Women at LPSG and no-win situations

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Ethyl, May 15, 2007.

  1. Ethyl

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    If you attempt to be nice, open-minded, and genuine, you wonder if you're just being naive and setting yourself up for trouble.

    If you choose to ignore someone or tell them you're not interested in talking with them (for whatever reason) you're usually labeled a bitch.

    Am I right or wrong? Or both?







    Note: Men, this is not aimed at the majority of the posting population. Let it be known that I am wholly appreciative of most men here, especially those I know on a more personal level. You know who you are.
     
  2. Big Dreamer

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    My oversimplified view of the problem is as follows:

    1) Some guys are just plain assholes, which accounts for some of the negativity you encounter when you put your heart on your sleeve and put your emotions on display when posting.

    2) Some guys are here for some sort of "beat-off fantasy" as they interpret this solely as some sort of porn site. As a result, any post that doesn't feed the fantasy gets met with derision.


    I hope the good guys on the site help to offset the bad experiences you occasionally suffer MB, as you're far to honest and fun to deserve the shitstorms that you occasionally have to endure.
     
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    Well, if one is genuinely a bitch, there'd be no conflict.

    Not that I'd want to blunder into the definition of "bitch" again. I don't normally think in those terms, myself. I classify LPSG women as "OK but argues like a girl", "psychotic", and "other".

    The "nice" and "open-minded" parts would still be trouble, though.
     
  4. Mr. Snakey

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    Yes you are right. You also have to protect yourself too. After years of no win situations i finally won big time. In my heart i would like to say everyone wins and in reality i know this isnt so. I feel blessed:smile:
     
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    :eek:

    You'd really hate the tractor repair forum.
     
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    Is that rudeness / misogyny unique to lpsg or is it pretty much everywhere online?

    Losers take umbrage at the fact women who are not interested in them have the nerve to tell them, and have the veil of anonymity to write insults and behave like... losers. :baby:

    Salon magazine recently changed its letters posting policy, requiring registration with ID and email addresses, because anonymous posters were leaving extremely noxious responses to articles, with disgusting personal attacks, especially toward female journalists. Having a thick skin goes with the job, but it got quite out of control. It was just vile when it was left open to unregistered people. Accountabilty makes people a bit more civilized.


    Don't change, Cheryl. :heart:
     
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    Hey, Bliss, nice ass. Wanna fuck and then tell me how wonderful my cock is?
     
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    Sometimes Big D, I wonder if you haven't disappeared so far up your own ass, that your head hasn't popped out of the top again. :biggrin1:
     
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    You are totally correct Mercurial about the no win situation you are in. You are right in being very cautious about being to open with people you do not really know. I'm just surprised that more people don't understand just why that is the case.
     
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    Nice new profile pic! :biggrin1:
     
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    MB, it is a pathetic case of "what I want you should provide." There are a lot of self-righteous, egotistical simple-minded pricks on this site who unfortunately give us "good guys" a bad rep. If there was a way to eliminate that problem I would be the first to tell you share it - of course, copyright it first, as if it works, you, my dear, will make a fortune. Who knows... maybe Rob will allow you to market it here! haha

    Sorry you and so many others still encounter this primative behavior......
     
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    I wish I could redact the comment I left in your gallery. No...wait, that's not fair because you do have a nice cock, but that really is all you are, isn't it? A nice cock with a SHITTY personality. I guess it's good that you come here though, with all these sweet and nice, fine, hung men...we need a few grade "A" ass holes to balance things out. Seriously though, you do need to get over yourself....no doubt a good start would be to get your head out of your ass. :rolleyes:

    How's that for a psychotic, agures like a girl, closed minded B*I*T*C*H???? On second thought, shut up, I don't even care what you think. This is MB's thread.

     
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    Well Cheryl, all I can say is sometimes it's a blast to be here, others I'm so glad to have a "log off" and "exit" option. You are 100% correct though. I've never really been called a "bitch" or anything because if I'm in chat and don't want to talk to someone, I just flat out ignore them. Don't put them on ignore, just close the window or minimize it while I talk to the people I do like. Either way, I don't and wouldn't let it get to me. Now if they said "ew, your ugly and make my dick limp", that might make me cry...haha. But we know you are stronger than that....xoxo. I say fuck them, all of them, if they don't like us, their loss! :tongue:
     
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    I am a bitch. If I'm not interested, I'm not interested and the guy had better leave it at that.
     
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    If you want to be all things to all men just be a naive bitch.
     
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    quercus, you have NO idea! Although I didn't see her nekkid, her pics give you no clue how HOT she is in person!

    MB, those low-cut tight jeans you were wearing on that one special day... enough to make this gay man drool! And sweet and smart, too. Total package there, all you straight guys.

    Oh, and MB, did I ever mention to you that you remind me a LOT of my cousin Sandi, who has always reminded me of Barbara Eden as Jeannie?
     
  18. va_lk_yr_ie

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    I'm one of those that share my thoughts quite freely - within reason. Wouldn't label myself naive though - been around the net and the block a few times. Nothing is ever private on the net - and there is always a possibility of someone finding out who you are in real life.

    Meaning - don't share anything you'd rather keep under wraps and not have your boss, neighbour, mom or best friend know about you. I try to live by that myself - what I've shared on the site (and elsewhere on the net) isn't known to everyone in my immediate surroundings - but I could look them in the eye and say "yes, that's me and that's how I think and reason" if push came to shove and they did know it was me behind the words.

    But I understand what you mean by the dichotomy openess/being labeled a bitch - at times it's a lose-lose situation for women on this site. We want to be here because we have a genuine interest in what is discussed and want to discuss it - on our terms and with some intellect behind it. That feature in itself makes us a prime target for those only out for wank fodder - those people that we'd rather avoid. And just by avoiding them we're often (but not always) labeled as cock-teasers, bitches, fakes, etc. ad nauseum.
     
  19. compsciguy

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    I don't usually send PM's but when I do I don't expect a response.

    Usually it's just to say "hey nice gallery" or something uncreepy.

    I've already gotten a bunch of PM's from gay guys and it's pretty creepy so I totally understand where you're coming from.
     
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    Sorry, forgot one. "No trace of a sense of humor".
     
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