Women - do a man's clothes matter?

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Randy in with you on this one.

Im very much a t-shirt/jeans girl and hate the facade of dressing up to impress so my ideal first date is a walk around town, a movie and lunch in a cheap little takeaway or cafe. All done in sneakers.
 

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Well, it looks like most of you think I'm crazy for dressing like I do on a first date. I've had a profile on match dot com, although I haven't used it since this past April. I always wrote in my profile that I'm a casual laid back type of person, and when I'd speak to a girl on the phone I'd always mention that there was no need to dress up for the first date, blue jeans and T shirts were fine with me.

Some of the girls I met dressed the same way I did, and some had on nicer clothes. I was in my best blue jeans, sneakers, and T shirt, so I felt dressed up also. And some Axe spray that a girlfriend got me last year.

When I go to meet a girl, I'm interested in meeting the PERSON, not her clothes. I couldn't give a rat's ass what clothes she has on, and the fewer clothes, the better. GIRLS are the ones who get all hung up on style, and what's "in" and BS like that.

Some men do also.

So I'm thinking I should continue dressing as I do, but MAYBE I'll give in and make a trip to K-Mart. 1 pair of slightly dressy shoes, 1 pair of khakis, and 1 dress shirt. Maybe 2 dress shirts, so that'll be enough to get me through 3 dates, and by then I'll be able to revert to my usual clothes. Hopefully putting on a bullshit front in fancy clothes to impress the women on the first date won't cost me more than $50 or so.
 

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What your comfortable with or used to isn't always what you should wear on a first date. I like sandals, jeans and no shirt or button down shirt open, but wouldn't wear it on a date. Polished dress shoes, casual dress pants, button down shirt, hair nicely trimmed should get a womans attention. Your looking for attention, right????

I noticed I get different respect from people when out and about, depending on what I'm wearing. Jeans, t-shirt, gym shoes and people aren't so friendly. Dress nicely and the world changes, people think your a better person. Not my way of thinking, but just what I have observed.
 

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If jeans and a t-shirt is his normal wardrobe, why shouldn't he wear it on a first date? I understand about first impressions, yet if he is a casual guy, why not be himself? Because it's NOT working! Hence his posting this question. Of course the venue is important, if the date is at a nice restaurant, you have to dress appropriately. Let's be honest, any man that dresses like that all the time is never taking you to a nice restaurant. :tongue: I guess my point is, on a first date, I want to see what a guy is like. If he chooses jeans and a t, that tells me he is a casual, laid back guy. It doesn't make me think he doesn't care about impressing me. :confused::confused: It has nothing to do with me and everything to do with what type of guy he is.
True, his attire would tell me he is not the type of guy with whom I am interested in pursuing a relationship or future.

What you're comfortable with or used to isn't always what you should wear on a first date. I like sandals, jeans and no shirt or button down shirt open, but wouldn't wear it on a date. Polished dress shoes, casual dress pants, button down shirt, hair nicely trimmed should get a womans attention. Your looking for attention, right????
I noticed I get different respect from people when out and about, depending on what I'm wearing. Jeans, t-shirt, gym shoes and people aren't so friendly. Dress nicely and the world changes, people think your a better person. Not my way of thinking, but just what I have observed.
You are 110% correct.

Well, it looks like most of you think I'm crazy for dressing like I do on a first date. Yup! I've had a profile on match dot com, although I haven't used it since this past April. I always wrote in my profile that I'm a casual laid back type of person, and when I'd speak to a girl on the phone I'd always mention that there was no need to dress up for the first date, blue jeans and T shirts were fine with me. I'm curious, what was their verbal response to this? Some of the girls I met dressed the same way I did, and some had on nicer clothes. I was in my best blue jeans, sneakers, and T shirt, so I felt dressed up also. That's a shame. :frown1: I'm sorry, I just don't get how you can equate new jeans and a t-shirt with being dressed up? And some Axe spray that a girlfriend got me last year. :biggrin1: LMAO you'll put on cologne but not shoes and a real shirt?:confused:

