Regardless of which gender you are there are problems to be faced, expectations to be lived up to (or not) and so on.
You are looking at this from only one side. I know where you are coming from vis a vis the 'man up to things' expectations and I understand your counter arguments to dolfette there. But look at it a different way for a minute. A woman is expected to attract a mate (but not too many - got to get it right in the first few, wouldn't want to be a slut, now), get married (fairly quickly, "don't get left on the shelf!"), have children (fairly quickly, "isn't your biological clock ticking yet, dear?"), make a home, maintain that home, not loose that man to a more attractive and/or younger woman, be the main emotional support for her partner and children and care for other relatives physically and emotionally as the need arises, all while having a career and maintaining her looks and figure - in an environment where women do still generally earn less than men for the same work. If she fucks up and the man leaves she still gets all the workload of the family, if the man fucks up and leaves she still gets all the workload of the family, if the man fucks up and she kicks him out she still gets all the workload of the family and she's a 'bitch', if she fucks up and she leaves she is a fucking pariah. If she decides to try doing the family thing and let the career go, for a while or forever, she's a freeloading bitch - whether the relationship stays together or not. If she decides to do the career thing and leave the family thing to one side, for a while or forever, she's failing as a woman in the eyes of many. If she tries to be both carer and provider she often will get stretched so thin that she does both badly and is seen as a failure.
Men have it tough, women have it tough = people have it tough.
But then - life is beautiful, and love is a gift, and if a person can look up from the fucking gutter and away from the bullshit for five minutes he or she can see that and learn to rejoice in whatever he or she has. No one can meet all the expectations - everybody fails at something or other in the eyes of someone or other. So what - it is part of the human condition. I'd rather be lying in the gutter staring at the stars than up on a pedestal looking down into the mud.