Women on Adult Matchmaking Sites - Scam or Legit?

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by fake, Jul 25, 2011.

  1. fake

    fake Member

    Joined:
    Jan 17, 2007
    Messages:
    38
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    3
    Questions for the ladies out there...
    Q: What if any Adult Matchmaking / Casual Hookup Sites do you use?

    Then one for everyone...
    Q: What casual hookup site is populated by the least amount of fake profiles?


    I'm convenced they are all just a scam to get your membership fees and give you nothing in return. Curious to hear other perspectives.
     
  2. AlteredEgo

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2006
    Messages:
    14,458
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    6,550
    Location:
    United States
    I used Match, OkCupid, PlentyOfFish, and for a very brief moment, Yahoo when I was single
     
  3. lik2c

    lik2c New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 26, 2011
    Messages:
    20
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Texas
    I've had positive experiences with Adult Friend Finder.
     
  4. fake

    fake Member

    Joined:
    Jan 17, 2007
    Messages:
    38
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    3
    Yeah, that seems like the biggest one, and possibly most legit? Did you meet anyone from the site in person?

    I've been trying HorneyMatches.com, AdultMatchdoctor.com, and Plentyoffish. Its only been a day, but so far I've only had dead-end email conversations.
     
  5. AlteredEgo

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2006
    Messages:
    14,458
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    6,550
    Location:
    United States
    You're a dude. Unless you are trying to hook up with other dudes, it is going to be slow. When I was forced to guess how many messages I ignored every day when I was using the sites I mentioned, I'd guess somewhere between seven and ten on each site. That's hundreds of ignored messages monthly. I didn't end up meeting every guy I wrote back to either (though I was nice enough, usually, to tell them it wasn't working out if it wasn't). But I did fuck nearly every guy I met up with. It's just not going to be like that for you though, because you're a dude. The only thing you can do is make sure you stand out from the scores of other men trying to get a woman's attention each week.
     
  6. fake

    fake Member

    Joined:
    Jan 17, 2007
    Messages:
    38
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    3
    What kind of stuff would make you auto-ignore messages?
     
  7. Opalite

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 12, 2008
    Messages:
    1,134
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    At home
    None. Never tried, and not interested in doing so. I like my internets to stay what they are; as anonymous as I can get it. If I want to meet guys, I get out and do so. Not to say anyone who does like online dating shouldn't do so, but perhaps just that I'm still too old-fashioned to do so.
     
  8. VernalTiger

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 9, 2010
    Messages:
    553
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    43
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Melbourne (VIC, AU)
    Verified:
    Photo
    My experience is pretty much exactly the same as AlteredEgo... As a new woman on a site, you get swamped with messages. I'd log on and find 20-30 some days. These days I might only log on once a week or so, depending on notifications.

    Frankly, the difference between replying or not replying a message is pretty arbitrary in those early days. Maybe he's too short. Maybe he misspelled your name. Maybe he mentioned a band you hate. Maybe he sent a short and unimaginative message. Maybe he ignored your age preferences.

    There's a lot of reasons why a woman doesn't reply to a message. It may also just be that your message got lost in the deluge. It's not always personal.
     
  9. thido1

    thido1 New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2011
    Messages:
    23
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    17
    Gender:
    Female
    Datehookup is one that I use
    Good forums and fun people
    Only met a handful in person but the forums are good
     
  10. Gecko4lif

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 10, 2010
    Messages:
    2,294
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    26
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Pensacola , Fl
    Any site where you have to pay to talk to women is a scam.
     
  11. D_JohnQPubic

    D_JohnQPubic New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 4, 2011
    Messages:
    261
    Likes Received:
    1
    Adult Friend Finder has been very good for me.

    Others I tried had virtually nothing but fake profiles. AFF has its share as well but it's easy to spot them: if they are young, beautiful, have only one photo and a short profile saying how much they like mature men, well...

    Real profiles are pretty obvious, the people look ordinary for the most part and have more than one photo. The photos actually match the description (I am always amazed at a profile where that is not the case).

