It could possibly be exactly what happened, there might even be more to it ? People can be pretty mean to one another. Anyone ever think that a woman would cut a man's dick off ? What about the children killing their parents ? Adults raping children ? Just to name but a few. Not minimizing what trauma you've endured, but simply putting it into perspective in the grand scheme of atrocities mankind perpetuates on itself.
Yes, this is an important point in this case. She had never said much about her past during the two months we were together, just a mention that her mom had been an alcoholic. After this meeting where she rejected me based on cock size not being as "huge" as I "used to be," she wrote a followup letter saying how she was afraid to get very close to anyone, that her mom had threatened to kill herself, blaming this woman (girl), her daughter. I had a somewhat abusive mother, too, but my reaction was to escape my mother and go try to form this idealistic relationship with this (or some) woman.
I thought the letter was mostly just trying to make excuses for rejecting me rather than much of an insight into her situation.
At the moment that she did the dick-size-based rejection, I didn't really feel like she was simply taking it out on me that she had suffered a bad past, however. I didn't think she was trying to emasculate me or use me to avenge past injustices to her (and I truly believe I had not done anything to deserve revenge--during our 2 months everything was very lovey-dovey and no fights or even minor problems, just a very sudden end when she unexpectedly wanted to move out and break up). She was having a hard time "finding" herself, for sure.
But I felt the rude act of rejection was less about some inner rage or whatever than that to a great extent she was just being tactlessly very "matter of fact" about not settling for anything other than the biggest cock she could find. I sensed that the interim lover with the "shocking" thick cock she reported had sort of "spoiled" her, and that she just didn't realize it until she saw my dick and suddenly realized she couldn't go back to a cock that was merely above-average instead of really amazingly big in some way. OR, that she had inflated her memory of my size and was disappointed by the comparison.
Either way, it had this effect of liberating me from worrying about it as much as I had before, wierd as that may sound. In one sense, I thought it was her, not me, who had the problem, but at the same time, it was just hot to hear an attractive woman like her come out and express an attitude that bigger cocks mattered so much. (Remember in the 1970s there was TOTAL denial everywhere that "size matters.")
There are also all kinds of other complicated ideas and issues surrounding this experience, but these are a couple of them.