B_cosmognosis
Experimental Member
The thing is, just as it is online, the majority of men who approach me for sex in person are unattractive to me for one reason or another. Actually, they all are. I hate to be approached face to face. It makes me really uncomfortable, and instantly scratches the dude off the list of possible candidates. There is no way under the sun that a man coming to talk to me in person is ever getting laid by me. My heart races, I go into panic mode and cannot wait to find a polite way to escape. But skipping my personal weirdness, even the vast majority of men I have ever approached to see if I wanted sex from them turned out to be either stupid, boring, cock-centric (that is, too much discussion of their giant dicks too soon without solicitation), or just not as physically attractive to me up close as they had been when I first spotted them. Of the ones I was still interested in sleeping with after a conversation, I still ended up not fucking most of them because I determined we were not looking for the exact same situation or had some other sexual incompatibility I didn't want to deal with. I really don't think that part is so odd. The fact is, I am actually sexually interested in very few men, and even fewer women from any given population. But that's true of a lot of people. A lot of people are very discriminating when it comes to sex partners. So adding the internet sites to my options was the obvious solution. And sorting men online is waaaaay easier than sorting them in person. Getting rid of rejects is even easier online.
I made the mistake of telling my first name to a guy in the post office once. (Or maybe it was the subway station, or the bus stop. I just remember it was my neighborhood.) I let him hold my hand so he could show me a trick. The trick turned out to just be him holding my hand. Cute, but still. . . creepy. Plus, he wasn't my type, and he'd approached me and I was already very nervous and uneasy. So I wished him a good day, and left. That guy followed me around every time he spotted me for YEARS. Online, I decide a guy just isn't doing it for me, and I send him a quick note telling him so and block him. BOOM! He's gone forever. If he recognizes me on another site and tries to reconnect, I simply ignore him until he goes away, or block him again. If he has my email address, I send him straight to Spam. If he has my cell phone number, I send his calls to VM. Easy.
I'm just going to have to keep asserting that you don't know what you're talking about. There is no real difference other than what venue happens to work best for each individual. Whether in person or online, I would still have the same ratio of rejections to acceptances. I just encountered more men online than in person who expressed an interest, so the number of rejections was higher, but the ratio of dudes in contact and rejected to dudes in contact and bedded is about the same.
This was very educational. Thank you. I don't think your 'weirdness' is as uncommon as you might think. It certainly makes perfect sense for you to have evolved a nearly perfect way of keeping your disappointments to a minimum and maximizing the quality of your interactions with the least amount of drama possible. I think many more women do this that we men are aware of.
My dating experience online...well, let's just say this. The first time I sat down and logged into a free chatroom, wearing my boxers and drinking a beer, and ended up getting laid that same night after a couple hours of conversation, my whole life changed. That was the beginning of a learning curve that continues to this day. I will again thank the above poster for contributing to my knowledge base.