Women watching porn.

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  1. bigbri24

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    How many women here watch porn with their husband or boyfriend? I enjoy porn but when I watch it with my girlfriend, I get so much more aroused!
     
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    I do. Sometimes I'll catch something left open on his computer and offer to watch it with him, sometimes I show him what I've been watching.

    I don't think many women do this, though.
     
  3. D_Catvade Longwick

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    This interests me - there is a theory that women tend to prefer their porn to be more intellectual - less visual stimulation and more emotional and engaging - ie written erotica etc
     
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    It may just be that women are pickier and using their imaginations with written erotica doesn't hit any of the "turn-offs." Boyfriend has accused me of "ruining" pron for him when I described everything in porn that I dislike, because he never noticed the things I described until I pointed it out.

    If one aspect is especially good, I can overlook some of the other ones, so this is just a general guideline:

    Pet Peeves:
    1. If the camera-work and "sexyface" acting make me feel like I'm a third person in a room with two people fucking. Example, they're doing it doggy style and the camera is facing her. Instead of looking at the man with his penis in her and looking sexy at him, she looks straight in front of her, into the camera, and she makes "sexyface" that seems to be completely unrelated to the actions of the man with his penis in her. It breaks through the "fourth wall" and instead of allowing me to imagine I'm the woman in the scenario, makes me feel like I'm in front of her watching her having sex while she seems to be unaware of what he's doing with his penis. I don't want to imagine I'm a third person in the room. I want to imagine I'm getting rammed by a hot stud.
    2. If the guy isn't a hot stud. Oh so many pornos with this issue. Men with tits. Men with beer bellies. Men with questionable hair. I've dated my share of men who are less than physically perfect, but I don't want to watch them in a porno.
    3. Fake orgasms. Fake screaming. Fake dirty talking. Non-stop nonsensical fake sounding noises. Faking in general. If you can't act well enough to sell it, don't fake it.
    4. Boredom. Maybe this is why they try faking it.
    5. Not enjoying it. I can tell if she doesn't like his hands or his cock or his technique and it's a turn-off. There are a few pornos where I can tell that he's good at fucking, his got great hands, and I want to have sex with him. Turn-on!

    Turn-ons:
    1. Real enthusiasm
    2. Real orgasms
    3. No acting
    4. Muscular/fit/young/hot actors
     
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    I have a similar issue with 'sexyface' and bad acting - but I tend to deal with it in a different way. I have become a fan of extreme closeups in everyday porn, since then I don't have to think about bad boob jobs or ridiculous tattoos (I have several tattoos and don't typically mind them, but some porn actor's tattoos are truly terrible.)

    I'm also a big fan of kink.com's offerings - hot girls who usually don't have boob jobs, real orgasms, and the offerings are a bit racier than the typical porn company's.
     
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    I have to agree that most porn is just silly. So I remedied the problem for myself... I only watch gay porn.
    All that dick takes care of the lack of realistic story line.
    That and men seem to love love love sucking dick. They show more enthusiasm at it. You can't help but to cheer at a job well done. :wink:

    Tiny~
     
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    In the words of Ian Sholes: "Despite what desperate pornographers would have you believe, pornography is not designed for a couple to enhance their enjoyment. Pornography is designed for a lonely man to forget his loneliness."
     
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    Yeah I have to agree with you on the Sexy Face thing - I'm a man and I don't like it all. The best porn for me is when it looks like the woman is really enjoying. I can also see your point of view on the man - lots of guys in porn get by simply by having a large penis and the ability to perform sex on demand (apparently this is actually extremely hard to do and I can sort of see why if you ever see porn outtakes and see how little the performers generally enjoy themselves). I'm not generally that interested in the man though...

    There is another school of thought that says that women also take a lot from visual stimuli but that as you said due to the fact that the industry is driven by male dollars not much of the porn is made with a view to female opinions.

    Have you ever watched anything by Andrew Blake? He is a director that might appeal more to women?
     
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    And thank you for supporting the local economy! ;-) (Kink is based in S.F., if you didn't know).
     
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    Overall, I've gone right off professional porn - only genuine amateur stuff has any real appeal because I know all the people there are doing it because they want to.

