Women honest about bigger experiences?

[Short Staff]

My wife was honest that she had had much bigger. Now we're into swinging, and both are happy.

 

[Valkyriessong]

Actually, men want us to lie to them about this. We have no chance of answering this question right, except to lie, and wouldn't you know, it's almost never the guy with 9" who asks. I wish men would stop asking questions they don't want to hear the answer to. I hate lying, so I don't.

Preach on Sister Zora.

 

[Valkyriessong]

Also, if a woman told me about her previous lover being bigger, I honestly wouldn't mind. It might even be a turn on hearing her honestly talking about her experiences and pleasure.

I think many women are hypocritical about this question, since they 1) claim that size doesn't matter but if it didn't matter than why not calmly answer the question.

Because unlike you most guys twist themselves into knots when they hear something on this topic they don't like. And many choose to end the relationship rather than endure knowing she's been with a bigger guy. No amount of attempts to reassure him sex with him is fine will convince him otherwise. So he breaks off all contact. Great. Yet another relationship that had long term potential got flushed down the toilet due to insecurity.

If a woman avoids answering the question it's because the School of Hard Knocks has taught her it's a wise decision to do so. Especially if she truly loves and wants to keep her man.

Edit: Gah! Now I see why you don't twist into knots! I've never in my life been with a guy as big as you.

 

[Valkyriessong]

I can't believe I missed this one, XXLHS, where have you been?


Naughty, I took his response to be somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but it's a point I've made several times myself. Women have always been on the chopping block physically. Men have no problem dissecting our every feature and making us feel inadequate in a multitude of ways (too fat, breasts too small, wrong hair color, big nose) to the point that many of us run to the cosmetic surgeon to make ourselves more acceptable. Meanwhile, back at the ranch, they have far fewer expectations of themselves and are in fact aghast that anyone should ever consider their penis size!
While I don't like the thought of the onslaught of emotional issues for men that this will produce, I do like the fact that (eventually) they may become more understanding of how awful it is to feel forced into being something you're not.

Also, I know a good many women who love their breast implants, and are overjoyed to have them, as well as some who just got them because they hated themselves before. It will be interesting to see this run the gamut through the male population as well, if enlargements do become a feasible option.

I swear if I were a Lesbian I'd be begging Madame Zora for a date right about now. :tongue:

 

[Lordpendragon]

I have said this before, but if you really care about somone, why would you want them to have had a bad sex life?

I am not saying that it is easy for guys, but I do think that it is a sign of both immaturity and egocentricity to be hung up about partner's previous experiences.

I would far rather be with a woman who knows what great sex is all about for her. Have you guys ever stopped to consider that maybe a lot of women have also had bad sexual experiences? My guess is that if you just concentrated on having a positive sexual experience, everyone would be a lot happier.

 

[the_reverend]

personally, as long as she thinks i'm big, i'm okay with not being the biggest. i like to know there's SOMETHING that sets me apart and it helps to know that she's being honest. i've been with girls who've said i was the longest but not the thickest they'd had, and i've been with girls who've said the opposite. i've been with girls who enjoyed my cock well enough, but were more amazed by my oral skills (which i take more pride in. my cock size is something i was born with, oral sex is a talent). i've had some say i was the sweetest, some say i was the most intense...it spans a wide range, but they all found something to enjoy. and as long as that's the case, the rest is just icing. as long as you're both enjoying yourselves, why worry about it?

though in the interest of full disclosure, my last girlfriend and i broke up but later on continued to see each other somewhat more casually while she was also seeing another guy, but we were having sex exclusively. until she confessed once that they had gotten drunk and wound up having sex. she said it wasn't very good, she didn't get off at all and his dick was on the average to small side. i would occasionally tease her about it until one day she told me that she'd lied about his size and that he was about as big as me and, in fact, slightly longer. and for some reason that really bothered me. part of it was that she had lied, but part of it was that this wasn't some bygone ex in her past. this was a guy i was, on some level, in direct competition with so the fact that he was my "better" in some way, even slightly, was a bit irksome. there was also the fact that i had given her her first orgasms and we'd been the best sex the other had ever had...and up until that point i'd had the biggest dick she'd been with. so i was used to being "tops" in all categories with her. and every girl i'd been with had told me both that i had a big dick and that i was really good in bed, so on some level i'd fallen into the "bigger=always better" fallacy (no pun intended). she had to actually remind me that despite the slightly larger size, the sex with him wasn't that good and he hadn't even attempted to go down on her so i was leagues ahead of him in both of those regards, which did kind of remind me of how silly i was being. a big dick is nice and all and i enjoy having one, but being able to give the girl you're with...especially if she's a girl you love...a mind blowing body numbing orgasm with whatever tools and talents are at your disposal is far and away better.