    Anyway, I've been on AFF for about 18 months. I have had sex with seven women as a result, three of which are now regular partners. There are lots of women who are interested in NSA sex, but don't expect one night stands, necessarily, anymore than you expect to get caught up in a long term relationship. Be real, be willing to talk, and don't be a jerk. Hey wait, that sounds like normal dating! No kidding, that's what it is, except that in this case you know the woman you are talking to is as interested in getting laid as you are, but that doesn't mean she is into screwing complete strangers or rude assholes.

    If you're a good-looking, well endowed guy, consider looking at couples profiles where a wife wants sex with a bigger cock and the husband wants to watch. It's a freakin' blast!

    It does work, take time to write a good profile and be patient. If you choose to try AFF, drop the bucks and pay for a membership, you will be taken more seriously by other members.

    Good luck!
     
  12. D_JohnQPubic

    D_JohnQPubic New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 4, 2011
    Messages:
    261
    Likes Received:
    1
    Sorry! You asked the ladies, not me. I should read more for comprehension. Well, my answer stands...

     
  13. D_Hey Sailor

    D_Hey Sailor New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 10, 2011
    Messages:
    341
    Likes Received:
    1
    I just started to use OkCupid this month and have had good results. The system they use is straight forward and functional, the fee is fair, and nobody I've met has been a letdown, so no complaints. You'll invariably run into the problems with online embellishment, or going from being really appealing to not at all in the course of a couple messages, but they're easy enough to weed out or ignore if you have your wits about you.


    Adult Friend Finder sounds a bit intriguing. How thorough can be with your criteria when searching for people? And is it one of those "only the hardcore need apply" type deals? I had never heard of it until just now. I suppose if casual sex is what is sought, this is the most straight forward site?
     
  14. B_Bjen2848

    B_Bjen2848 New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 17, 2007
    Messages:
    950
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Mars, vacate in the bermuda triangle

    Q1 - im not a lady, but i think any girl who is hotter than a 3 doesn't need a website service to "hook up", they can easily find a penis anywhere if they need sex, so looking for one on a website, is at best, a waste of time
    Q2 - i have no idea, but its probably a similar ratio to LPSG, very few real women, and those who are real, only a small handful you would actually consider hopping in bed with

    and your last comment is most likely all you need to know

    think of it like this

    how many women out there can honestly say they just can't get laid? they don't need a website (especially pay for a website) to find a willing penis to hook up with. and if a woman really needs a website just to have sex, what kind of person do you think is on the other side of the screen? what im thinking of is a post op tranny who could be easily confused with a crossbreed of an elephant and flavor flav with herpes (aka, NOT the most attractive person). with that being said, what if you do find a decent, real woman with out any ridiculous stipulations or diseases, she probably has her inbox LOADED with creepy guys all over the world telling them what they already know

    "hey, you're hot ;-), look at my pics"

    so she probably is just looking for validation of how hot she is, and if she is looking for sex, she is probably going to sift out all the creepy messages (all of them) to find a guy who doesn't come off as a potential MSNBC child molester (which is probably very hard to find someone who doesn't give that vibe off on a website like that)

    so my advice is this, if you want to get laid, the first thing you need to do is step away from your computer and put yourself out there, there is no need to waste your time & money sending messages and wanking to fake profiles crossing your fingers that a megan fox look-a-like is replying
     
  15. syphon80

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 21, 2011
    Messages:
    168
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    chicago
    Verified:
    Photo
    Okcupid and Plentyoffish, free and youll get plenty of hits.. Ive gotten quite a few hookups through these sites..
    Although I must say, the majority of them are under 23 from what ive seen, and the older ones are usually single moms.. Nothing wrong with either though.
     
  16. AlteredEgo

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2006
    Messages:
    14,458
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    6,550
    Location:
    United States
    Typos are a big mood killer for me. It makes me feel like he doesn't care, and doesn't think particularly highly of me at worst, and he's not very bright at best. So use spell-check. It doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to look like you give a shit.

    I was not into one-night stands. I wanted casual, no-strings relationships. We could call each other up when horny, and know the sex would be available and good, and not worry about who else might have been there the previous night. So I wanted the guys to be the sort I could be friends with. If the dude came across in his initial contact or profile as arrogant, superficial, or anything else I don't consider a great quality in a friend, I didn't get back to him.

