Women: Do u want to know he's bi?

[Principessa]

Question for women, if you're seeing a man, do you want to know

that he's got a bi-side, even if he's not doing anything with men, other than LPSG-ing? Would you rather know all his deep-dark sexual thoughts? Or as long as everything else in relationship is ok, you wouldn't really be interested? Appreciate your perspective... dr....

Yup, I'd want/need to know because if he is exploring his bi side here, he is likely to act on it. :redface:

I'd like to know, but I'd also like to know that he isn't using his bisexuality as a justification for going around randomly fucking people. Whatever your sexuality is if I'm in a relationship with you I expect fidelity. It's not ok to think that everything you want should be fulfilled, you might have a penchant for blondes, you wouldn't expect to satisfy that and neither should you expect to satisfy your fancy for some cock every once in a while.

:yup: What she said.

Yes,

Because i want to be able to make an intelligent decision about who i am seeing.Too many men hide that side of themselves and then devastate their partner if or when they have a change of heart.

So true, and bi guys never get why the womanis so shocked & devatsted when they leave her for a man. It is NOT the same as being left for another woman. :no: A woman can complete with another woman. She can't compete with a man, no matter how much she might love him.

 

[D_Methamphetamine Blowvein]

Honestly, I'd have to say no...I don't want to know.

My reasoning here is that if boundaries are set that there will be no "relationship", ok, that's fine. I don't mind.

BUT...if there's a chance that the person in question may turn into a long-term relationship, I don't want to know details. I think it's too easy for my mind to wander, thinking about his past and if I'm good enough, etc.

I'm a worrier, and somewhat reserved. Just judging from past relationships, the details that I knew about my then-partners would haunt me and I would feel resentful.

So...my answer is no.

 

[D_Methamphetamine Blowvein]

Absolutely.

And imagine a world where people were really and truly open about their sexuality. I think it would save a lot of marriages by preventing them in the first place.

OMG I love this comment. SERIOUSLY!!!! If I knew then what I know now...

 

[HareTrinity]

YES!

Sounds like a chance for an awesome threesome no?

[Warning, wussy bits ahead]

Even if he was my life partner, my sex drive and comfort around it is a big part of who I am, and any partner I get I would want to be able to handle that and to at least trust me with his even if he's less outspoken.

I expect if I ever do find my special guy we'll end up monogamous, but that doesn't mean there's no room beforehand for a bit of sexperimentation as a couple with other people.

And if we can share the same fantasy (especially if it stops him threatening my porn collection) that's a bonus!

 

[Sassy]

Yes,

Because i want to be able to make an intelligent decision about who i am seeing.Too many men hide that side of themselves and then devastate their partner if or when they have a change of heart.

Agree with every word!

Absolutely i'd like to know. Firstly because it's good to know what kind of past your dealing with and secondly because it could be fun.

Yes!

 

[B_curiousme01]

Yes! In real life, I might be slightly concerned if it was literally one of the first things out of his mouth. Otherwise, it would be all good.

 

[deleted509196]

Yes I would want to know. My boyfriend is bi, to some extent. I'm bi too, to some extent, so it's just something we have in common.... so in that way it's kinda cool, and I can understand bisexuality... but then again I get insecure/jealous sometimes. So does he though, actually. It's just because we love each other so much really. Anyway my point is - yes I want to know, even though it might mean I could then be insecure about either gender, but at the same time I get it, although I hope that he doesn't really want anyone but me, because even if we both find others attractive I know for sure I only really want him!