women who are sexually reserved
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The pic section is going downhill in a hurry. Some people HAVE to know that no one wants to see it. Ugh.
maybe it's appealing more to the gay men, but as a woman i find most of it really turns me off. i know that men like to think of us drolling all over the splooging cock pics, but cum of unknown origin makes me gag.
unless it's the gallery of a guy i know and like then i'm more likely to vom than O.
i'd rather see something with a storyline, a man i can get to like and fantasise about being with. i believe that's pretty typical for a woman.
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Seriously though....some of these photos cry out "Mentally Ill" if you know what i mean. Go to the gallery and click on the most popular/viewed galleries on the menu at the upper right of the gallery page. Tell me you don't go WTF to some of those. Predominately males who have no idea that it's the wrong place for that kind of self-esteem photo therapy jargon.
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OK OK, you guys win. But being as young as I am, 3-4 times a week seems like nothing to me as I'm still used to that much in a day.
The pic section, that's something I can agree with you about. I know I joined a bit after the both of you so maybe it was different in the past, but I can't imagine the pic section of this type of site to actually be enjoyable. I mean, I love vagina, but I wouldn't want to look through galleries of just vaginas
The pic section, that's something I can agree with you about. I know I joined a bit after the both of you so maybe it was different in the past, but I can't imagine the pic section of this type of site to actually be enjoyable. I mean, I love vagina, but I wouldn't want to look through galleries of just vaginas
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Yes you young pup with oddly frequent sexual needs....
The pic gallery has a lot more females in it than it used to, i'd say 50% very authentic female type photos that men would like to see. The other 50% are just garbage photos some guy has put up of the same chick- sometimes the same chick anyway.
The gallery yields much larger dick on the whole as it used to but also a lot of nasty looking stuff to go along with it. Personally, Dolfette and I would prefer identifying mangly war victims than seeing that.
The pic gallery has a lot more females in it than it used to, i'd say 50% very authentic female type photos that men would like to see. The other 50% are just garbage photos some guy has put up of the same chick- sometimes the same chick anyway.
The gallery yields much larger dick on the whole as it used to but also a lot of nasty looking stuff to go along with it. Personally, Dolfette and I would prefer identifying mangly war victims than seeing that.
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I agree...11 years in and still goin' like that...he should be grateful...doesn't necessarily mean she's "sexually reserved"...she just might not like it in general..not her thing...
As for the gallery, I definitely agree with some of the pics on there being copies from porn. I must also say for those who have 90 different cock pics and nothing else, there's only so many ways to look at a dick. It's not necessary. There's a person behind the dick.
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People often complain about their partner not being sexual enough. I wonder what percentage of these knew this when they got married, and what percentage have changed since they were first together. Coz if someone isn't sexually out there over your first few years of being together, this is unlikely to change much in subsequent years. I think what I'm trying to get at is: if you marry a person knowing that they do not have a high sex drive, you made that decision and need to accept them as they are. If the person started out with a high sex drive, but changed later, that is a different situation and I suppose both people need to work hard to fix it.
Sorry for the rambling post. I was thinking as I typed (never a good idea
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Sorry for the rambling post. I was thinking as I typed (never a good idea
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This is by no means a black and white issue - not generally and not for the OP and his wife.
On the one hand I agree with dolf and redser, they are completely correct when they say that if she doesn't like dirty talk, ball licking, porn watching etc. then she should not feel obliged to do it. Also, justavrg, she has tried. She is trying. She's tried what you've asked and she doesn't like it. At what point are you going to draw the line and stop asking her to do stuff she's not comfortable with or (and) not turned on by?
