kc - so what is the answer, for those of us who have exhausted every possibility and still haven't found a way to make it happen? I don't want the men I'm sleeping with to feel like they are having an incomplete sexual experience.
Do you feel like the problem is a big enough one that you would end a relationship over it? Do you feel like it's still possible for you to feel like you have a good sex life with a woman even if she isn't "built", as you say, to come from penetration alone? How commonly have you personally experienced women who are vs. those who are not?
I can't say if I would end a relationship over it, as I never have in the past. As far as I know, 3 women I have had sex with have had a vaginal orgasm during intercourse, however only 1 (my current girlfriend) I know for sure has. And now, if we were to break up and I was with a woman who couldn't, I don't see myself ending the relationship. I would try to be as understanding and helpful as I could and to be honest it's really about sexual compatibility. The orgasm thing is great but many other factors are involved. And as others have said how you feel about each other as the relationship develops and lets the woman to really be relaxed and let loose plays into it as well. It took my girlfriend over a year before she could. I know many disagree with me but I personally feel under the right circumstances, every woman is capable of an orgasm through penetration.