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

I do wish men wouldn't look for sexual reassurance all the time, when they ask 'how big is my cock,' 'how good am I in bed,' 'do I satisfy you,' they aren't really looking for an honest answer they're wanting to hear 'oh yes you're huge, the best I ever had, you satisfy me so much my cunt is red raw.' I always give an honest answer, if someone asks me a question I'll tell them the truth not what I think they want me to tell them.

 

[D_Joseba_Guntertwat]

I always give an honest answer, if someone asks me a question I'll tell them the truth not what I think they want me to tell them.

That's the best way. Sometimes us guys need a bit of reassurance (and a bit of cock worship!) but there's no point pretending something is what it isn't, we all have to accept reality.

I must say though, I love women who say I'm the biggest they've had - but only if it's without being asked and if they really mean it. It feels great to penetrate a woman knowing that noone bigger has been there

 

[Blocko]

A compliment never goes astray... someone letting you know that they're going to enjoy what you have to offer always makes me work extra hard.

 

[vibratingfinger]

I don't need a stupid compliment. I know you enjoyed it, so please recommend me to your female friends. Preferbaly more to the cutest ones.

 

[vrod]

This topic came up with my current girlfriend a few months ago. I consider myself average, or just slightly shy of average at 5.75 inches.

She has been with about 25 different men before meeting me and she admitted that she’s seen a complete range from one that was “too small” to “huge”.

The funny thing was that it didn’t really bother that much. I felt more comfortable that she had bigger and still picked me to satisfy her. I’d be more worried if she never had a large penis and always wondered if she had been missing something.

Anyway our sex is quite good and we really seem to fit each other well. By that I don’t just mean in terms of genitals. Our physical size matches well when we are close together and that counts for something (for both of us).

Her ex still tries to weasel into the picture and sometimes tries to re-ignite their old (and burned out) romance. He even used the line argued that she might like me in some ways but that no one will ever satisfy her like he did – at which point she didn’t spare his feelings by letting him know that actually she has her strongest and most frequent orgasms with me. So there!

My confidence is okay (and continually growing next to a loving woman) but that doesn’t mean I don’t care about her satisfaction. IT just seems how I treat her and how honest I am with her and how much she trusts me is the real key to how good she feels.

That’s my two cents.

 

[Mackleanen Beebarf]

...I must say though, I love women who say I'm the biggest they've had - but only if it's without being asked and if they really mean it....

It may all be in my head, but when my wife makes a size-related comment, I swear I can tell if she's saying it because that's really what's on her mind at that moment or if she's saying it for my benefit. There's just something about the tone and context. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to hear regardless, but it packs an extra punch when it's obviously more spur-of-the-moment.

 

[georgiapine]

I Have A Large Penis. But I Have Seen Flicks With Penises About 2 Inches Shorter Than Mine And 3 Inches More Than Mine. But The Catch Is That They Are Still In The Flick. Chicks Can Make Most Penises Work For Them. Just Some Guys Have To Work A Little Harder. Don't Be Lazy!

 

[Dorset]

I never ask but have been told it before, I think a lot of women now seem to think it's their job to say it the first time you're in bed together. The problem with that is you have no idea if she's lying or not just to make you feel good which kind of spoils the mood a bit.

I think the best comments are the more subtle ones, like her asking you not to go too deep or not to try certain positions because she isn't used to that kind of size. It's less obvious and vulgar then 'your dick is way bigger than the tons of others I've seen before'

Basically, as I think MZ alluded to before, if you feel the need to ask then you're probably a bit insecrure about your size anyway and therefore your partner probably has seen bigger, therefore don't ask.

 

[tiff86]

I've never had that happen cuz I've been with 3 guys and my bf now is the biggest. If I had that situation I don't think I'd lie but I probably would try to avoid the issue so he doesn't feel bad about it.

littlefiveandhalf: Hi, I'm 5.5 inches and have often wondered if girls I date are honest about their past experiences.

If you had larger sizes, would you be open and honest about it, or would you tell a white lie as to not hurt the guy's feelings?

This issue is more of a concern for average or smaller guys since, if she's nto a virgin, the chance she will have encountered a bigger one goes up the more experienced she is and the smaller the guy is.

Being 5.5 inches, I guess the chances are high, 60-80%, that a women has seen a bigger one. I sometimes ask women, and some are honest and some just tell me not to worry, that I'm the right size for them, etc. I admit, when a woman tells you that she experienced larger and enjoyed it, you feel some jealous, especially since you can never stretch her or penetrate her like they did.

So, are women generally honest about their big experiences, or would they cover them up to protect their boyfriend's feelings?

 

[meatpackingbubba]

I have a surprise for ya':

Guys that ask the question about whether former lovers had larger dicks WANT to hear their partner to tell them about the big ones. It is an erotic fetish, especially if the female indicates some degree of preference for the larger dick. And for the female, you will never find a way to wrap your man around your finger and have him working like a good boy to please you in the way you want than by making him jealous and a feeling bit inadequate.