Just a reminder of the actual OP here.
My ex-girlfriend came doing ANYTHING. It was ridiculous.
My goal is always to make my girl cum but when your cumming 3 strokes in it really takes away my motivation.
50% of the reason I even have sex is pride.
Have any of you guys encountered women like this?
It was also the disdain you expressed for her in the OP, like it bothered you that she has a great time having sex with you. It's almost a little hateful.
That's an awfully loaded reading of it. Just remember that how you perceive things stems from
you.
Let's switch the male/female roles and see if it makes more sense to you. If a woman said, "Well, I had his cock in my mouth and he was just moaning so much and telling me how unbelievable it felt and having such a great time. His legs were shaking and everything. He just couldn't control himself. It really ruined the experience for me. I really don't even feel like doing it again. I mean really, did she have to enjoy herself so much?"
If would sound like she actually despises men to some extent, wouldn't it? There would be something deeply wrong with her attitude toward men and sex if she said that.
Yes it would.
Unfortunately for your point to have any validity your role switch needs to be balanced. It isn't.
This would only be an accurate role switch had he said, "Well, I had my mouth on her and she was just moaning so much and telling me how unbelievable it felt and having such a great time. Her legs were shaking and everything. She just couldn't control herself. It really ruined the experience for me. I really don't even feel like doing it again. I mean really, did she have to enjoy himself so much?"
Which he didn't say.
An accurate role switch would read as follows.
"My ex-boyfriend came doing ANYTHING. It was ridiculous.
My goal is always to make my man cum but when your[sic] cumming 3 licks in it really takes away my motivation.
50% of the reason I even have sex is pride.
Have any of you girls encountered men like this?"
Pride may have been a poor word choice (men aren't always as effective communicators as women), but I can still understand where he's coming from.
We had a thread in the WI not too long ago about how much we loved hearing the sounds our men made because it let us know we were giving them pleasure. Not just that they were experiencing pleasure but that
we were the source of it. I doubt many women are as excited by the sounds of their man nearing orgasm when he's masturbating to porn as they are by the sounds of their man nearing orgasm during sex together. Hmmm, I wonder why that is...
Sure I like hearing my man give that deep satisfied "MMMMMMMM" when he enjoys his food but I get an extra tingle when he makes that sound for food I cooked. That tingle is pride. That little knowledge that
I created that pleasure for him. A tingle similar to the pride I feel when I do random good deeds but don't tell anyone about them. It's a very pleasant feeling.
During sex, absolutely one should want their partner to experience pleasure, but I think it's only natural to want to be a part of that pleasure (Consider why so many are upset rather than joyous upon learning their S.O. has experienced great sexual pleasure with someone outside the pair). Bonding. The emotional bonding that occurs during sex is because we are responding to
each other, not merely because both parties had orgasms in the same bed. I can see why someone who orgasmed with very little stimulation could cause their partner some consternation because that partner is, in a way, denied that special tingle because that pleasure could have been set off by anyone.
We have a member whose wife sometimes orgasms before he is all the way inside of her. That's a thrill for them because that's a shared experience unique to them. Now if she had always managed to orgasm before the first complete thrust every time with every partner she'd had then the joy he takes in it wouldn't be there. It would just be something that happens to her. Not
their thing, hers. No bond in it.
If it's selfish to want your partner's pleasure in sex to be tied to you in a special way and not just any sexual stimulation then you're guilty of it tool, Petite. In the process of learning to deep throat your bf (something he'd never had before) you even used the term "triumphant" to describe your feeling at your first success. You took pride in being able to do something that gave him pleasure. There's nothing wrong with that. I don't see why you should shit on the OP for expressing disappointment at not experiencing that same joy.
Given your propensity of reading the worst in other peoples words you must have loads.
My condolences on the high horse, btw. I didn't realize it was surgically attached.