On the other hand, I think that the the OP has just as much right to satisfying sex as his wife does. This idea that he should be grateful for being allowed to fuck her 3-4 times a week is crazy. Fuck's sake! If Hick just popped wood a few times a week to let me fuck him and just lay there I would not be happy. Why should a man be happy just because his wife consents to sex without seeming to want and enjoy it? (or not enjoy it as much, anyway) Yes, it is more than a lot of men get 11 years into a marriage - but that doesn't mean he has to be satisfied by that. He wants passion, connection, mutual pleasure. What's wrong with wanting that?
justavrg, I don't think your wife is at all repressed. She tries these things for you. She looked at this site and another with you - she tried ball licking - she's probably tried other stuff for you. But she doesn't like it. It is clear she wants to please you or she wouldn't be trying at all. But you need to stop assuming that what turns you on should turn her on. There is no 'should' about it.
You need to find some middle ground. You need to explore together and find stuff that turns you both on. Have you actually sat down and asked her what she fantasises about? Have you asked her what you do that she likes? What you don't do that she might like? Does she masturbate? If so is it clitoral stimulation, penetration, something else that most often brings her to orgasm? What does she think about when she's masturbating? Or does she not think at all, is it all about the sensation? Does she read erotic literature? If not, would she like to give it a try? (try literotica.com)
[Edit: I'm not expecting you to answer those questions here, it's stuff you need to go over with her.]
In short, if you want her to be passionate and sexual with you, to get as much pleasure from each other as you both can, then you need to be more open. The same old same old is not doing it for her - you change, you try new things. Maybe when she sees you trying to fit your needs to hers then she will meet you half way.
On the one hand I agree with dolf and redser, they are completely correct when they say that if she doesn't like dirty talk, ball licking, porn watching etc. then she should not feel obliged to do it. Also, justavrg, she has tried. She is trying. She's tried what you've asked and she doesn't like it. At what point are you going to draw the line and stop asking her to do stuff she's not comfortable with or (and) not turned on by?
On the other hand, I think that the the OP has just as much right to satisfying sex as his wife does. This idea that he should be grateful for being allowed to fuck her 3-4 times a week is crazy. Fuck's sake! If Hick just popped wood a few times a week to let me fuck him and just lay there I would not be happy. Why should a man be happy just because his wife consents to sex without seeming to want and enjoy it? (or not enjoy it as much, anyway) Yes, it is more than a lot of men get 11 years into a marriage - but that doesn't mean he has to be satisfied by that. He wants passion, connection, mutual pleasure. What's wrong with wanting that?
justavrg, I don't think your wife is at all repressed. She tries these things for you. She looked at this site and another with you - she tried ball licking - she's probably tried other stuff for you. But she doesn't like it. It is clear she wants to please you or she wouldn't be trying at all. But you need to stop assuming that what turns you on should turn her on. There is no 'should' about it.
You need to find some middle ground. You need to explore together and find stuff that turns you both on. Have you actually sat down and asked her what she fantasises about? Have you asked her what you do that she likes? What you don't do that she might like? Does she masturbate? If so is it clitoral stimulation, penetration, something else that most often brings her to orgasm? What does she think about when she's masturbating? Or does she not think at all, is it all about the sensation? Does she read erotic literature? If not, would she like to give it a try? (try literotica.com)
[Edit: I'm not expecting you to answer those questions here, it's stuff you need to go over with her.]
In short, if you want her to be passionate and sexual with you, to get as much pleasure from each other as you both can, then you need to be more open. The same old same old is not doing it for her - you change, you try new things. Maybe when she sees you trying to fit your needs to hers then she will meet you half way.
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There is a damn lot of truth in this. The reason I don't pressure my wife on the issue is that, frankly, I'm going to have a better time with my hand than if she's not going to be into it.
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I agree with MB 100%. Which is why I said I find it hard to believe she does not like oral, not that it wasn't possible that she doesn't. We are all different. Some of us are kinky and like certain things. Some of us are not. Most of us are not porn stars so we are not all going to fit onto one page of easy to read instructions. Just like I expect every man to be more or less interesting than the last one. No one is the same, that is what makes it fun and keeps us interested.
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