenthood is this...
You owe your entire existence to the existence of others... both those who came before you and whose sacrifices resulted in your very birth... and to the host of your contemporaries who help divvy up the task of making this while human society run to your benefit... enhancing your survival , enabling your quality of life.
no man is an island... you are a member of a social community and you derive benefit from that community.
And as such, you OWE your community, not only honorable conduct and right livelihood...
More importantly, if you are capable of raising decent children, you owe your community continued existence in the form of the NEXT generation of worthwhile human beings.
You owe your community to provide it with new members who are well balanced, well educated and capable of shouldering the task of community, themselves.