Women sharing men?

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There are many reasons. One might be a way to keep the relationship open; another would be to assure a lack of obsessiveness or possession.
 

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There are many reasons. One might be a way to keep the relationship open; another would be to assure a lack of obsessiveness or possession.

+1 upone. I think the girl's just trying to keep the relationship open so that there's much less drama involved. And she thinks well enough of the OP to want to share him with her best friend. Sharing is caring. However I do think her wanting to share him with her older sister is a bit weird though.
 
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All the people she has suggested are people who she thinks are more attractive then her.

I just think she's setting me up, and as soon as I actually do go for her friends or family she would have a good reason for dumping.
If I don't she is reassured I won't just go for the next best thing if things do get to a serious level.

Two important things to know here, she's just 19 and all she wanted was be friends with benefits.

So I do think a couple of things were on point, one being that she doesn't really care or want to care all that much about me and that she has very low self esteem as she is also constantly looking for compliments and validation.
 

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She's setting you up. And if you were any little shred of a real man and had any sincere interest in her or in having a serious relationship, you would decline her offer and not sleep with any of them.

Any woman willing to basically whore you out to her own family and friends only sees you as a toy and piece of meat, not a potential serious relationship (which would make sense since you say she only wants you for friends with benefits).
 
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Many moons ago...
My gf's best friend had a date arranged with a guy who she fancied massively and had decided to sleep with asap, convinced that it was the only way to keep him interested.
Now I don't remember why, but best friend had some sort of anxiety about her sexual abilities.
So my gf engineered it for her to spend the night with me, as a cofidence booster; and a very pleasent experiences it was.
My gf had told me about the whole thing in advance, but I hadn't really taken much notice or taken it seriously. So it did sort of take me by surprise as the evening unfolded, but obviously gf had planned the whole thing and it went very smoothly.
 

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Many moons ago...
My gf's best friend had a date arranged with a guy who she fancied massively and had decided to sleep with asap, convinced that it was the only way to keep him interested.
Now I don't remember why, but best friend had some sort of anxiety about her sexual abilities.
So my gf engineered it for her to spend the night with me, as a cofidence booster; and a very pleasent experiences it was.
My gf had told me about the whole thing in advance, but I hadn't really taken much notice or taken it seriously. So it did sort of take me by surprise as the evening unfolded, but obviously gf had planned the whole thing and it went very smoothly.
 

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She's setting you up. And if you were any little shred of a real man and had any sincere interest in her or in having a serious relationship, you would decline her offer and not sleep with any of them.

Any woman willing to basically whore you out to her own family and friends only sees you as a toy and piece of meat, not a potential serious relationship (which would make sense since you say she only wants you for friends with benefits).

I keep telling her that I have no interest in her friends and family and that I'm talking to her and her alone.
She just wants to hear how special she is because she keeps bringing it up like a million times a day.
You and that and that girl would be great together let me hook you up bla.

I see a broken girl just entering the big bad world and she's testing me out if I'm anything like the men she has encountered before.
I like the challenge but I'm not sure if one man has the power to make her forget about all the other bad experiences with men she has had.
And emotionally, I noticed the age plays a big factor as well in her lack of understanding.
She knows about the physical world of sex but not the emotional one.

So I think the mystery is solved, young insecure girl setting me up to prove I'm just like all the other men.
 

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Why is this different than guys wanting to share their women? Just sayin...

I am much too possessive and jealous for this tho.

I agree that is certainly possible. She started this as a "friends with benefits" relationship; maybe she just wants a booty call.
 

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I agree that is certainly possible. She started this as a "friends with benefits" relationship; maybe she just wants a booty call.

Yeah, maybe? But even when I was in friends with benefits relationships, I still wouldn't want to know or think about them fucking other chicks lol.

Maybe she is one of those people that just gets turned on by the thought of their partner (whatever you are lol) fucking others? Have you actually asked her why she wants you to do that?
 

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When my wife and I first started out going out we did some swapping and some group stuff. Only time she offered me to someone else was when her female boss was depressed and needed to be fucked. That was back in the seventies. We've now been married for 32a years! Just sayin'.
 

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Just started fooling around with a new girl and she is adament about hooking me up with other girls as well, she has suggested her older sister and a good friend of hers already.

Now I'm confused, I must have turned her off somehow and she wants to get rid of me was my first thought but that isn't the case because she still wants to see me and calls me to fool around.

I asked her personally but she didn't think it was weird at all and it was just her being really nice.

My dick says, bring em all on lol but my mind says to hold back as things can get pretty ugly if I do pursue her friends and sisters.

And I still can't figure out why?

Bring them on. I am starting a polyamorous relationship right now with another woman. I'm involved and he's involved. It's working out perfectly so far. No feelings of jealousy and she's quite the firecracker. I believe this are the relationships of the future. I am signing up to pave the way. It helps to have known her for about 17 years now to get a feel for how she is. But if you are just fucking then just do it and wear a condom.
 

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simple answer: she isn't not that involved with you.. she uses you as a sexual object to satisfy her wants... And given that she really love her friends , she wants to share you with them. Yes I think that girls can use a boy. If you were accustomed to think the reverse, it's time to change your mind about that ;)
 

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Why is this different than guys wanting to share their women? Just sayin...

I am much too possessive and jealous for this tho.

It is different for the reason you mentioned.

Girls just don't share, confident women do on occasion.
 

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It is different for the reason you mentioned.

Girls just don't share, confident women do on occasion.

Wow, what a stereotype. I don't believe that this is true. It is probably just less known and less talked about that some women like to share.
 

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we can't deny that sharing adds a lot of spice to a relationship but you mentioned that your relationship is quite recent so this hypotetis is to be discarded... I stick to my theory that she wants you to be her sexual object to do as she likes