ItalianStallion: I have been with the same girl for a long time, about three and a half years. I am only eighteen and we have been together ever sense I was fifteen I love her very much and we are engaged. I know that I am young don't even tell me that. Anyways about the problem, she says that when we met she was depending on her parents, and now she depends on me, (I have a good job I am moved out and living on my own). She says that she has never had time to feel independant and that she wants to feel unattached and feel independant on her own and get herself a good job and such. So she wants to be just friends for a while until she figures everything out. The problem is that I don't feel like anything was wrong and it is like a punishment to me, we have only had sex with each other, and she wants that to stay the way it is. She says that it is ok if we are with other people as long as we don't get in a relationship with another person or have sex with another person. I really don't want to be physical with anyone else. I really don't understand where she is coming from, and I would really like anyone to help me understand a little better. When we are together we still act like a couple, and she seems to be cool with that, she wants to act like a couple with me. She says that we will for sure get back together, and that I am right for her and she wants to marry me and have kids and grow old with me, but she says for a little while that she wants to be on her own unattached because she says she has never been able to feel like that and she says she doesn't want to be forty years old and feel like she missed out. I don't feel like I am missing out on anything, so I really don't get it. She told me not to worry and that if I acted like a man about it then we would get back together sooner, and that by going through this she says that our relationship will be stronger than ever before. She says she has to do this before our relationship can go any farther, so please someone help me understand what I am supposed to do, and what is going on in her head. I have never been so confused in my life.