Women, i need your help!!! Please read and give advice!!

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depo is the same stuff they use to chemically castrate inmates, if i am not mistaken. my sister was on it for a while. i would NEVER recommend this stuff, ever. if regular bc kills her sex drive what the fuck will that stuff do to her?

Um, not everyone has the same chemical reaction to the various forms of BC out there. My own fiance was on Depo Provera. It did not kill her sex drive at all, but it did make her periods last longer, which still caused her to switch. A good friend of mine who suffered an excruciating period went on Depo Provera, and she now swears by it. It has shortened her cycle and made it less severe.

I'm not a woman but 90% of my friends are women. Several of whom are close enough to me that we talk frankly about stuff like this. Many of them have told me of reasons why they had to switch BC, and they didn't all have the same side effects from the same medication.
 

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her reason for not recommending depo is that, once injected, there's no way to get rid of it. you can stop taking the pill but the shot lasts months.

that means that anyone having a crappy reaction to it is stuck with it.

we know every woman reacts differently. that's the whole problem. there's no way to predict what will work, what will drive you mad and what might even kill you.
 

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her reason for not recommending depo is that, once injected, there's no way to get rid of it. you can stop taking the pill but the shot lasts months.

that means that anyone having a crappy reaction to it is stuck with it.

we know every woman reacts differently. that's the whole problem. there's no way to predict what will work, what will drive you mad and what might even kill you.

Oh? I didn't know that. I thought my fiance told me that her periods immediately went back to normal after switching to Nuva. But perhaps it was more that Nuva somehow initially countered the lingering Depo side effect. This is interesting. Thank you for the information.

Of course that's a huge problem. I never said it wasn't. Hard to say if the science is just difficult to pin down due to womens' DNA giving them different hormone recipes, lazy research due to gender inequality in healthcare, or both. I'd say both. I've worked in the health insurance field, and I saw plenty of the latter. Having heard stories from many of my friends about their long searches for the BC method that worked best for them, I can honestly say that I'm grateful to never have to go through that.
 
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the pill is in daily doses.

the shot is designed to last at least 12 weeks. so once it's in you you're stuck with it until it wears off. that's at least three months, but often more.
 

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the pill is in daily doses.

the shot is designed to last at least 12 weeks. so once it's in you you're stuck with it until it wears off. that's at least three months, but often more.

I need to check with my sister to be sure, but I think her doctor told her 6 months efficacy on the depo shot she had (she had 2 shots, I think). She had such an awful reaction to it, and to this day has a problem with cyst clusters -- if you are a cigarette smoker it is apparently a side effect that you need to be aware of. She has had big clusters removed from her breasts, butt, legs.
 
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Yeah it was pretty awful for her.

To be fair to mr green's viewpoint, I am sure depo does work for some. But it is a shot, which in my sister's case lasted for AT LEAST half a year. She would say it killed her libido. She would also say it killed her skin with the cysts.
 
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I am sure depo does work for some. But it is a shot, which in my sister's case lasted for AT LEAST half a year. She would say it killed her libido. She would also say it killed her skin with the cysts.

Depo-Provera is what I am on and I have no complaints. Its only downside is the need for a shot every 3 months, so if someone like your sister has a reaction... it's in your system a long time. :frown1:
 

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i'm sorry to hear about the troubles w. your girlfriend. you say "sexy is extremely painful for her now" That concerns me b/c her problem could be completely unrelated to the pill. I would (like some others) urge you to seek a professionally obgyn's opinion and to be examined in case she has another problem like Vulvovaginitis, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease or some other vaginal damage that needs to be addressed.

you mentioned "when a women cannot get aroused, its not the same for her" - this is true! but is it what she told u, she isn't getting aroused? I ask b/c the problem may be psychological and physical (some past trauma).

I know i had similar trouble after a miscarriage where i was hospitalized for a week. It took some time to get back to normal b/c i think my hormones were wacked and sex for me was difficult and sometimes (not always) painful. Turned out i had a common bacterial infection called Bacterial vaginosis (BV) which i was told happens fairly often w pregnant women. Apparently the sperm can cause it. Since hubby and i are au natural we practice the rhythm method and withdraw almost exclusively. I did this with my prev partner too of many years and i've only been peg. once. With hubby. I don't take BC pills, b/c i virtually never have sperm inside me. When we got preggs, of course i did (special occasion lol) and it caused a bacterial overgrowth. So needless to say once i was treated the painful intercourse went away... completely.

