Marina67
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So many great responses already! I'm late in this, but definitely want to add some feedback, starting with the initial questions.
<b>What is "average sex?"</b> For starters, I've probably had a lot less sex, and definitely a lot less decent sex than many, here. With that said, I think probably 80% of the sex I've ever had was mediocre or average, at best. Of the remaining 20%,I would say that most of that (I'll guess 3/4 of all the good to great) is attributable to one lover only. It was good to great based less so on physical technique, than emotional/mental variables. Though I have had very good mechanical sex, it has never been better than when the mental and emotional sex was in sync. Some of the other guys were proud of their techniques, but without the emotional/mental factor, it's never been as good as the other stuff. In short, average sex - to me - is when there's little/no heart and mind in it.
With that said, I've had years of "average" sex and in context of a relationship, it can be okay if we both just want that and little else.
Admittedly this also came from me having mediocre relationships for the most part. It took me years of finally realizing I didn't need/want some of those relationships and it was good to end them.
In the past, I think I have had bad sex. It was too mechanical and/or the passion just wasn't there.
So, I'm curious. Once the "act" is over, do you mull it over in your mind..."mnn... yeah, that was just average sex."
What is average sex?
Are you happy with average sex?
Or do you always want something more or something better?
Or is this just a "grass is greener" thing?
Thanks,
Within One Stand Dev
<b>What is "average sex?"</b> For starters, I've probably had a lot less sex, and definitely a lot less decent sex than many, here. With that said, I think probably 80% of the sex I've ever had was mediocre or average, at best. Of the remaining 20%,I would say that most of that (I'll guess 3/4 of all the good to great) is attributable to one lover only. It was good to great based less so on physical technique, than emotional/mental variables. Though I have had very good mechanical sex, it has never been better than when the mental and emotional sex was in sync. Some of the other guys were proud of their techniques, but without the emotional/mental factor, it's never been as good as the other stuff. In short, average sex - to me - is when there's little/no heart and mind in it.
With that said, I've had years of "average" sex and in context of a relationship, it can be okay if we both just want that and little else.
Admittedly this also came from me having mediocre relationships for the most part. It took me years of finally realizing I didn't need/want some of those relationships and it was good to end them.