Woman Confronts Flasher on NY Subway

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  1. wofg

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    A lot of people have already seen this video by now on YouTube, but I just want to get your guys' opinions.

    A woman on the train caught a man behind her pressing his cock against her with a condom on. Then she freaks out and confronts him and starts yelling at him in front of everyone. You can see the frozen look on the flasher's face and it's priceless.

    Here's the video:
    "Then I see his penis out!"

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    Woman Confronts Flasher on NY Train

    What do you think? Could she have handled this situation better? I would love to hear an exhibitionist's opinion on this. Do you sympathize/empathize with the flasher?

    I'm in college and I'm currently taking Human Sexuality during the summer. We went through an entire chapter on sexual behaviors and fantasy. If you ask me, there's a fine line between fetish and paraphilia. I can understand why exhibitionism, or flashing, can be exciting and add an interesting aspect to your sex life. But I think paraphilia is almost like a drug that you can get addicted to. Once you start, you want more of it and more frequently. You start going bigger and riskier. This is when it gets out of hand and people don't have complete CONTROL over their behavior and lead to dangerous acts.

    According to the woman on the video, the man was definitely arrested that same night, then deported back to his country.

    "My plans are done for tonight, I'm escorting you to the police station, ok? Oh yes. Oh FUCKING YES! I know what I saw!"

    "This shit's going on YouTube..."

    I think it's great how she stood up for herself. I think she was more compelled to yell because they were both stuck in a group of people in a subway and he wasn't going anywhere. I know exhibitionism can be fun, although I've never done it myself, but it's important to put yourself in the victim's shoes as well.
     
  2. D_Tallie_Wacker

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    Pressing your dick against someone without their permission isn't being an exhibitionist.

    It's committing a Sexual Battery.
     
  3. lilBigdave

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    i have a little bit of an exhibitionist in me, but its in only certain situations. like a locker room or a group shower. a public train isn't the right place. and pressing your sex organ against someone without permission is just wrong. im a bit of an exhibitionist and i dont feel bad for this guy.
     
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    also, how did he manage to put a condom on his erect penis in this crowded environment! lol
     
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    What an idiot. When I do it on a crowded subway, I rub up against her ass with my pants on so she can just feel my boner, but can't see/prove anything :)
     
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    If I was a woman and you did that to me, I'd punch you with my car keys.
     
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    unfortunately, it happens a lot. during rush hour here in nyc those trains are packed tight. i've felt a boner or two press into me and have had a guy grab my butt.
     
  8. dolfette

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    indeed.
    she did not consent.
    that's assault. plain and simple.
     
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    Disturbing behavior, to say the least. Damn. Good for her!
     
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    I think she was courageous
     
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    I can tell you that according to U.S. law, you are correct, except that it's battery: A harmful or offensive touching of the plaintiff's person. I'd sue the pants off of him.
     
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    And I'd sue you for provable assault, badabing badaboom.
     
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    You'd lose.
     
  14. dolfette

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    he's a troll. if you engage him the thread will go to pot.
     
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    Dear Doug: Get a job. That is all. <3 Dad.
     
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    Why the condom? He has no problem with rubbing his dick against an unsuspecting woman on the A train, but he is a stickler for safe non-sex. Makes you wonder what goes on in people's minds...
     
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    STILL a DICKHEAD and a TROLL
     
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    Yes, this was not 'flashing'. Flashing is only showing one's unclothed body, and involves no touching. It's worse that the man obviously hoped for contact with a stranger's body that required the condom. Definitely antisocial, whatever land he is from.
     
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    Telling me to get a job when you have a high multiple of the number of posts per day that I have, lol. I am quite successful in my professional life, thank you very much.
     
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    I'm pretty sure this was just a bad joke on your part and I'm not the joke police but a lot of people are abused and harassed on a daily basis with unwanted attention whether it is verbal or physical and I think we should consider the effects our words and these actions have on people.
     
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