I personally think being completely open and honest is the best policy. If you loose your lover because of openness and honesty, I wonder if it won't be worse in the end?
Most of us demand total disclosure in business deals that, IMO, are far less important than a lifetime relationship.
I hope someone can see the similarities and logic in this.
I personally try to answer any question from my wife about anything with complete candor, be it sex, business, vacation planing, whatever.
Women seem to have issues doing the same, especially about sex. Men would probably be the same if they had been sexually oppressed for so many years.
Just my humble opinion, thanks for listening (reading).
I have to agree with everything you've said here.Thanks for the observation. It was a poor attempt to justify, I guess. My real point was the ambiguity of our standards for disclosure or I suppose I sould probably have used divulgence : to make known (as a confidence or secret), It has proved useful in other areas of our lives so why doesn't it make sense in the most of our relationships, with our SO. This is just my opinion and possibly question as to why so much mystery/dishonesty that can destroy a long term relationship and leave them suffering when it could have been avoided with honest and open communication.
So what's your excuse, Captain Obvious?having a big dick does not make up for being a big dick.
Like others have said, what exactly was the context in which you were praising your ex bf to your current husband?
Even if it were factual that his cock was bigger, there's still not a good reason that I can think of to actually say it.
I agree, I can't think of any time that I would tell my wife that some ex was better, or prettier, or smarter or any other attribute physical or non unless I had some crazy intention of trying to hurt her. So I'm a tad dubious about OPs intentions about telling her current SO about her ex and his member whatever size it was. As my computer tells me all the time: Does not compute.
I have to agree with everything you've said here.
Being absolutely 100% honest and open about EVERYTHING in a relationship is the ONLY way to keep it together for the long haul. My wife and I have been absolutely honest with each other about every one of our past partners, and although at times it is a bit awkward, it does give me a comfortable feeling knowing that she loves me enough to answer ANY question I ask, and doesn't hold back stuff for fear of "hurting me".
Dishonesty, in ANY form breeds dishonesty.
The funny thing I see here is that some people in this thread are equating penis size as being directly proportional to worthiness as a man, when we all know that's absolutely not true.
I agree, I can't think of any time that I would tell my wife that some ex was better, or prettier, or smarter or any other attribute physical or non unless I had some crazy intention of trying to hurt her. So I'm a tad dubious about OPs intentions about telling her current SO about her ex and his member whatever size it was. As my computer tells me all the time: Does not compute.
Case closed. You sound like a women that any man would be lucky to have. Hope you are having a great weekend.It was a mistake which i much regret and was seriously looking for some advice about dealing with my mistake. When it happened he had been pressing me for information about whether my ex. was much bigger than him. I did my best to waffle about it but being a poor liar I got myself into a tangle and simply said "I could feel the end so I suppose he was a little bigger". Not being a woman of the world sexually I had no idea of the significance of "feeling the end" but he did so it brought even more questions. In the end out of exasperation i told the truth - my ex. was much bigger.
Since my original post my husband and I have had a long serious chat about the whole subject. Instead of waffling I have answered all his questions and he has promised to never bring up the subject again and I believe he won't. As i said before we are very happy. I believe he is genuinely not bothered by my revelations but he was frustrated by my difficulty in being honest with him about what much bigger actually meant but we've got over that now.
Thanks to those who offered advice earlier. Some of it was useful.
I don't think that it is a question of "better, prettier or smarter" but the total package. I have yet to compare two people that wouldn't fit it that mold, pros and cons. We use that daily to choose wives, friends, collaborators, etc. etc.
Thanks for your patience with my stubbornness. Even that, for some folks, would be a quality for others the opposite. Should I hide it?
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can I use this as my signature?? Even tho I am on the hunt for a big experience... I find this true in many cases :biggrin1:
So what's your excuse, Captain Obvious?
:You_Rock_Emoticon:having a big dick does not make up for being a big dick.
Don't need one... no woman has ever accused me of being a big dick.