When I go to meet a girl, I'm interested in meeting the PERSON, not her clothes. I couldn't give a rat's ass what clothes she has on, and the fewer clothes, the better. GIRLS are the ones who get all hung up on style, and what's "in" and BS like that. Some men do also. That is true, however people of all ages all over the world can be found who like to dress in the latest fashions. I think you are confusing appropriate attire with trendy styles. So I'm thinking I should continue dressing as I do, Only if you want to spend the rest of your life alone and never having a 2nd date.:tongue: but MAYBE I'll give in and make a trip to K-Mart. 1 pair of slightly dressy shoes, 1 pair of khakis, and 1 dress shirt. Maybe 2 dress shirts, so that'll be enough to get me through 3 dates, PRAISE GOD!! and by then I'll be able to revert to my usual clothes. Hopefully putting on a bullshit front in fancy clothes to impress the women on the first date won't cost me more than $50 or so.
You still haven't said how old you are. I ask because a young man shouldn't be so set in his ways; and an older man should know better. It should be noted that actual shoes, khaki's; and a shirt with a collar which buttons all the way down the front is not dressy. It's what men in the real world are allowed to wear to work on casual Fridays. On a male date I would consider a suit or tuxedo to be dressy.
 
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What your comfortable with or used to isn't always what you should wear on a first date. I like sandals, jeans and no shirt or button down shirt open, but wouldn't wear it on a date. Polished dress shoes, casual dress pants, button down shirt, hair nicely trimmed should get a womans attention. Your looking for attention, right????

I noticed I get different respect from people when out and about, depending on what I'm wearing. Jeans, t-shirt, gym shoes and people aren't so friendly. Dress nicely and the world changes, people think your a better person. Not my way of thinking, but just what I have observed.

Nice clothes mean a difference in most situations. You walk in with an Armani suit and it reeks 'importance and success'. While jeans and a t-shirt means something less. We can debate it over and over on how it shouldn't be that way but it is what is is. Humans size up each other in a blink of an eye and clothes matter.
 

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If you are intent on sticking with the t-shirt and jeans look, i'd go with the steve jobs look (http://www.sfgate.com/blogs/images/sfgate/techchron/2006/12/28/jobs286x500.JPG). Somehow Steve can always pull that look off. Now if not I would suggest a nice pastel polo or a button up. With the pants I, personally, would go with a comfortable(broken-in) pair of khakis or a pair of cargo pants. To me I go with whats comfortable. And for shoes maybe a pair of clarks.
 

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I love a man who can dress well.....nice black slacks, shirt, and shoes. Given that if we are going on a date that is casual, I don't mind jeans as long as he isn't wearing running shoes. I am not a huge fan of sneakers unless we are going to the gym to work out.

Oh yea I do love a man in light weight ( army fatigue type of clothing) because their bulges are way more pronounced.
 

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It is all about impression, my man. Many bash those amongst us that society has labeled "metro," but women, at least in my experiences, LOVE it.

I am a metro. I always, always dress nicely and women constantly remark about my fashion taste. Many thought my wife "dressed" me; she corrected them and told everyone that I buy my own clothes - and match them with precision.

If you are going to wear jeans on a 1st date, do so with class. A nice pair of Michael Kors, button up dress shirt, and a nice, fitted jacket will seal the deal.

And, as for shoes... NEVER EVER wear sneakers on a date! Wear a nice pair of lace ups (make sure you belt matches). Cole Hann, D&G, or for those who are high on fashion but don't want to spend a ton on shoes... Steve Madden has some nice casual dress shoes available, too.
 

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I have always thought that first dates were everything. Make the first impression great and memorable or just stay home.

On a first date, depending on what we're doing, I'll either dress in expensive cowboy drag (tasteful--not tacky!! :biggrin1: ) complete with floor length black duster, or I'll drag out one of the 3 Armani suits I own. ( I need to get some new ones, but HECK!! they are expen$$ive!!) Then it's just a matter of deciding which car or truck to take to match what I'm wearing. I have found that having the vehicle detailed and sparkling also seems to matter.

There are a few exceptions to this rule. Such as you both agree for your first date to go kayaking or jet skiing, then wear your finest Speedo that shows you off WELL!! :biggrin1:
 

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Clothes make the man, don't they?

Clean shirts are always good, I don't insist on ties, not unless it's a formal event. I would even say there's a great number of guys who look better without tie than they do with one on. A matching jacket or blazer, but I actually prefer jackets. If you ask about colors, I would say I'm a sucker for the classics, no screaming reds or yellows please. Jeans always go well along with tan jackets, and white shirts. What I don't like is the negative look: Dark shirts with brighter jackets/pants/ties. Brrrr.

Regarding shoes, I'm with YourAvgGuy: No sneakers for dates. There are great loafers, docksiders, whatever; it absolutely depends on where the date will take place.

