Blacktightfit, I tend to disagree with you. I tried it with a man but it didn't work. I think homosexuality is a nature/nurture issue. Therefore it's not totally genetic or written in stone. Defensive detachment is a big reason why I haven't pursued women more than men. I think a lot of men who do men are actually looking for affirmation or affection that they didn't get as a child, and as puberty sets in, they begin to eroticize an archetype they felt they could never measure up to. Deep down inside, I always envied men who had a loving wife and a family. I became an adult the child I used to be could not respect. I can totally understand your feeling used by a gay man to mainstream himself into norms or ideals of society. What if that gay man had been celibate for sometime then met you and you where the most special thing that has ever happened to him. BTW, I think you are gorgeous. Hope this helps. It is just my opinion though.