Women, is it a problem if your guy is in better shape than you?

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It's just how it is, I'm not anorexic ore anything, I love my fast foods, and eat everything at all times. But my body just stay the same. My body just burn fat really fast ore something.

In all seriousness, that weight and height put you up for some serious health risks. Increasing your food intake is obviously something to do, but working out to add muscle mass as well could really help.

I still find BMI to be a pretty good tool for estimating proper weight and height.

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There is a theory that relationships between people of similar levels of atractiveness work best. Sure, there are many relationships that seem to go against this but how long do they last? I'm a pretty good looking guy but I fluctuate between 20-60 lbs overweight. I was married to a very attractive, lithe woman 5 years younger than me and she left me when I hit that 60. My weight was only mentioned once, way down the list of reasons but I know for sure that several of her friends were telling her she could do better. With the benifit of hindsight i'm pretty sure our 12 year relationship had been kickstarted by her own insecurities. She grew up thinking she was 'ugly' because of glasses and freckles and met me at a time when I was quite rich and even a little famous so who knows?

Now i'm with a woman who is similarly attractive. I'm maybe 30 lbs overweight and it's going down and it turns out she's quite worried that as I lose it, i'll become too attractive to other women so I have to reassure her that she's gorgeous (she is). Basically, she has a killer body and an uncoventionally beautiful face while I have a the face on top of a rather overweight body. She seems genuinely concerned that a slim version of me will be out of her league...

So what happens now?, I slowly erode the lack of self confidence her dickhead ex-husband gave her then risk, if I put the weight back on, her thinking she can 'do better'.

It'll be good inspiration to keep the weight off anyway :)
 

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I think you need to find a woman who is secure in who she is and who accepts you for who you are. All this drama you're involved in seems like quite a waste to me.


There is a theory that relationships between people of similar levels of atractiveness work best. Sure, there are many relationships that seem to go against this but how long do they last? I'm a pretty good looking guy but I fluctuate between 20-60 lbs overweight. I was married to a very attractive, lithe woman 5 years younger than me and she left me when I hit that 60. My weight was only mentioned once, way down the list of reasons but I know for sure that several of her friends were telling her she could do better. With the benifit of hindsight i'm pretty sure our 12 year relationship had been kickstarted by her own insecurities. She grew up thinking she was 'ugly' because of glasses and freckles and met me at a time when I was quite rich and even a little famous so who knows?

Now i'm with a woman who is similarly attractive. I'm maybe 30 lbs overweight and it's going down and it turns out she's quite worried that as I lose it, i'll become too attractive to other women so I have to reassure her that she's gorgeous (she is). Basically, she has a killer body and an uncoventionally beautiful face while I have a the face on top of a rather overweight body. She seems genuinely concerned that a slim version of me will be out of her league...

So what happens now?, I slowly erode the lack of self confidence her dickhead ex-husband gave her then risk, if I put the weight back on, her thinking she can 'do better'.

It'll be good inspiration to keep the weight off anyway :)
 

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I think a better question would be "Women/Men, is it a problem if your guy/gal is in worse shape than you?"

I concur. I'm 5'10"/155 which I guess is average by all accounts, and I've never been in better shape than any of my partners. That hasn't bothered any of them, I don't think it would matter if the opposite were true either.
 

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I think you need to find a woman who is secure in who she is and who accepts you for who you are. All this drama you're involved in seems like quite a waste to me.

On re-reading that, I think I phrased things lightly wrong. She is very cool and confident, that's exactly what I fell in love with. I am completely turned off by insecure women because of what happened with my ex wife (and other women since). I'm completely phobic of finding i'm in a relationship which might be built on a woman's insecurities.

So when this lovely woman jokingly says something like "you keep losing weight like this and i'll start getting worried about other women" I hear alarm bells when I should just take it as a simple compliment.

