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Women have no power unless you give them such power over you. :biggrin1:

No one has power over anyone unless the other person allows them too. Gender has nothing to do with it.


I don't mind not making a woman cum but it's when she wants to cum but can't cum no matter how hard you try.

She could go on top and take control but still wouldn't be able to make herself cum - it just feels like one big waste of time.


Anyway, I feel bad for the OP :frown1: I used to have issues with my ex not being able to cum for hours and it had nothing to do with me, I'm very tight and all other people I've been with have cum very very fast, too fast probably. The last guy I was with ended up cuming within 2 minutes :rolleyes: But anyway, my ex obviously had some kind of physical problem and it was very frustrating to have sex with him because not only did he not cum for hours, he was also very demanding that I do this and do that. Many times I had to lick his balls, nipples, finger his ass for literally hours while he jerked off and unsuccessfully tried to cum. I am very giving but that was too much. He was also a jerk to boot :mad:


Where that you get that number from is a mystery for me...
It's rather 40% that can orgasm through penetration alone.
Sure that older woman will cum faster, as they are less insecure.
4% is only 1 on 25 woman - and believe me it's not so unique that a woman can orgasm from penetration.

Yeah it's probably closer to 40% than 4%. I can cum from sex provided that my clit is being stimulated, that's why I'd rather be with an average size guy than big because I figure if I'm not able to take him all in and my clit is up in the air I might not cum lol Maybe that's the OP's problem?
 

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I haven't read through this entire thread, but I'm going to share an experience I had.

I've always been orgasmic. I was prescribed a SSRI and after about 6 weeks, I lost my ability to orgasm.

Sex was still pleasurable, but there was no build up. It was like the roller coaster ride involved going up, then straight. Forever. All suspense and no payoff.

Since I've never had any difficulties before, I knew that it was the SSRI and I immediately started the process of getting off the meds. It took over a month, but as soon as I was off the meds, my orgasm returned.

So meds can cause this problem.
 
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Have any women here tried Cialis? About a year ago I started a thread asking and since then, I've heard it's somewhat of a hit or miss thing, but when it works, it really, really works. My wife is ordinarily muti-orgasmic, but when I gave her some and we had sex she only came once.

She came once, for 45 minutes straight.

Her g-spot was super sensitive and her skin was so hyper-aware, she swore she almost came when I ran my fingers down her back.

Just food for thought for some of the women that may be having difficulty.
 

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Have any women here tried Cialis? About a year ago I started a thread asking and since then, I've heard it's somewhat of a hit or miss thing, but when it works, it really, really works. My wife is ordinarily muti-orgasmic, but when I gave her some and we had sex she only came once.

She came once, for 45 minutes straight.

Her g-spot was super sensitive and her skin was so hyper-aware, she swore she almost came when I ran my fingers down her back.

Just food for thought for some of the women that may be having difficulty.

Good grief. I'm buying some!
 

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Atleast 25% of the assholes in this thread who pissed me off have also tried to love up to my in my inbox. One of them is severely illiterate and the rest of them are also sexually illiterate.

Another example of how only LPSG cocks have met the intercourse orgasming percentage of the female population. Interesting. I used to go the bookstores when i was 14 years old and read about orgasm, sex and how it all happened. I am no closer to experiencing an orgasm now than i did when i was sexually active back then. I have sex 3 or more times a week on average.

How is it that a woman who has never had an orgasm from SEX ALONE could be the sexual aggressor for the better part of her entire life? How can she be more horny, more consistantly and orgasm other ways so easily but still want intercourse and want it instead of orgasms if she had the choice?

Hmmmmm....the doctors have never said i am built with any extra anything because i can have dozens and dozens of orgasms when stimulated manually without a dick inside. They also haven't considered me abnormal by not orgasming from sex at all.

So let me say that based on all the statistics, scientific and otherwise, that the average number of women orgasming from sex is actually more like 17%, 20% is more on the high amount of the percentage if you go about looking at multiple studies that look at orgasms from intercourse alone, not clitoral stimulation plus intercourse. If you are a guy who claims every woman you've ever fucked almost always orgasms, you are niave and have been fooled. Women who are fucking you don't want to hurt your feelings. It's something we might never tell you. It's a best kept secret among women.

But don't take it as you arent a good lover. My husband is the best lover i've ever had and i wouldn't be approaching him for sex every few days if he weren't. I could just as easily roll over and never want it and he'd go months and months without it and jack off when he felt he had to. But i dont, i crave the sensation of intercourse. I love it, i enjoy it and i actually wouldn't change it.

For those who believe all women they've fucked have orgasmed from sex pull statistics out like 90% of women orgasm from sex alone. It's like hiding the head of your penis somewhere where it wasnt being stimulated during sex and saying that most men are designed to orgasm from sex, even though the most sensitive part of their anatomy is located under their right armpit. How silly does that sound?

I'd venture to guess the number is probably less than 17%, because the human psyche doesn't want to be embarrassed or humiliated by feeling like a failure to society at large, so there are going to be a few liars.

