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I have been married for 6 years and have 3 children with my wife. Our latest child was just born three weeks ago. As has been planned for months, I am going to get a vasectomy tomorrow. One of the instructions for the night before is to have sex but I obviously dont expect my wife to have sex before she is ready after the baby. I hadn't even brought up the subject. But my wife read it and said "Yeah there is not much I can do about that one." Which kind of annoyed me. I wanted to say, "Did your mouth have a baby too?" I know that makes me seem like a dick but I think the point has merit. Just recently I had sex with her many times each day to "start labour", none of which worked. But the point is that I really didnt feel like having two-position, awkward 9 month pregnant sex but I did it because I knew she needed me. Now I need her and she is just leaving me on my own. I mean, hoe hard is it to take 15 min to blow your husband? And it's not even cause I'm a bit hard up for one, it's even doctor recommended! Am I being unreasonable?
Either way, I'm off to visit the adult section of this site to take care of this thing myself.
 

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It's not confusing, she is just selfish and she got her end of the deal namely three children and you will provide for them and whatever you do with your penis is your business.

Usually after giving birth, sex is the last thing on their mind because of the hormones or whatever and sometimes they'd rather not have any men around either.

She is obviously in control in the relationship.
I'd question the vasectomy, it's another sacrifice you make for a woman who puts her own needs before yours.


(on another note, she has recently been mangled, butchered and cut up, imploded and exploded to get that baby out, she might just not feel like the sexiest woman on the planet right now?) And I'd say that's your job for making her want it.
 
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i dont recommend getting the vasectomy....i did it 3 years ago and have had nothing but problems, constant pain, left nut feels like it has been kicked 24/7. Also recently discovered that I have low T which if you research it, is the side effect of getting a vasectomy(from possible nerve damage). If I had it to do all over again I would have NEVER gotten it and acutally had second thoughts while getting prepped and should have listened to my instincts....insurance covers getting it done but doesnt cover getting it reversed to correct the feeling of always feeling pressure in your nuts.
 
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Tell you what, when you've just had a kid, let me know how much you feel like sucking a dick. Just reinforces my opinion that some men are inconsiderate assholes. Thanks for proving me right.
 

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Tell you what, when you've just had a kid, let me know how much you feel like sucking a dick. Just reinforces my opinion that some men are inconsiderate assholes. Thanks for proving me right.


Whoa, whoa whoa. Some women don't feel sexual after having a baby just like some men can be inconsiderate.

I don't feel OhCanada expressing his needs is inconsiderate. It's a reasonable request. He wants her to rub his back like he rubbed hers. Well, he's asking more for a pat on the hand--which to me, only makes it sound like he's got his wife's needs in mind too.

I was having lots of sex during pregnancy. Hormones were outta control and I was pretty demanding in the bedroom. After having my kid, my husband despaired about the 6weeks of no sex and the very first night I was out of the hospital, I was begging for anal. I was still constantly horny. Gave him so much head, always grabbing his crotch. We ended up having vaginal sex 3 weeks after birth. I felt like everything was good to go by then. Each woman will recover at their own rate. I had an emergency c-section and I recall being the only woman who walked to the child-care classes in the hospital instead of getting there in a wheelchair.
 

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I don't claim to be an expert on straight relationships. To be honest I'm rather glad that I'll probably never need even consider pregnancy nor a vasectomy.

The first question I'd ask is, who's idea was it to have the vasectomy? Dependant on the type you have, or maybe even not, it is a permanent choice. Is three weeks after the birth really so necessary? If you're concerned about getting pregnant again, couldn't you just use condoms/the pill/etc until a more prudent time?

I certainly don't think you're being unreasonable in asking. You aren't a horrible person for feeling abandoned when you are obviously making a sacrifice for both of you. I don't really know enough about the nature of your relationship, but if it were me I would sit down and discuss my feelings so you both know where you stand.
 

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Just because some women want lots of sex during and after pregnancy doesn't make them the norm. And he's implying that awkward sex with his pregnant wife is just like having a baby then not wanting to suck his dick. Outrageous. I have always been very highly sexed but after the birth of my son i had no interest in it for at least 4 months. I was sore all over, exhausted and people can be as flippant as they want about hormones but they rule our reactions and feeling toward everything after birth. Awkward sex must be such a hardship for him. His life must be pretty good if that's a benchmark in it.
 