The theory of relative attractiveness is a separate issue, once explained to me by a drunk psychologist who asserted that "people tend to settle down with people of similar attractiveness, the alternative rarely works" which I found hard to argue with. The only real exceptions I can think of being propped up by external factors like money and religion and maybe, just maybe, somewhere on the planet some gorgeous size queen is fucking a hideous troll because of his enormous cock.
 

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"Women, is it a problem if your guy is in better shape than you? "

The fact that my SO isn't is becoming an issue, yes.

My husband is not fat, but not cut anymore.Doesn't exercise, isn't active. I gained weight with my pregnancies and am now back on track, just lost 41 pounds, go to the gym 6 days a week, watch what I eat.. all that. I wish he would be more active and go on walks with me at least.

It's a problem.
 

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"people tend to settle down with people of similar attractiveness, the alternative rarely works" which I found hard to argue with. The only real exceptions I can think of being propped up by external factors like money and religion and maybe, just maybe, somewhere on the planet some gorgeous size queen is fucking a hideous troll because of his enormous cock.

I've seen countless numbers of couple who are not matched in attractiveness. I don't really buy this as a theory because my experience tells me otherwise. My job causes me to be in contact and look closely at many, many couples. I've never seen the amount of similarity that is described across the board.
 

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Not a problem at all. I'm just want whoever I'm with to be healthy and happy. I usually attract athletic types. Someone who doesn't do the smoking as well as drinking excessively. My long time BF put on a bit of weight but I have too. I began to lose some and he had a big problem with it at first. Now I get chased around daily :wink:.

Hey, is it true that a man gains an inch in penis length for every 20 - 30 lbs lost?
 

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I once wore out a female marine while having sex, i thought that was funny since she made it through two days of the gauntlet but couldn`t make it through one day of me.:rolleyes:
Yes, i`m proud of myself, i always thought they should put sex in the olympics. I wonder if that would give a whole new meaning to standing up to the competition, especially since you`d have to be viagra free, ha ha.


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Not a problem at all. I'm just want whoever I'm with to be healthy and happy. I usually attract athletic types. Someone who doesn't do the smoking as well as drinking excessively. My long time BF put on a bit of weight but I have too. I began to lose some and he had a big problem with it at first. Now I get chased around daily :wink:.

Hey, is it true that a man gains an inch in penis length for every 20 - 30 lbs lost?

that could be bad for me
I may windup lethal if I keep trimming down lol
 

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I've seen countless numbers of couple who are not matched in attractiveness. I don't really buy this as a theory because my experience tells me otherwise. My job causes me to be in contact and look closely at many, many couples. I've never seen the amount of similarity that is described across the board.

Well, I must know some very shallow people compared to you. If I think of the couples I know that are miss-matched, there are a few of very succesful guys with women that are way better looking than them (the obvious example). A completely gorgeous looking, athletic guy with a barely average looking, slightly overweight woman but they are devout christians and devoted parents. I also work with a guy who lookswise, is way out of the league of his girl but then, he's a total geek and personalitywise, she's one of the funniest, coolest women i've met way out of his so maybe it all balances out.

Meanwhile, another friend, a very mellow, spiritual, skinny guy with looks destroyed by a bad drug habit in his past, spent seven years with an absolutely stunning woman he rescued from an abusive relationship. She left him recently saying "You saved my life and were just what I needed but i'm cured of my fear of real men and i've been fucking the policeman next door".

Another friend of mine is married to possibly the most gorgeous woman i've ever seen up close. The night I met her we were drunk in their kitchen with her hands inside my clothes. He's shorter than her, average looking but is a property developer and songwriter who lets her do whatever she wants, including fuck around. He's slightly embarrassed by her behaviour and has said to me since "it's the price I pay for being with a woman like her"....

Yeah, there are exceptions but in my experience, there is usually a story behind them but maybe i'm cynical because of my own ex-wife who revealed herself to be depressingly shallow a few years ago.
 

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that all really sucks man
especially the girl who left the guy who saved her life
sorry, but she's scum
I'm nto saying that she had to stay with him cus she owed him or anything like that but she owed him more respect then the way she left him
she's rock bottom gutterslut...
 