I didn't have the other symptoms of BV so my drs. never screened me for it. It went unnoticed for nearly a year until a friend mentioned she had this problem to me w. her bf, and was tired of it but couldn't convince him to pull out. If you were recently using condoms (and not cumin inside her) and now you're not using a barrier method (so i assume you're also ejaculating inside of he) this can cause BV. She may be like me, no odor, no discharge, no other symptoms except painful intercourse and lack of wetness. If it hadn't been for a friend i'd have never known. The problem by that time was getting better on its own but it was still intermittent. When sex was painful i shied away from it, wasn't as interested because i knew it prob. hurt and be unsatisfying for me. It was also hard for my hubby not being about to please me. The memory of the loss of our child also It got in the way of me getting in the "mood" or aroused. So needless to say, I'd def. suggest to your GF to get screened for BV, it's a simple vaginal swab like w. a pap smear (annual exam) and the Dr. will look at it under the microscope and should know immediately if she need to be treated.

I'm with others who suggest altn to BC pills. But if she's convinced she wants them it is her decision. Many friends are on BC and they say they love the freedom and the help with acne. I practice au natural family planning and use it in reverse to say NOT pregnant. It is free and cost me nothing but it's not for everyone. Also it seems like your question was more about the painful intercourse and how its fucking w. your head than the acne and pills - get rid of the pills - that seems clear. maybe check out acne treatments like Proactive (i think that's what it's called) but further, try and address the whole staying not preg thing as well. maybe natural is for you maybe not but it's worth looking into. Google rhythm method, mucus method, fertility method, menstrual calendar and natural family planning for info. Good luck.
 

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I would suggest a different method of birth control. I was on the pill years ago and, though it cleared up my acne, it caused extreme mood swings and weight gain, among other issues. Perhaps a (non-hormonal) IUD would be more suitable for her.

For her skin, I'd suggest looking into dietary changes and/or consulting a homeopath/naturopath.
 

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See, that's the effect it had on you. My pal had a completely different side effect.

Yeah, I haven't heard of Nuva Ring doing anything for any of its users acne.

I went on Depo Provera and didn't stop bleeding for 93 days. I got anemic and developed severe migraines along with moodswings that turned me into an entirely different person. All that plus needing fertility drugs to get pregnant. It's 90 days worth of progesterone injected into your body at one time. It's not healthy. They also have used it in prisons to chemically castrate the rapist and child molesters. It has the same effect on most females that take it.

Also that isn't going to help with hormonal acne. The hormonal acne is attributed to testosterone and androgen levels produced by the ovaries and pituitary. The only way to get those under control is to hormonally effect them and not with a 90 day supply of progesterone in a syringe.

Dolfette is giving some of the best advice when it comes to how this stuff works. Listen to her.
 
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Ok so i need some womens advice/help on this matter.
I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. It started out amazing, she was dating a guy for 4 years prior to me, and remained a virgin due to the fact she didnt love him. After 4 months, she gave it up to me, and it was amazing. I love her more than anything, i actually think i am obsessed. Now here is the issue, last year she was all about me. Gave me so much attention, super affectionate, very sexual but she was not on birth control.

Her hormones were out of sync, and she began breaking out on her face, and it killed her confidence. So me, being a selfish male suggested birth control with my own selfish intent of not having to wear a ruber, but i also knew it would clear up her acne. So she started on Birth control last year, and it did clear up her acne, however it killed her sex drive 100%. Before she used to get extremely extremely aroused and wet, now she cannot get wet one bit.

Sex is extremely painful for her now, we have tried every lube out there, but when a women cannot get aroused, its not the same for her, or me. We havent had real sex (meaning more than me putting my penis in, and letting her use her vibrator on her clit to climax, due to the pain) in over a year.

It is messing with my head major, she doesnt seem at all interested in me sexually or intimately. She knows its not normal, and she hates how she has no sex drive, but she is worried about breaking out. But this is taking a huge toll on my confidence and head. I have stayed 100% faithful to her, even with her lack of interest but its getting hard. I am getting older, and i am a very romantic, compasionate male. Intimate sex, NOT FUCKING is very important to me and its gone in this relationship.

Her sensitivity is completely different, she said it no longer feels good if i rub her vagina, and it only occasionally feels good when i go down on her. I dont want to lose her, but to be honest it is really messing with my head. I hope it doesnt sound selfish, but to be with someone who doesnt seem sexually interested is hard, especially when you would give your whole world to make them happy.

Any suggestions? maybe herbal supplements to increase her sex drive, etc?

Thanks in advance
You sound like a lovely guy - best of luck to ya. :)