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Sorry but you couldn't pay me to get that done, was born to have, will die having it... Next time she asks for it, tell her the same! Although, that may be hard for any guy :biggrin1:
 

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Im pretty disgusted by what I've read so far. If this is how men think I'm pretty worried.

First of all you think your wife is selfish because she doesn't want to have sex, oral sex, or any kind of sex after just having YOUR baby?

To the ignorant assholes who call her selfish have YOU ever spent 9 months in pain, having to pee every 5 seconds, not being able to sleep, riding an emotional roller coaster, and feeling like crap because you have to gain 25+ pounds?

GEE, what a bitch for not wanting to drop to her knees and suck your cock!!

You're a selfish prick and I am so thankful that my ex husband, with all of his flaws was a fucking saint compared to guys like you. If a women doesnt want to have sex of ANY kind after the baby is born thats well within her right to do so. She doesnt' owe you jack shit!!!! Oh wait...she went through 9 months of pregancy, then labor, then delivery and now she's flooded with crazy hormones, post partum pain, inability to sleep because she's taking care of YOUR baby.

I feel sorry for the woman who married you
 

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You aren't a horrible person for feeling abandoned when you are obviously making a sacrifice for both of you. I don't really know enough about the nature of your relationship, but if it were me I would sit down and discuss my feelings so you both know where you stand.


ABANDONED? Do you understand what is being discussed here?? We are talking about her not wanting to drain her husband's fucking balls for him. You get that right?
 

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I know I will catch a lot of flack for this but I have thought this for a long time. It seems after women give birth it's like they expect to be put on a permanent pedestal for life. Yes, we get it: childbirth is painful. People have also been doing it for millions of years so it's not a miracle nor is it anything special. In fact, 4,315,000 babies were born in 2011. So ladies, please, get off the cross as someone else needs it.

As for the OP and his problem: I think what he is concerned about is valid. It's not that his wife will not suck his cock, that's not the root of his concern. What he is really worried about is that now that his wife has given birth she is now in charge of the relationship. She is the end-all-be-all of existance from now on and the whole relationship is now a dictatorship. Seen it happen far too many times.
 

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I know I will catch a lot of flack for this but I have thought this for a long time. It seems after women give birth it's like they expect to be put on a permanent pedestal for life. Yes, we get it: childbirth is painful. People have also been doing it for millions of years so it's not a miracle nor is it anything special. In fact, 4,315,000 babies were born in 2011. So ladies, please, get off the cross as someone else needs it.

As for the OP and his problem: I think what he is concerned about is valid. It's not that his wife will not suck his cock, that's not the root of his concern. What he is really worried about is that now that his wife has given birth she is now in charge of the relationship. She is the end-all-be-all of existance from now on and the whole relationship is now a dictatorship. Seen it happen far too many times.

You, sir are scary. If men really think this..then I don't doubt why women are abused at such alarming rates. This is a very scary and very ignorant view, and honestly it's so insane that I won't even try to argue with it. I pray that you never get married.
 

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I have been married for 6 years and have 3 children with my wife. Our latest child was just born three weeks ago. As has been planned for months, I am going to get a vasectomy tomorrow. One of the instructions for the night before is to have sex but I obviously dont expect my wife to have sex before she is ready after the baby. I hadn't even brought up the subject. But my wife read it and said "Yeah there is not much I can do about that one." Which kind of annoyed me. I wanted to say, "Did your mouth have a baby too?" I know that makes me seem like a dick but I think the point has merit. Just recently I had sex with her many times each day to "start labour", none of which worked. But the point is that I really didnt feel like having two-position, awkward 9 month pregnant sex but I did it because I knew she needed me. Now I need her and she is just leaving me on my own. I mean, hoe hard is it to take 15 min to blow your husband? And it's not even cause I'm a bit hard up for one, it's even doctor recommended! Am I being unreasonable?
Either way, I'm off to visit the adult section of this site to take care of this thing myself.

Is your hand broken?


Also, you should probably change the title of this thread to - Women aren't really confusing, I'm just selfish and want to whine about it while gaining support of other males who share the same unsympathetic woman-hating attitudes.
 
