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As usual, we're all snowflakes.

MrsR and I, when we straight on fuck, usually do it for about 45 minutes until she gets sore. She can muster up an average of about 15-20 orgasms. When we do our "genital snuggling" we go for about 2 to 3 hours taking short bathroom, snack and drink breaks every hour or so. Weekends we can go a lot longer. I hesitate to call it tantra because it's become a catch all phrase to mean sex for an extended amount of time with mysticism involved.

Believe me, there's nothing boring about having my dick rock hard in her for hours at a time, her effortlessly having orgasm after orgasm.

Well, ok, I'm boring (her) while she's the one getting bored (by me).
 

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Hi all, not sure how to ask this to all the lady users of this forum, but here goes. I have a pretty healthy sex life with the missus, we have some very very good sex. I as a man orgasm everytime we have sex, she doesnt. She doesnt orgasm easily, but she has had orgasm's when we have sex, maybe 1 in 3 or 4 times. She never complains, she really enjoys the sex. I give her plenty of foreplay, sometimes 10+ mins of oral and fingers etc etc. My question basically is do women have to orgasm to enjoy sex? Men find it incredibly easy to cum, so we always enjoy sex. I just wanted to get an idea of what women like, or need from a different perspective.

P.s yes i can ask her , but i am only asking to get a broader perspective.

Thanks for your replies in advance :)

I advise you to stop counting orgasms and clock ticks and listen to your wife. She needs to know she's the most important thing in the world to you, to the complete exclusion of everything else. Everything else will follow.

On another note, I, as a man, don't have to orgasm to enjoy sex.
 

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And sub your dead right, cumming is great, but the rest is everybit as good really. Never thought of it that way.. If it was all about cumming it would be over in seconds ! lol

The emotion, the sensations, all are so wonderfull.. Orgasm is not how we should measure a fuck. Do we both have big smiles on our faces afterwards?? Hell Yeah !!!

Glad you liked my take on it :smile:. I feel much the same way.


But you need that guy to unlock the Orgasm Door and if you're smart - marry him! Then all kinds of things become possible.

Please be careful with your wording. Maybe YOU 'needed a guy to unlock the Orgasm Door', but that isn't true for everyone.

Some women may never orgasm during sex. In some of those cases, it will be due to choice.

Some women may never orgasm at all.

Some women will orgasm almost continuously, whatever their partner is doing.

Etc, etc. We are all different. I know I certainly don't 'need a guy to unlock the Orgasm Door' and that is true for many others.


This is a dumb question as i think i know the answer but here goes anyway. Do the majority of women prefer longer sessions? Not including foreplay, but when the guy is inside you, the longer he can keep pumping away the better right? Hard and fast, or slow and steady?

Again, women are all different. Some women very much prefer shorter sessions. Others like it to go for longer.

RL example of this:

An FB of mine (now ex FB) went for a whole lot longer than usual one night. I was awfully happy because he was usually quite fast. Not premature by any means, but nowhere near as long lasting as I like. I couldn't believe it when he actually apologised for lasting too long!!! From this I can only guess that his ex wife had preferred sex to be much, much, much quicker than I liked.

Truly, it depends on the woman.


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Dr. Drew:

  • 50-60% of women will never have an orgasm via intercourse and will require clitoral stimulation to climax.
  • 30% of women will have a reliable orgasm with intercourse.
  • 10% of women will orgasm with intercourse and could possibly have sequential orgasms.
  • 5% of women have true multiple orgasms only through intercourse and these women typically find oral sex uncomfortable."
Interesting. Could you link it by any chance? Do you have any idea where he got his stats from?



I'm just wondering if the oral mentioned in the 5% group is supposed to apply to giving or receiving? I'm also wondering if by 'only through intercourse' he means those women can only orgasm through intercourse or if he means through intercourse with no additional stimulation.


I have multiple orgasms through many methods, but find receiving oral uncomfortable. Wondering if I fit in that 5%.
 
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Interesting. Could you link it by any chance? Do you have any idea where he got his stats from?



I'm just wondering if the oral mentioned in the 5% group is supposed to apply to giving or receiving? I'm also wondering if by 'only through intercourse' he means those women can only orgasm through intercourse or if he means through intercourse with no additional stimulation.


I have multiple orgasms through many methods, but find receiving oral uncomfortable. Wondering if I fit in that 5%.

Here is a link: Yes! Yes! Achieve the elusive orgasm - Relationships - TODAY.com

Sorry, I don't know where he got those figures.

I had one partner who really, really didn't like cunnilingus. She would occasionally allow me a few tentative licks, but she was really hypersensitive and didn't care for any digital clitoral stimulation either. But she was multiorgasmic and I can't recall any occasion where we had intercourse and she didn't orgasm at least once. She was the only woman I have known like that out of around 16 partners or so which represents around 6% FWIW.