    I wanted to be treated like a person, not a life-support system for excellent pussy. So anything that was too objectifying got ignored. I know what I look like. I knew if a dude wrote to me it meant my pictures made his dick hard. I wanted some indication that he'd read what I took the time to write. My profiles were very explicit regarding what I was looking for. He needed to indicate somehow that he fit the bill, or I ignored him.

    I was looking for a friend to fuck. The sex was the most important, but I needed to know we could be friends. I wanted regular, dependable sex from someone I liked and trusted. So being able and willing to make a friendship was important too. Any indication that we could not be friends was a flag and I ignored the guy.

    No pictures? No way.

    No useful information in his profile? Next.

    No personality in his profile? Next.

    What would make me instantly write back? Reasonably attractive photos (I allowed for the possibility that a dude wasn't photogenic), especially photos of the guy out having fun (but not looking trashed). A polite, well-written response to the words in my profile. Polite compliments, even about my pictures, just not to the point they come across as sleazy. Some signs of life- a glimpse of his sense of humor, an impression of a busy schedule. The very best impression a dude could leave on me would have been that be was very busy, very happy, and just thought I was cool enough to let in on what little time he had for fun. It was a mirror of my own situation. I was very busy, very happy, and just looking for a small number of guys to let in on what little time I had for fun.

    The core of my advice? Figure out what a woman wants and promise it to her (if you can deliver). They don't all want what I wanted. You may not want what I wanted, in fact.
     
  17. EllieP

    Staff Member Moderator Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 21, 2009
    Messages:
    7,866
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    3,766
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Florida
    Well, Bjen, darling, you're wrong. I think I'm good looking and maybe higher than a 3, but I had to go to a dating service years ago when I thought things were hopeless. I was a single parent, so that adds a new wrinkle.

    Also, I kinda wanted something more than a penis. There's a lot of skin attached to one of those, and it helped if that skin had social skills.

    So I went celibate until I spent a small fortune to have someone "hook me up." Yes, I met some let's call them "interesting" people. But I've met a couple of guys that I thought the same thing, "Wow, you could get any girl you wanted, why do you pay somebody?"
     
  18. B_Bjen2848

    B_Bjen2848 New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 17, 2007
    Messages:
    950
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Mars, vacate in the bermuda triangle


    i understand the appeal of a dating service, for a busy, single mother like yourself, you don't have the time to just spend a weekend to go out and mingle with people because you have much more responsibilties other than yourself to take care of .. i was thinking more along the lines of those sketchy sex service websites that pop up every time you look at a porn lol
     
  19. AlteredEgo

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2006
    Messages:
    14,458
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    6,550
    Location:
    United States
    Bjen doesn't know what he's talking about. I'm pretty, and have a nice body. It was easier for me to find exactly what I was looking for online. In person, it was just harder, and when I was in a situation where I could talk to lots of guys I didn't know, I was usually intoxicated, or they were. When looking online, I was sober and discerning, and there was the giant boundary of my anonymity yet to cross. It made me feel more comfortable that I could keep a guy so far away while I got to know him better and decide if I wanted to add him to the roster, or vanish completely if he freaked me out. A dude I met in a bus stop, a coffee shop, a bar, or wherever already knows where to find me if I stop talking to him. And believe me, they come find you and try to talk you into reestablishing those lines of communication. I found it easier to to get men to comply with my proof of health policy online because they had to commit to it to get past talking to me on the phone. I found it easier to talk freely about my sexual interests with a stranger online than with a stranger in person. I found that men I tried to be honest with in person thought of me as a slut or a vagina with fantastic tits. Online it was easier to find guys who just thought it was cool that a bright articulate woman like me could be so into casual sexual exploration, and that it was a bonus that I'm not too hard to look at and lots of fun to touch. Bjen should stick to expounding about his own experience. He has no idea what it is like to be a woman.
     
    #19 AlteredEgo, Jul 25, 2011
    Last edited: Jul 25, 2011
  20. banana_pancakes198

    banana_pancakes198 New Member

    Joined:
    May 9, 2011
    Messages:
    82
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Female
    I'm on AFF and I have had plenty of luck. I have two current FB's from that site.
     
Draft saved Draft deleted