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I know I will catch a lot of flack for this but I have thought this for a long time. It seems after women give birth it's like they expect to be put on a permanent pedestal for life. Yes, we get it: childbirth is painful. People have also been doing it for millions of years so it's not a miracle nor is it anything special. In fact, 4,315,000 babies were born in 2011. So ladies, please, get off the cross as someone else needs it.

As for the OP and his problem: I think what he is concerned about is valid. It's not that his wife will not suck his cock, that's not the root of his concern. What he is really worried about is that now that his wife has given birth she is now in charge of the relationship. She is the end-all-be-all of existance from now on and the whole relationship is now a dictatorship. Seen it happen far too many times.

I'm glad you got that off your chest. I'm sure the women will now be lining up to suck your dick and have your kids.
 

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Is your hand broken?


Also, you should probably change the title of this thread to - Women aren't really confusing, I'm just selfish and want to whine about it while gaining support of other males who share the same unsympathetic woman-hating attitudes.
He obviously lost the use of them the moment he bagged himself a wife.
 

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So glad my vagina days are over, I'm not having any kids or snipping my tubes lol. I wouldn't get the snip snip if I were you either. Birthcontroll and condoms, sperm-aside and teh morning after HELLLLEEEERRRRRRRRRR! Contrary to popular belief, a vasectomy is a serious procedure that can cause some pretty serious problems (AS IS ALL SURGERY!). Because I'm a cunt, I wouldn't get it done just to spite and then proceed to proceed to find out what sex toys look like. They may not be the real thing but they don't give you lip and strain your checking account... unless you are into that.
 

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I know I will catch a lot of flack for this but I have thought this for a long time. It seems after women give birth it's like they expect to be put on a permanent pedestal for life.

Definitely all manis, pedis, designer clothes and minions to raise the kids. Getting to boss around the husband is obviously the best part, though. Pretty much goes without saying! Sending him out to work, while I sit on my ever-widening ass and thinking up ways to say 'no' to sex rocks my world to no end. :wink:

Yes, we get it: childbirth is painful. People have also been doing it for millions of years so it's not a miracle nor is it anything special.

You do it. :biggrin1: Especially since 'people' have been doing it for millions of years.

In fact, 4,315,000 babies were born in 2011. So ladies, please, get off the cross as someone else needs it.

Yes, apparently you do.

As for the OP and his problem: I think what he is concerned about is valid. It's not that his wife will not suck his cock, that's not the root of his concern. What he is really worried about is that now that his wife has given birth she is now in charge of the relationship. She is the end-all-be-all of existance from now on and the whole relationship is now a dictatorship. Seen it happen far too many times.

Uh, oh....do I smell a hint of bitterness in the air?

The OP vented because he had to jerk off instead of getting a blow-job. I'll give him a pass. Probably shouldn't, but a guy with a hard on doesn't always speak the truth. If he did, I'd be married, be a rich woman and have been a Sunshine girl - twice!

So I'll give him a pass. He tried to help his wife go into labour, they both agreed to a vasectomy, probably timed it now, so that they wouldn't have to go through two separate periods of celibacy. Fine.

It's the rest of the guys on this thread. Wow. Jump on an opportunity to hate on women. All this woman did was say 'no' to blowing her husband and all of a sudden it brings out all these ugly feelings.

A woman doesn't have children on her own for herself - a couple has them together. I know a lot of dads who love their kids, more than anything else in the world. I know couples who choose their birth control together and together choose vasectomy OR not. And any couple where one person is in total control, probably is not happy.

No need to hate on women.

(Btw, Comic Sans & green is the Sarcasm font.)
 

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For the record, nowhere does it state that you need to get your rocks off to prep for it. See the

Mayo Clinic or the Vasectomy Clinic. In fact according to Encyclopedia of Surgery: A Guide for Patients and Caregivers

Diagnosis/Preparation

No special physical preparation is required for a vasectomy. The physician will first assess the patient's general health in order to identify any potential problems that could occur. The doctor will then explain the possible risks and side effects of the procedure. The patient is asked to sign a consent form which indicates that he understands the information he has received, and gives the doctor permission to perform the operation.