Ok so i need some womens advice/help on this matter.
I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. It started out amazing, she was dating a guy for 4 years prior to me, and remained a virgin due to the fact she didnt love him. After 4 months, she gave it up to me, and it was amazing. I love her more than anything, i actually think i am obsessed. Now here is the issue, last year she was all about me. Gave me so much attention, super affectionate, very sexual but she was not on birth control.
Her hormones were out of sync, and she began breaking out on her face, and it killed her confidence. So me, being a selfish male suggested birth control with my own selfish intent of not having to wear a ruber, but i also knew it would clear up her acne. So she started on Birth control last year, and it did clear up her acne, however it killed her sex drive 100%. Before she used to get extremely extremely aroused and wet, now she cannot get wet one bit.
Sex is extremely painful for her now, we have tried every lube out there, but when a women cannot get aroused, its not the same for her, or me. We havent had real sex (meaning more than me putting my penis in, and letting her use her vibrator on her clit to climax, due to the pain) in over a year.
It is messing with my head major, she doesnt seem at all interested in me sexually or intimately. She knows its not normal, and she hates how she has no sex drive, but she is worried about breaking out. But this is taking a huge toll on my confidence and head. I have stayed 100% faithful to her, even with her lack of interest but its getting hard. I am getting older, and i am a very romantic, compasionate male. Intimate sex, NOT FUCKING is very important to me and its gone in this relationship.
Her sensitivity is completely different, she said it no longer feels good if i rub her vagina, and it only occasionally feels good when i go down on her. I dont want to lose her, but to be honest it is really messing with my head. I hope it doesnt sound selfish, but to be with someone who doesnt seem sexually interested is hard, especially when you would give your whole world to make them happy.
Any suggestions? maybe herbal supplements to increase her sex drive, etc?
Thanks in advance