I've been reading about sex since i was way too young to even be looking at the pictures and reading the anatomy diagrams. The stats really haven't changed. But LPSG is the only place i've ever seen so many men to claim that all women orgasm from being fucked "deep" and "hard" and squirt. Strangely, no one can agree which orifice any of it comes from or a consistant appearance. All we hear is the discription from one Wikipedia source. Next thing you know, it's a trend in porn and we all must be doing it.

I've never seen so much sexual MISINFORMATION the way i've seen it here. I've seen men and women say that a cervix can be penetrated with a dickhead. That you can squirt a gallon a fluid from a so called "female prostate" the Skene's Gland. That almost all women cum profusely when fucked the "right" way by the "right dick" and when this information is shared, it's often a guy telling another guy to stimulate her with oral sex or manually on her clitoris and then quickly shove your dick up there so your dick can take the orgasm credit for it all!

It's ok for a woman to like sex without an orgasm, it's been happening since the beginning of mankind. As much as we want to make the penis responsible for female orgasm, there are young girls masturbating all over the planet who are making it happen without a dick frequently. So when she does have sex, whether its the first time or the millionth time, she might not be able to orgasm. Mainly because, in case you've not noticed.....her "penis head nerves" equivalent is located on the OUTSIDE of her vagina.

And actually, if you have a shorter dick, you might have a greater chance of your pubic area rubbing against hers during intercourse. So bigger isnt always the answer. Harder isnt always the answer. Sometimes the answer is right...under....your....nose. Literally.
 

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No one here really knows what they are talking about. Not even women. Some women think they can orgasm from penetration but that could be wrong due to inexperience or lack of self confidence.
 

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How is it that a woman who has never had an orgasm from SEX ALONE could be the sexual aggressor for the better part of her entire life? How can she be more horny, more consistantly and orgasm other ways so easily but still want intercourse and want it instead of orgasms if she had the choice?

Thank you Rouge, for adding some intelligent woman's perspective to this discussion. As always you inform us and give us a point of view seldom seen here.
Why do so many think the "big O" is the only goal of sex. The intimacy, the touching, the communication, and the emotional sharing can be so wonderful and fulfilling. I realize this may not be the forum to discuss these elements of sex, but they are extremely important.
Thank you again Mademoiselle Rouge.
 

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I agree that an orgasm is not the only goal of sex. An orgasm is like reaching the peak after a long journey. I can have an orgasm alone.

Sex to me is about intimacy and sharing yourself, being close with someone. Which is one of the reasons I have never undestood NSA sex. I have no interest in being close to a stranger.

If you care about your partner you should have no other "goal" than to share yourself with her, not strive for an orgasm that may or may not happen. Of course this is just IMO. Even those of us who can orgasm during penetration do not orgasm everytime.

I hate to say this but if you think your previous partners always had an orgasm during sex, you could be wrong. I'm not saying it didn't always happen, but that has not been my experience, nor any of my girl friends experience.
 
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Are women who can't cum from intercourse alone disfunctional? Is it fair to judge a woman (or anyone for that matter) who is happy with their sex life for something that someone else thinks is lacking?

My answer to both is "No".

Having said that, it isn't necessarily wrong to help coach someone who wants to achieve something she thinks she's missing. That is, until that coaching turns into, "No, it's still not working... what the fuck is wrong with me?" <-- This happened to me and a very good friend of mine and I think I ruined her relationship with a guy she was dating. Sex to them after a while turned into a goal oriented activity rather than a process.

The only women that have ever had "hands-free" orgasms with me was an ex FWB and my wife. The other women before them needed clit stimulation and one couldn't cum at all.

Someone with a sex life they're happy with should not be tampered with.
 

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I think if the sex toy can no longer get her to cum then maybe its being overdone. I told her to stop using it - she kept a passion party a week later with her GFs - inwhich they gathered together and ordered sex toys :biggrin1:


She is just addicted.
Maybe its not the sex toy thats the problem? Its a little arrogant to assume that because she's not getting off fast enough to suit you that there's something wrong with her. Most people who masterbate can probably get themselves off better and more quickly than someone else could. Do you masterbate more than you should?
 

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Atleast 25% of the assholes in this thread who pissed me off have also tried to love up to my in my inbox. One of them is severely illiterate and the rest of them are also sexually illiterate.

Another example of how only LPSG cocks have met the intercourse orgasming percentage of the female population. Interesting. I used to go the bookstores when i was 14 years old and read about orgasm, sex and how it all happened. I am no closer to experiencing an orgasm now than i did when i was sexually active back then. I have sex 3 or more times a week on average.

How is it that a woman who has never had an orgasm from SEX ALONE could be the sexual aggressor for the better part of her entire life? How can she be more horny, more consistantly and orgasm other ways so easily but still want intercourse and want it instead of orgasms if she had the choice?

Hmmmmm....the doctors have never said i am built with any extra anything because i can have dozens and dozens of orgasms when stimulated manually without a dick inside. They also haven't considered me abnormal by not orgasming from sex at all.

