Women or Men, who make better friends?

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  1. naughty

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    HI,

    I noticed that a number of the women here tend to have more male friends than they do women. Why do you think that is ? I do have a few female friends but I am usually surprised at the way in which women tend to deal with one another... What do you think?


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  2. madame_zora

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    Honestly, when I find a woman friend, she's usually a keeper, I just don't have a lot of them. I tend to have more male friends both gay and straight, I think I just have more male personality traits so it just feels more comfortable for me.
     
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    I agree with you both. Although I am a "girly girl" HA! I do tend to have more male friends than females. As a general rule, unfortunately, it is difficult for "us" to get alone with each other. Maybe we are a more complicated breed. Men confront their issues head on and are usually done with it. We, on the other hand, might confront the issue but hold grudges and hold them for an eternity. Just speaking the truth...

    Jana makes a good point about female friends being hard to come by. In my experience, when you find a true female friend, keep her. They are precious gems and are rare to find....
     
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    Amen!
    The few female friends I have had probably since childhood.! They have my back and I have theirs. You ladies are cool though I hope to get to know both of you better .You are pretty evolved .But then maybe most of he women on here have a bit more testosterone than the average female.One thing I do notice is that women who genuinely have more male friends dont tend see other women in quite such a threatening manner and tend to deal with others in a more straight up fashion. One of my girlfriends, I will tell in a heart beat "I am going to tell you something right now that will make you want to smack the taste out of my mouth, but that is waht real friends are for. After you ignore me for about week we will be fine ,because you arent getting rid of me!" LOL!

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    I generally make friends pretty easily, but it's most of the male friends that keep in touch better.
     
  6. Dr. Dilznick

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    In my experience, women who have A LOT more male friends than female friends, or even none at all, tend to be the dick-tease types. No beef — just an observation.

    And I'm obviously not talking about the girls who mostly hang out with gay guys.
     
  7. naughty

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    Well,

    I hear ya Dr Dilznick! I think those are the type of females that generally dont like their own kind and tend to be very, very competitive. I dont even know if they so much really appreciate men but see them as a source of validation.

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    Its near impossible for me to have a female friend who I either don't want to fuck, or dont eventually fuck. makes for a lot of frustration and awkwardness.
     
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    Wow, I like your honesty there, GBO. I have several male friends that I know I'll never fuck, we've known each other too long and it would seem incestuous. Also, if i'm introduced to a guy as a friend's s/o, then that's how I see him, even if they split some time later, but that's just me. I guess I do also have those that I think "maybe we will" sometime.
     
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    haha i actually agree with you too a certain point all my female friends were either past relationships or flings or i knew them since i was in grade school and jr high...i have a few acquaintances on the net and off....but i don't think i could developed and good friendship with a female right now.

    the funny things is on another board there is always a debate about this and most of us feel that men and women cannot be good friends because there is always someone that is looking for something beyond friendship. hasanyone ever experienced this?
     
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    Sure, I've "settled" for friendship when it was apparent that he wasn't interested in anything more. Maybe I was hoping if he found out what a cool person I was he'd come around. Unfortunately it usually doesn't work that way, but sexual tension can be fun sometimes anyway.
     
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    I guess I'm a little sexually compulsive, whenever I'm hanging out with a female friend, I'm constantly thinking that I just want to lick them all over, and be inside them. Its hard to keep my focus sometimes. And I'm constantly analyzing everything they do to see if they're making a move on me. I really need to stop though, because it tends to ruin friendships.
     
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    Like I said, in the other post, I find most other women catty or just plain bimbos. I like to have friends that I can trust, and that I can have an intelligent conversation with. My very best friend is a female and she's known me longer than my husband, she and I are like sisters we are so close. She's my "keeper" as for the rest of the female populace that I know personally, they are mostly just 'aquiantances" not really friends, but not strangers.....you know the type that you call to go for coffee or for birthday drinks with once in a blue moon, or happen to bump into in the mall once a month.

    My closest male friend, is bisexual and he's a riot. He was friends with my hubby before I met either of them and we have great friendship. Although nowadays I tend to have more in common with him than my hubby. We are all good friends and I can't imagine not haveing him as a life long friend.