    I much prefer to watch real men fucking. I like am gang bang scenes where you get a totally random bunch of guys, skinny, fat, beefy, hairy, bald, little cocks, big cocks, average cocks, older, younger. I love seeing the variety the male body has to offer.

    I don't have any objection to seeing stereotypical 'hot, young studs' in porn but, perhaps unusually, I'd rather watch them fuck each other. Though I'm not averse to real men in gay porn either, that's hot too.

    Edit: Oh - and to answer the question, me and Hick don't really watch porn together - we're usually too busy fucking if we're in that kind of mood (and don't have company). Maybe that'll change when we live together - I have watched porn with previous partners. I don't think watching porn together would particularly add to our experience of each other though - I'd rather concentrate all my attention on him.
     
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    I have a number of female friends who look at porn now and then...
     
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    Yikes, the contradictions. I'd call that a fetish!

    Fortunately for women, guys get bored with pretty women(not that there's a lot in porn), so fatties, pugs, & the aged all get a good go! I'd say that 9 out of 10 male performers were in better shape too.

    Maybe female gonzo didn't take off coz it's hard to focus a camera with your face in a pillow!:biggrin1:
     
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    Women objectify just as much as men, but as Dan Savage pointed out, straight guys have a tendency to believe that women aren't "visual creatures" and they tend to "let themselves go" more than straight women or gay men. Women are absolutely visual creatures. If you need any evidence of that, visit a hot male celebrity fan site and check out the comments and conversations between the housewives about these men. They will wax on about every single body part, trust me. Here's a fun example.

    To be honest, I have no idea who's work I've seen since most of what we consume are clips on fantasti.cc and they often don't include information like who the director or actors are!

    I LOVE gay porn!

    I don't understand, are you saying that hot guys can't just enthusiastically have sex and real orgasms in porn and that it's an unrealistic expectation? I guarantee that the women in porn will be more enthusiastic during sex if the guys are actually hot! And I've seen lots of porn that I like, where both the man and the woman are hot and they seem to genuinely be enjoying having sex with one another. They could be really good at acting, but does it matter as long as I was convinced?
     
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    my wife and I watch porn together, we hate the scripted fake stuff, when are porn directors going to realize how boring that is? real raw emotion is hot and a turn on just like in real life, the more real it looks the better it is!
     
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    I never cared for porn, but when Cap and I were dating we rented a tape "just to see." Actually, I thought he was into porn and it kind of gave me the willies, and he thought I was into porn, which was OK with him. Not ten minutes into it we realized that neither of us cared for it, so we started laughing at what was going on on the screen. Then we got really bored and turned it off about halfway into it. We did finish the plot though! :biggrin1:
     
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    My gf is very visual and also loves gay porn. Last night we were looking for selfsucking vids and she was really turned on by the visuals there. Her favorites also include dp and anal vids involving women and two or more men. We've dabbled in that area in our sex lives (mmf) and it is a major turn on. But like many have mentioned, the amateur stuff is by far more interesting than produced material.
     
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    I watch porn alone, but not as much as those who watch it. It's seasonal. Like I could spend an hour watching it and I woudn't want to watch porn for another 6 months.
     
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    Sorry buddy, but such a load of crap.

    I like the raw hardcore stuff. I don't care about storyline. I don't care about the emotional aspect.
     
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    Me neither. Many porn stars don't exactly act that well either. I do tend to forward the video up until the beginning of the fucking scenes and if there's a storyline after that I just switch it off.
     
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    I like both! When I watch porn, I don't want a "story" but I do like scenarios. Two people just having really good sex is also good. And I also watch lots of the hardcore stuff. I think for me I just had to get past feeling like I was "being creepy" by watching it, because once I actually started watching it and finding porn that I liked, I no longer cared if I was "being creepy." I was having fun.

    Written erotica, though? I love it when it's really intellectual. For example, a professor of Indology has re-written the Kama Sutra as a novel, following the plot of Lolita by Nabokov (another favorite) and inspired by Philip Roth's writings also. It's about as intellectual as erotica can get, and I love it.

    Weird, huh?
     
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