I have always been curious about the real percentage of women who experience orgasm with vaginal intercourse alone ever since Shere Hite published "The Hite Report" in 1976. It has been years since I read it, but based on the responses to her survey that she chose to include in her data, she suggested that something like 90% of women never experience orgasm with vaginal intercourse. I could be remembering that figure inaccurately, but she was one of the first to make it widely known that a very sizable percentage of women either never orgasm with vaginal sex, or do so very infrequently.

I think she did a service by making this info widely known, but I have always believed that percentage to be inaccurate and remember thinking at the time that I must have been very fortunate in my choice of partners, or they were very skilled at faking orgasms, or I was very good in bed because my experience was so much different.

Hite selected only a tiny percentage of the responses she received to her survey in her data, however. Furthermore, only 4% of the women given the survey responded to it, and the responses would suggest that those who did were unusually sexually dissatisfied since 98% indicated dissatisfaction with their marriages and 75% admitted to having extra-marital affairs: Shere Hite - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Ever since the Hite Report there have been factoids floating around that an enormous percentage of women never orgasm with vaginal intercourse in the absence of direct clitoral stimulation. I saw one person assert that 98% did not just the other week.
 

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I've honestly only ever had sex with one or two guys where I would orgasm everytime. And quickly too. We just had the most amazing sexual chemistry.

While it is nice reaching orgasm, it is not essential. I love to experience sex just for the intimacy and it feels great if with the right person. And I love making my man cum, I'm satisfied if that happens. I love it :)

I also hate long sex...anything over 15mins is a no-no. I get bored and over it...if it doesn't happen in 15 mins, then let's just stop. Though I know some women love long sex. However, I loooove plenty of foreplay...that can go on for as long as we want :)
 

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Thanks for the replies. I will admit that sex for longer than 10 min is very rare in my case, by sex i mean being inside a woman. Foreplay is always nice, rubbing playing licking and sucking, its very very nice. RTG i dont think ive ever been at it longer than 10 min, i am no pornstar, dont know how they do it. I can cum easily if required but harder to not cum and last longer. I feel bad if i do cum quickly, kinda like i have failed in pleasing my partner. But having read the many posts ( i didnt expect such a response ! thanks guys and girls ) it has made me feel alot better :) NIa i love your reply.. A quickie sometimes, a longer session others.. the spice of life, mixing it up :)

by the way RTG, love your pics ;)
 
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I wouldn't want hour long sex all the time, but on the other hand, only ever having intercourse that lasts 10 minutes or less is kinda a bummer to me too. I'd like some longer sexy times every once in a while :p
 
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Ten minutes is not bad. Some couples do like to go on for an hour or more but I don't think most do. According to this group of sex therapists who were surveyed, a "desirable"
duration of actual intercourse for most couples is on the order of 7-13 minutes: Good Sexual Intercourse Lasts Minutes, Not Hours, Therapists Say.

Shorter can also be better when kids come along and/or both partners are working. If you need marathon sex sessions in that situation you are going to be losing a lot of sleep or very frustrated sexually.

I would guess that 7-13 minutes was probably about right for me and my partners. It seemed more like 10-20 minutes but I never had a stopwatch going and intense experiences always seem to take longer than they really do.

I do know that with rare exceptions, if I hadn't come within 30 min the woman I was with preferred taking a break and going a second round rather than bashing on.
 

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There was a really interesting study I read about not long ago that examined the effect of fluctuating asymmetry of the male body on women's attraction. One of the findings was that men who possessed more symmetrical bodies were more likely to give their female partners an orgasm during intercourse.

Obviously the findings were correlational, but it's an interesting tidbit! :cool:
 
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7 to 13 minutes!?!? I'm just getting warmed up at ten.

I definitely have fucked up priorities... This is the main reason I've never wanted to have kids. Takes too much time away from fucking.

>:D Let's see, and you're in Colorado? Damn!
 

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I have a mate who I first met as a 22yo AFL draft hopeful - he was extremely physically capable of sex but since then he has become a navy diver, has an amazingly powerful body and since exploring sex nice and slow and a lot, has been able to make every girl he has been with cum from fucking and he really tries hard to get them to squirt when they never have before. Perhaps we need to have a more in-depth Q&A time with him - Oh, and I can vouch for the girls he has borrowed my spare bed for :)
 

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Why did you dig up this old thread from 2012? 3 out of 4 women can't have orgasms from penetration alone. And why does it matter where you met him and what he ended up doing for a living? Lies always come with embellishments. It's usually the hallmark sign of a pathological liar. There are plenty of those self-agrandizing, braggadocious liars around here. You'll fit right in.
 
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please for the love of all things good
enough with the squirting
not all women do it
heaps of women don't want to
squirting can and does happen independent of orgasm
it's not proof of orgasm

anyone goal-drilling away at my jenny is gonna get smacked
and go home with blue balls/clit