I found it a few years ago. Someone has asked me about labiaplasty. I knew what it was but had not seen the outcome. I looked it up. Somewhere there was a link to this site. I thought it was a joke. I did read some posts. Never intended to stick around. Then I see the thread about the second vagina. Guys who were convinced they were entering the cervix and into the uterus with their penis. Swore they could feel it. Then I saw other guys joining the thread with " me too". I was sure I'd see some of the older guys come on and set these kids straight. Surely, I thought no adult male believes this. The uterus makes an angle,the penis could not. The cervix would not allow such a thing. There would be incredible pain. Can you think of labor pain?
Labor and delivery are a big part of my job and my BIL is an OB/GYN. I just had to reply to that post. But, I could not without joining. What to do....
So finally I did join. I chose the name mumzi . It was a nickname my grandmum gave me when I was pregnant. I chose a very domestic name because I did not want to confuse anyone.
I posted a few rounds. I told my husband about this site. I have to admit I was amazed at some of the posts. He didn't seem at all surprised,and said only that guys can get raunchy when they get together. I was surprised that he wasn't surprised.
We've been married 24ish years. He's 6'5". Maybe 225 lbs. big guy and has always been a big guy. A few months after we were married we happend to have sex after painting one of the rooms we were fixing up. He took the opportunity to suggest measuring him.
He had measured his erection before, tho I didn't know it. Our first time in bed was not easy because he is a big guy " all over" which is how he tried to explain to me before we had sex. He knew I'd only has one partner and it has been some time ago. Our first few times were not the simple romantic making love I'd imagined. But we coped and life went on.
Being a couple all this time we know what works better for us. One position is him behind me some what. Missionary with legs more closed is good. Otherwise he has to be more careful and nothing we can do about that.
I've learned from this site though. When we measured him it was with a ruler. Then some string and the ruler. He was somewhere between 7 to 8". That's not really accurate. And girth is more of a problem.
But I didn't really know or understand why he'd even think of measuring. I really didn't have much concept of erection size. He has big hands, he has a larger torso, to me he looked quite normal.
I've learned how much men focus on their penis. Early on when I first began to read this site it was for the most part the medical related posts. I'd gravitate toward the subject anyway.
But when reading many of the posts here, all I could think was " bunch of perverts".
Then in time I'd read other posts and soon realized that there were some very intelligent, very human people behind these posts.
So which was it? Was this board just a bunch of nuts or was it just some normal guys ( and gals) who were just a lot less inhibited than I was. And... That most men it seemed , for what ever reason were very preoccupied with their penis. And i began to come to the conclusion that is was pretty normal. Id also think back to the times I'd tell my husband about some of the posts. I really thought he'd look a little more surprised. I know hes much more open minded, but I still thought he'd have a different reaction. He didn't. Just seemed to think guys being guys.
I've begun to realize how little I knew about my hubby's sexuality as far as his relationship with his penis. I think now I realize that his size does matter to him. The night we measured him, it was important to him, how I saw him and what I thought of his penis was much more important than I'd known. Now, I also know that he realizes how I was raised and that I truly loved him, not just his penis, which from my point of view was as good as it gets .
I wish, in a way that I'd known more sooner. But I don't know that anything would have been any different. We've always had a good sex life and tho it took time, I grew in my sexuality quite a bit in those years.
I had never asked him about the night we measured until I'd read this site for some time.
I didn't have a reason to. But a few years ago I did. Of course he had measured his erection. So did his brother. Many times, probably from the time they were teens. He said he believed most kids measured their erection at some point, in some way. And yes, being larger fed his ego. Being tall fed his ego. Buffing up , fed his ego. When you think about it, any compliment feeds our egos.
I can remember sitting at the hair salon with a few other ladies. Some I knew. The subject turned to men. Then sex and some one brought up size. Of course there were examples of how far one woman could put her fingers around one guys penis. Other measurement examples. Someone began to quote stats. I remember being a little amused. But i never told them anything about my husbands penis, or discussed what I felt would have been too personal. To me, discussing his size or a anything about his genitals to someone else was just an invasion of privacy. But his size was no more of a discussion or issue than the color of his hair. To me. I'd never really researched the size of the erect penis. I'm sure we covered basic size of the penis in nursing school, and probably what would constitute a medical problem. I do remember a time when one woman brought up the fact that a friend was dating a guy who wasn't circumcised. She seemed horrified. I tried to explain what a foreskin was and what it looked like. I think she believed I was speaking from a medical point of view. Soon it seemed all 6 women in the shop were involved in the discussion.
It was then that I explained that my husband was not , and I was speaking from personal experience. Hopefully I convinced them that the foreskin was not " icky".
But other than that, penis size wasn't much of an issue.
Life happened. Kids, building a practice and saving to buy/build a home.
Lot of distractions with his brother and his fiancé. They've been together 10-15 years, but due to her unrelenting jealousy, the relationship has been on and off....caused us all some heartache.
Once I'd gotten past my first few posts here, I'd read a few of the medically related posts.
I stuck to those, but now and then I'd see something that was different, but interesting.
All the while vacillating between thinking the posters here were somewhat likeable pervs to interesting people who really had no problems expressing themselves.
I'd never planned to stick around because I was just busy. But now and then I'd click the site and read a few posts. We got very busy and because much of my family is from wales, my husband wanted to take me there an continue to research my family tree.
Eventually got a new laptop, the iPad . Didnt look at the site for a few years. When I was clearing out the older laptop I saw the bookmark for this site. I had forgotten where exactly it was. I forwarded the link to my iPad and checked now and then.
Same old......same old, I thought.
But I really did realize that even in my 40s now, I'd learned a lot . Seeing that this site has people from all walks of life, all ages and from all over the world, one can get a pretty good snapshot of the average guy. ( wow can you get some snapshots here! )
No more could I think that just certain people frequent this site. It was a real education. A look into the average guys view on sex and women and of course, the penis. Sure, there are other men with other views, but this view is eye opening.
I might even encourage hubby to wear some of his tight,crotch hugging jeans out ( with me!) rather than comment " you're not wearing that out in public are you?".
I have started and stopped this post 7-8 times now. Im almost afraid to read it. I have a patient who is due in 3 weeks.
6th pregnancy, first to go to term. They've been trying for 10 years. She wants to deliver at home. Pregnancy and baby look good and see no reason why not to deliver at home. But because she lost so many babies, it concerns me. There will be an MD standing by.
She's worried and I'm antsy. So I'm sure this post is rambling. But if I don't send this now, I may not get back to it.
So, do now intend to announce to my friends that I've studied at the college of LPSG?
Nah!