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I feel am in very good shape(check the gallery) but my wife often says that I am too skinny. I am not sure if she really feels that way or it a says it because she has gained about 20lbs since we were married 25yrs. ago. 20 lbs in 25lbs certainly isnt excessive, in fact I sure it is less than average, but I know it does bother her some, and me being about the same weight as when meet in high school probably doesn't help.
As a competive cyclist/triathlete I train 7 to 15 a week and she supports me 100% as I spend a small fortune on equipment and spend as much free time with training partners as her some weeks and never once complains.
When she does mention that I would look better with a few more pounds on my bones I ask her if she has ever seen a well hung fat man? that usually ends the conversation as we head for the bedroom
 

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Hell no! I want him in good shape so he can keep up with me!
 

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It's not a problem for me, My boyfriend is inn much better shape then me, he like have a personal trainer and work out, runn's and stuff like that all the time, and look's really good, and me on the other hand, don't do all of that, I usually take a long walk every day, but I don't work-out really. I'm like 99pounds ore something, and like 5.6 feet ore something, so it's not like i'm fat, but just not inn shape ore whatever.
He always make me feel good no mather what I look like, so I have nothing to worry about whit him and his shape.

Yes dear, PLEASE eat something! You're going to waste away! Having suffered through a harrowing bout of anorexia myself, I think you may be in denial about it. Or perhaps you're Asian with a super fast metabolism? Anyway, i'm just trying to look out for your health.
 

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In all seriousness, that weight and height put you up for some serious health risks. Increasing your food intake is obviously something to do, but working out to add muscle mass as well could really help.

I still find BMI to be a pretty good tool for estimating proper weight and height.

Calculate your BMI - Standard BMI Calculator

I don't really like working out, I walk like an hour a day whit my dog's, so it's not like I don't move ore anything, but going to a gym is'nt really for me.
I know my BMI is low ore whatever, but I am happy whit the way i look and feel, so I don't really care about that.
 

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Yes dear, PLEASE eat something! You're going to waste away! Having suffered through a harrowing bout of anorexia myself, I think you may be in denial about it. Or perhaps you're Asian with a super fast metabolism? Anyway, i'm just trying to look out for your health.

I'm sorry to hear about what you'we been throu, but i'm not anorexic, I love to eat food and a lot of other things to, I world never stopp eathing ore abything like that. I don't care it I put on som Ibs ore not, but as long as i can eat alot whitout putting anything on, I am happy whit that.
And no, i'm not asian, I am whit, but my body just burn fat really fast ore something.
My frind is the same way, she can eat like everything and dont putt on anything, she's like 25-30p more then me, and lik 2'' higher then me, but the point is that she burn fat really fast to, her wight is always the same no mather what she eat's, just like mine.

I understand that you'r just trying to help, and that's nice of you, but I'm not sick, and eat a lot, so it's just how it is.
 

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I've never been into the gym scene. It's kind of creepy, and in a way, pathetic.

I don't mean that as harsh as it sounds. I commend the people who have the discipline and motivation to get their bodies looking good. I just always felt I was more of a bohemian/hippie kind of guy, and not all about the strict standards our society puts on our lives. Health is one thing, trying to look that good to keep another human's interest is another.
I agree to a certain extent. I've never been attracted to the idea of working out to appear more attractive to the ladies, but I do love working out! I do it because I like being active, pushing myself in the gym and having a contest with myself each workout. I do it because I want to be fit and healthy and really test my body. The fact that it 'improves' my physique isn't all that important. Yes, I don't mind looking in the mirror and seeing what I've achieved but that's because its a reflection of the hard work I've been putting in. Someone once asked me why I bothered training since I had a girlfriend, I just laughed.

As far as I know me being in better shape than my gf doesn't bother her and vice versa. The fact that she is 'overweight' doesn't bother me and will only be an issue for me if its making her unhappy.