Women and orgasms

[Wave85]

As said above, I don't understand men's obsession with squirting....and in a way, it scares me too

@C41ara - I don't get it - everyone should just want to have good sex where both partners feel fulfilled - I have never been with anyone who squirted - I don't think there is anything to be scared of - just stay away from guys who are more interested in you squirting than pleasing you. That should be a red flag.

 

[Wave85]

I want to never squirt just to spite men
I've lost count of the number of men I've dated (and on here) who's asked me "can you squirt?". I don't understand what the obsession is with it, I really don't.

I had a boyfriend once who tried multiple times to make me squirt (obviously not my idea). It just was uncomfortable and got too much and when I felt like I needed to pee I was like "nope... we're done".

That sounds awful @rtg - we need to find you some good guys

 

[TexanStar]

From a guy's perspective, I'd say maintain good communication about what feels best for the both of you, but don't start asking questions specifically about squirting (e.g. how can I make you squirt, are you gonna squirt, did you squirt for your past boyfriends, squirt for me baby, etc).

File it all that squirting commentary away in the same mental cabinet where you keep questions about queefs (if they happen, they happen, but if you start asking how you can make it happen it's gonna come across weird).

If a woman is capable of squirting, enjoys it, and knows how to make it happen, I'm sure she'd share that guidance when talking about what feels best.

 

[Mule]

I'm afraid porn has a lot to answer for, although to be honest, the dumbasses that buy into it as a representation of real life are mainly to blame. Now it seems that there are guys that consider squirting to be some kind of badge of honour.

 

[FRE]

It seems to me that a large part of the problem is that too many guys are interested in sex only for the sake of having sex rather than its being part of a relationship.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

There's nothing wrong with having sex for sex sake. The key is finding someone who is on the same page. Whether you want a one night stand or a lifetime of sex with one partner.

 

[MickeyLee]

what Ms. Tattooed said

sex for sex sake is awesome so long as both folks are on the up and up with their intentions
one can't be seeking a partner, the other can't exaggerate their interest
doing the adult requires an adult approach to how you deal with other people