    I find that guys are alot less complicated in the "friendship" department, if they like you, they like you, if they don't they don't. They don't "pretend" to like you and then talk shit about you behind your back or be friends with you for a while before they stab you in it one way or the other. Guys just want to have a good time. Guys are simple (and no that isn't a put down).

    I find women tend to complain alot more then guys, and thats a real drag if all you do when you talk to a "friend" is complain. Sure everyone's entitled to a good bitch session once in a while, but If all the other person does is whine and complain thats not my idea of a good time. Guys will either keep thier bitterness to themselves or deal with it straight on instead of harping on an issue.

    ( this is all based my own personal experience, and for the most part, the females on this site rock :)
     
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    My experience (and it's only MY experience) is that if a woman doesn't get along with other women, that's a red flag. I don't mean how many female friends she has, I mean the women who seem to make enemies among other women. There's just going to be a lot of drama there. One thing I've noticed is that a woman will refer to another woman as a "bitch" FAR more often than a man will. There's not much "sisterhood" out there!

    I tend to have quite a few acquaintances and casual friends and only a few close friends. I never spent much time thinking about how many were men or women. (Not that this thread was asking us guys!)

    Unlike GottaBigOne, I have no problem making female platonic friends. Once it becomes clear that she's romantically unavailable to me, she pretty much stays in that category.
     
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    Nienna,
    Thanks for posting! Good to hear your voice in the matter.Yeah, we can be pretty crappy to one another. I must admit I have been guilty of kvetching and riding my broom quite a bit lately (Heh you guys I dont want to hear any amens in the peanut gallery ! LOL! ) I have a few good female friends and we make the choice to affirm and have each other's back. We try to keep it real and talk about sensitive issues even if they are hard to get out .That is what keeps us coming back for more. I think I am developing some female friendships here on board that I cherish as well. Thank you LPSG!


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    Nienna, I'll join Naughty in thanking you for that post, it spoke for me as well.

    I like other women, if they are adults! I find too often when I'm out, I'll compliment a pretty lady on her hair or shoes- what not, but sometimes they just sneer or look hateful at me. God forbid if you talk to a woman who has a man with her, she thinks you're after him and I just don't need it. Most of the women friends I have are younger and seem more secure in themselves, which I think is good. Around here, the women are exceptionally sweet, comforting and supportive to each other. Despite our small numbers, the "ladies auxilliary" has been a big reason I've stayed around so long. We all got here looking for porn, no need to front about it, so I think that pretty well helps that any woman here is somewhat sexually aware. I love all you ladies, my LPSG sistas!
     
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    I have to say Madame Z....You are the head of the sororoty! LOL

    Really though, I agree with you and Naughty, women are just mean to most other women. Its rare to find females who don't feel "threatened" everytime they blink. Let alone one you can relate to and really get to know and trust.
     
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    Believe it or not, most of the strippers I know are very good about accepting each other, it's one of the things I find most charming about that world. It probably helps that there is such a high percentage of gay and bisexual girls there, but even the str8 ones seem to try harder than average women on the street. They seem to have a common feeling of "we're in this together" which is so refreshing.

    I'll never stop complimenting women though. I think so many things are beautiful and some of my good friends have come along by one of us striking up an innocent conversation with the other over such a comment. The ones who are weirded out are best discovered early.
     
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    Amen Jana,

    It takes no skin off any of our backs to compliment another woman. I had to laugh at your comment about women who think you want their man when you speak to them and the man is on their arm. It reminds me of one of the first scene's in "Waiting to Exhale" .You know the one where Whitney(before Bobby) comes to the table as, God forbid. a single woman and all of the married women immediately grab their husbands? LOL! You sometimes want to say, "Honey, why on earth do you think I want your old tired worn out man? " I think we all have had moments where we needed to be affirmed but the automatic "claws out" reflex is very,very tired! I think it is fabulous that we have so many sexy accomplished females on the site. I also must say to the men here, you all do a girl's ego good! Keep it up! We never get tired of hearing it. We all have so many toxic things and people we have to deal with in real life .This place should be an oasis in the daily desert of uncouthness!

    Naughty

    Dag gone it Pappy! I have told you about following me into the ladies room! LOL!
     
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    Amen to that sister!
    Thats why I love single life...........although it would be cool to have a gal pal.
    Women friends provide alot of warmness that alot of guy friends can't.......sometimes you need that.....
     
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