So let me say that based on all the statistics, scientific and otherwise, that the average number of women orgasming from sex is actually more like 17%, 20% is more on the high amount of the percentage if you go about looking at multiple studies that look at orgasms from intercourse alone, not clitoral stimulation plus intercourse. If you are a guy who claims every woman you've ever fucked almost always orgasms, you are niave and have been fooled. Women who are fucking you don't want to hurt your feelings. It's something we might never tell you. It's a best kept secret among women.

But don't take it as you arent a good lover. My husband is the best lover i've ever had and i wouldn't be approaching him for sex every few days if he weren't. I could just as easily roll over and never want it and he'd go months and months without it and jack off when he felt he had to. But i dont, i crave the sensation of intercourse. I love it, i enjoy it and i actually wouldn't change it.

For those who believe all women they've fucked have orgasmed from sex pull statistics out like 90% of women orgasm from sex alone. It's like hiding the head of your penis somewhere where it wasnt being stimulated during sex and saying that most men are designed to orgasm from sex, even though the most sensitive part of their anatomy is located under their right armpit. How silly does that sound?

I'd venture to guess the number is probably less than 17%, because the human psyche doesn't want to be embarrassed or humiliated by feeling like a failure to society at large, so there are going to be a few liars.

I've been reading about sex since i was way too young to even be looking at the pictures and reading the anatomy diagrams. The stats really haven't changed. But LPSG is the only place i've ever seen so many men to claim that all women orgasm from being fucked "deep" and "hard" and squirt. Strangely, no one can agree which orifice any of it comes from or a consistant appearance. All we hear is the discription from one Wikipedia source. Next thing you know, it's a trend in porn and we all must be doing it.

I've never seen so much sexual MISINFORMATION the way i've seen it here. I've seen men and women say that a cervix can be penetrated with a dickhead. That you can squirt a gallon a fluid from a so called "female prostate" the Skene's Gland. That almost all women cum profusely when fucked the "right" way by the "right dick" and when this information is shared, it's often a guy telling another guy to stimulate her with oral sex or manually on her clitoris and then quickly shove your dick up there so your dick can take the orgasm credit for it all!

It's ok for a woman to like sex without an orgasm, it's been happening since the beginning of mankind. As much as we want to make the penis responsible for female orgasm, there are young girls masturbating all over the planet who are making it happen without a dick frequently. So when she does have sex, whether its the first time or the millionth time, she might not be able to orgasm. Mainly because, in case you've not noticed.....her "penis head nerves" equivalent is located on the OUTSIDE of her vagina.

And actually, if you have a shorter dick, you might have a greater chance of your pubic area rubbing against hers during intercourse. So bigger isnt always the answer. Harder isnt always the answer. Sometimes the answer is right...under....your....nose. Literally.

Good post.

For a while, I was mystified as to why most women I dated preferred fucking to receiving oral, even though most of them could orgasm from oral sex, and a substantially smaller percentage could cum from fucking.

Eventually I realized that sex=orgasms is how guys (including me) think, and not necessarily how women think.

And for that matter, the one woman I met who never had orgasms, also had the highest sex drive of all my partners. You can imagine how that confused the hell out of the younger me...
 

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Or take forever to cum from dick because they use sex toys more than they should. And sometimes she isn't even able to make herself cum while using the dildo.
This is me. I can't come from a guy. I've been using a vibrator since I was 15 and because of that it's the only way I can cum.

Does it turn you off if you're fucking a female and you get the feeling nothing you do will ever get her to cum ?
Well, most guys will fuck anything. I'm the one who has to weed them out.

I have this girl who I believe just love the feeling of dick inside her, it doesn't matter how close she tells me she is to cuming it will never happen :biggrin1:
I too get to the point where it feels REALLY good but I just never climax.

For some reason knowing this doesn't motivate me to sleep with her, i'm not use to spending hours of constants fucking to make any female cum. I had sex with her like 5 times and was only able to make her cum once.
If you won't someone else will
She has sex toys and her TV is always playing porn :biggrin1:
I love porn! Guys kinda like the fact I too watch porn.

There's my 2 cents...
 

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I actually stopped talking to this girl - we talk once or twice a month, she is begging me to come back. Maybe if she didn't run and sleep with some other guy a month after we stopped fucking officially ( The last time I had sex with her I later went away for my birthday and when I got back I didn't go back to see her) I would have given her some sex because thats the only thing she really wants now. She misses me, said the new guy is horrible etc .. I can't stop laughing.
 

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Maybe its not the sex toy thats the problem? Its a little arrogant to assume that because she's not getting off fast enough to suit you that there's something wrong with her. Most people who masterbate can probably get themselves off better and more quickly than someone else could. Do you masterbate more than you should?

Last week I had sex with one of my old time GF, we only fucked once before last week this year because she is about to get married to a guy living in the U.S. 2 mins into fucking her she said " fuck you made me cum already..god" This is usually how it goes for alot of women I sleep with - they cum in no time.
 

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:boggled: My word...

It is with perverse detachment that I must see where this train wreck settles. We've jumped the track, split a chlorine container and threw container cars across the entire town with this thread...

*covers over eyes and ears - then peeks*