A few more don'ts: Shirts being worn over your pants, but under a jacket. Those styles are mutually exclusive. Another thing: Shirt collars being worn over a jacket collar, which seems to be fashionable among younger guys now. Especially with the shirt open a button to far. Never do that in front of my eyes, you'll be impressed by my frowning. If you look like that at the end of a drinking night, it's okay, but if you come dressed like that, it looks, well, ridiculous.
 

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Well, it looks like most of you think I'm crazy for dressing like I do on a first date. I've had a profile on match dot com, although I haven't used it since this past April. I always wrote in my profile that I'm a casual laid back type of person, and when I'd speak to a girl on the phone I'd always mention that there was no need to dress up for the first date, blue jeans and T shirts were fine with me.

Some of the girls I met dressed the same way I did, and some had on nicer clothes. I was in my best blue jeans, sneakers, and T shirt, so I felt dressed up also. And some Axe spray that a girlfriend got me last year.

When I go to meet a girl, I'm interested in meeting the PERSON, not her clothes. I couldn't give a rat's ass what clothes she has on, and the fewer clothes, the better. GIRLS are the ones who get all hung up on style, and what's "in" and BS like that.

Some men do also.

So I'm thinking I should continue dressing as I do, but MAYBE I'll give in and make a trip to K-Mart. 1 pair of slightly dressy shoes, 1 pair of khakis, and 1 dress shirt. Maybe 2 dress shirts, so that'll be enough to get me through 3 dates, and by then I'll be able to revert to my usual clothes. Hopefully putting on a bullshit front in fancy clothes to impress the women on the first date won't cost me more than $50 or so.

In my opinion, people should just dress how they want to dress, and attract whomever likes their style. If you're putting on a front, then you'll have to maintain it for another person. I say be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
 

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Nice clothes don't have to cost a fortune. I often go to the outlets in my area, where they have branches of Banana Republic, Ralph Lauren etc. That's awesome, high-quality stuff that really makes an impression, and I rarely have to spend more than $25 on a shirt or pair of pants there. Women tell me I'm well-dressed all the time, and it's not from spending more money than usual. You just have to know where to go.
 

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As long as the man doesn't look like a slob all the time and in public. I have no problem with casual clothing or even very worn clothes around the house. I guess I am more of a practical gal.

But if going out to a nice dinner or something. I expect the man to dress decently. At least a nice shirt, slacks, and decent shoes. Now if it's a jean's and t'shirt type date as long as there aren't holes everywhere and they are presentable. It doesn't bother me too much.
 

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It is all about impression, my man. Many bash those amongst us that society has labeled "metro," but women, at least in my experiences, LOVE it.

I am a metro. I always, always dress nicely and women constantly remark about my fashion taste. Many thought my wife "dressed" me; she corrected them and told everyone that I buy my own clothes - and match them with precision.

And, as for shoes... NEVER EVER wear sneakers on a date! Wear a nice pair of lace ups (make sure you belt matches). Cole Hann, D&G, or for those who are high on fashion but don't want to spend a ton on shoes... Steve Madden has some nice casual dress shoes available, too.
YAG, You know I love you; but his entire wardrobe comes from K-Mart. You're trying to put your Moet-Chandon wardrobe taste on his Bud Light body.

Clothes make the man, don't they? yup :smile:

Clean shirts are always good, I don't insist on ties, not unless it's a formal event. I would even say there's a great number of guys who look better without tie than they do with one on. A matching jacket or blazer, but I actually prefer jackets. If you ask about colors, I would say I'm a sucker for the classics, no screaming reds or yellows please. Jeans always go well along with tan jackets, and white shirts. What I don't like is the negative look: Dark shirts with brighter jackets/pants/ties. Brrrr.

Regarding shoes, I'm with YourAvgGuy: No sneakers for dates. There are great loafers, docksiders, whatever; it absolutely depends on where the date will take place.

A few more don'ts: Shirts being worn over your pants, but under a jacket. Those styles are mutually exclusive. Another thing: Shirt collars being worn over a jacket collar, which seems to be fashionable among younger guys now. Especially with the shirt open a button to far. Never do that in front of my eyes, you'll be impressed by my frowning. If you look like that at the end of a drinking night, it's okay, but if you come dressed like that, it looks, well, ridiculous.

One of my winter pet peeves is a sweater tucked into pants, then belted. It always looks too bunched up and 9 times out of 10 guys who do this are still wearing those black or grey capezio jazz shoes from 1987. :tongue: