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I was wondering?? Do women get any pleasure from anal sex? I know it is pleasurable for men. I had a gf who would grab my cock and put it there and then howl like a banshee, but afterwards she didn't want to talk about it and seemed embarrassed. It always puzzled me.
 

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I was wondering?? Do women get any pleasure from anal sex? I know it is pleasurable for men. I had a gf who would grab my cock and put it there and then howl like a banshee, but afterwards she didn't want to talk about it and seemed embarrassed. It always puzzled me.
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:rolleyes: What would there be to talk about anyway:confused:
She got here ass tagged!:tongue::biggrin1:
 

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I have asked my wife that question and her answer is "When it feels good, it feels good." She says that if she is relaxed, she also uses a vibrator on her clit, and lubed up, it can feel good and even a bit sexy but she has never orgasmed strictly from anal sex.
 

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My best description of anal sex and other assplay would be, "Deliciously awful." No matter what is being done, there is always a certain amount of discomfort involved. This can be mild discomfort (from a finger or small butt plug) or major discomfort (my Master's thick cock or a large dildo).

However, when combined with clitoral stimulation, for me, this seeming discomfort can produce mega-strong orgasms. They are even better if we put something in my pussy as well (i.e. a dildo or vibrating bullet).

I used to think that I loved anal sex and all things anal. Recently, I had an epiphany -- what I actually love is submitting to assplay, not assplay itself. It is a major turn-on for me to have a man use me anally; especially if he understands that I am uncomfortable and does it anyway.

Ergo, "deliciously awful" -- the delicious part for me is the submission. The anal sensations themselves, when I truly think about it, are just plain awful. Especially with a huge cock. Doesn't stop us, though. :wink:

But I'm a submissive masochist.

However, I've also heard of plenty of women who aren't into kink per se who get a lot of pleasure from anal sex. So it's not just a submissive/masochistic thing.
 

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it depends on the woman.only a few women i've been with(my current gf included)enjoyed the act.a female friend of mine doesn't like it at all but does it because her man is into it.(you should see her face when he and i talk about anal in pornos that i've loaned him)
starting is kinda rough,but once i get inside i gradually build up the speed and penetration depth(with the right amount of lube)my gf's so nasty with it, that she likes to watch a profile shot of us in the mirror,and likes me to lean back so she can get a better view of the penetration.....lol
 

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One of my good friend's girlfriends claims to just get off like a fiend to anal. He always looks sheepish when she brings this up, so it's probably true. The two girls that I've partaken with have both been re-heally drunk (myself, too) when the deed was done. It would be hard to imagine doing this uninebriated with most girls.
 

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We might not have a prostate but we have lots of nerves up there so some of us do like it. Many women's first experiences of anal puts them off it, you really have to know what you're doing for it to be enjoyable - but some women don't like anal, some don't like oral, we're different :)
 

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My gf seemed to like it, though it seemed to me to cause her pain, which made me not want to do it. But what really bothered me was she wouldn't talk about it afterwards when I asked her if it hurt. Go figure.
 

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first time i tried the guy was too styressed and it hurt me...but my actual bf got a horse like dick but with a lot of lube it;s REALLY hawfully GOOD
 

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My best description of anal sex and other assplay would be, "Deliciously awful." No matter what is being done, there is always a certain amount of discomfort involved. This can be mild discomfort (from a finger or small butt plug) or major discomfort (my Master's thick cock or a large dildo).

However, when combined with clitoral stimulation, for me, this seeming discomfort can produce mega-strong orgasms. They are even better if we put something in my pussy as well (i.e. a dildo or vibrating bullet).

I used to think that I loved anal sex and all things anal. Recently, I had an epiphany -- what I actually love is submitting to assplay, not assplay itself. It is a major turn-on for me to have a man use me anally; especially if he understands that I am uncomfortable and does it anyway.

Ergo, "deliciously awful" -- the delicious part for me is the submission. The anal sensations themselves, when I truly think about it, are just plain awful. Especially with a huge cock. Doesn't stop us, though. :wink:

But I'm a submissive masochist.

However, I've also heard of plenty of women who aren't into kink per se who get a lot of pleasure from anal sex. So it's not just a submissive/masochistic thing.
I completely agree with that. I love it when he gets turned on because he knows that I am uncomfortable. I am dating someone new and he is by far the largest I have ever been with and I am terrified to have anal sex with him. It can be painful to have vaginal sex, and I can't have him in me for more than 5 to 10 minutes before I am too sore.
 

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Hmm I never thought it might be a "submission thing" and not any kind of physical pleasure like a man feels. I still think most women don't enjoy it.
 

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I enjoy it a lot. I used to need a glass or two of wine to relax first, because getting accustomed to it takes time and it can be difficult to relax if you get too mental/analytical about it. Now, however, I have a boyfriend that I'm completely comfortable with and have no problem doing it completely sober. It actually feels good, and I can have orgasms from just anal, but I'm hypersensitive, so I don't know how usual that is. We regularly use a butt plug with regular intercourse, as well . . makes it better for both of us. For me, it's not a submissive thing, I just like it.

That said, I only have a couple of female friends that enjoy it, and many that won't even try.
 

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When I met my wife we had what I consider to be wild, animal sex... all the time, every position imaginable, hours on end... and occasionally when going at it doggie style I would slip a finger in her ass.... nothing was ever mentioned about it, but I "felt" like it turned her on.... over the course of months I would occasionally make a remark about trying anal and she would say "hell no", you're not putting that in my ass...

Well, one day, out of the blue, she said she wanted to try it.... I lubed up quite well and lubed her ass a lot... then from the doggy position I tried... slowly..... many, many minutes passed... very, very slow progression... and I got maybe half way in... she was in noticeable pain..... I asked her if she wanted me to stop and not wanting to disappoint me she let me finish...

I didn't really enjoy it.. It didn't feel that great.. and I felt even worse because she hated it and said "NEVER" again....

Well, after that, I never even brought it up again.... and I stopped even with assplay during sex.... no fingers.. nothing...

That was 2 years ago... Then, over the past couple of months she's manually placed my fingers at her asshole during sex and seemed to like it when I would insert a finger while having sex side-side... Then, last week she nervously admitted to wanting to try anal again...

This time, I started super-slow... we had already been making love vaginally for quite some time and had used a lot of lube so the whole area was already quite slippery... I added more.... to her... to me.. then to her again... I slowly inserted a finger, gradually until it seemed not to bother her... worked it around... then slowly started rubbing the head of my cock around her asshole... let me stress, there was tons of lube.... over the next THIRTY minutes, I tried to get the head of my cock in her asshole... and again, let me say... she wanted this and asked for this, so she was really trying to help make this work.... I eventually got the head and MAYBE one inch of my cock in her ass.... I slowly started pumping.... still, only getting maybe a total of three inches in at the max... I could tell it was really hurting... I pulled out and added even more lube and tried again.... no better... still no more than 2-3 inches.... after 45 min (15min of actually having basically the head of my cock in her ass) she said she couldn't take it anymore... that it was burning like hell....

So I think my anal experience is over now.... 2 times in my life now... at least I can say I tried it... she hates it...
 

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I've done it a few times and liked it but like others have said, it has to be done right...slowly and carefully, at least at first. Not many men have ever wanted to do it and I haven't ever asked...maybe with the right guy. Not sure if my bf's cock would be too big for me to take though.

I definitely have always liked a finger or something like that in my ass, especially during oral sex...it is the best! Not many guys have ever wanted to do that either and it takes me some time getting to know a person before I feel comfortable enough to ask. Sometimes if I want to come quick when I'm masturbating, I just put a butt plug in and it doesn't take long while I'm fingering myself.
 

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I have a question to ask about this. I've never had anal with a man, only toys. I wanted to see why so many people enjoy it. I experience no pain, only pleasure with my 5x3 inch vibrator. However I have a 7x4 inch dildo that I've tried using a few times and all I feel when using it is ungodly pain.

Once when I used it I lost a huge amount of blood. So much the toilet turned dark red - almost black. I nearly fainted too. I had to struggle to stay conscious. It's this way every time I try to use something larger than my 5 inch vibe (so much pain I nearly lose consciousness) no matter how much lube I use.

Is it the case that some men and women are just naturally tighter and unable to take larger sizes?