Wish I had kept quiet

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I cannot imagine a scenario where I would tell my husband anything about previous lovers' penis sizes. In fact, I don't think I would mention their anatomy at all except to mention they were a shithead, asshole or some other physical/mental deformity. They may even have been a prick, but I won't mention the size of the prick they were. I may have said enormous prick before, but that was hyperbole and not at all physical.
 

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No..He never will. Imagine him saying his ex gf had a much tighter pussy,bigger tights or nicer ass??
 

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Hmmm...maybe he just wants to hear you talk about sex. If he is a confident man, it would not matter to him if your ex was bigger. I would love my wife to discuss her past sexual experiences with me. Not because I really care about those individual experiences, but because I would love to hear her talk about sex in any way (something she never does...sigh). Examine whether or not he might want more "sex talk" in general from you...that may be all it is.
 

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I personally think being completely open and honest is the best policy. If you loose your lover because of openness and honesty, I wonder if it won't be worse in the end?

Most of us demand total disclosure in business deals that, IMO, are far less important than a lifetime relationship.

I hope someone can see the similarities and logic in this.

I personally try to answer any question from my wife about anything with complete candor, be it sex, business, vacation planing, whatever.

Women seem to have issues doing the same, especially about sex. Men would probably be the same if they had been sexually oppressed for so many years.

Just my humble opinion, thanks for listening (reading).
 

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This is an over-generalization.

Thanks for the observation. It was a poor attempt to justify, I guess. My real point was the ambiguity of our standards for disclosure or I suppose I sould probably have used divulgence : to make known (as a confidence or secret), It has proved useful in other areas of our lives so why doesn't it make sense in the most of our relationships, with our SO. This is just my opinion and possibly question as to why so much mystery/dishonesty that can destroy a long term relationship and leave them suffering when it could have been avoided with honest and open communication.
 

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A woman I was once dating told me that her ex- had a very large penis. We had just finished having sex, and I didn't really care because she had chosen to be with me and not him.

For me, what's in the past is in the past. You can't control the past. You can't undo it. So why worry about it.

Plus, as I said, she was with me, not him. And that was a big ego boost.
 

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Thanks for the observation. It was a poor attempt to justify, I guess. My real point was the ambiguity of our standards for disclosure or I suppose I sould probably have used divulgence : to make known (as a confidence or secret), It has proved useful in other areas of our lives so why doesn't it make sense in the most of our relationships, with our SO. This is just my opinion and possibly question as to why so much mystery/dishonesty that can destroy a long term relationship and leave them suffering when it could have been avoided with honest and open communication.
You can only really apply it, with certainty, to YOUR relationship.
 

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Like others have said, what exactly was the context in which you were praising your ex bf to your current husband?

Even if it were factual that his cock was bigger, there's still not a good reason that I can think of to actually say it. :confused:
 

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It soes seem like an "ex" that was well-endowed keeps getting "bigger and bigger" over time. I think that the OP needs to spend more time working with her current lover to teach him to be a great fuck. The simple fact is that most guys are good for a few minutes of actual intercourse and that is all...
 

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Agree with the majority vote here.......


I agree, I can't think of any time that I would tell my wife that some ex was better, or prettier, or smarter or any other attribute physical or non unless I had some crazy intention of trying to hurt her. So I'm a tad dubious about OPs intentions about telling her current SO about her ex and his member whatever size it was. As my computer tells me all the time: Does not compute.