I have a friend whose husband has deprived her of sex and intimacy for ten years. She's now happily fucking two other guys, but has no intention of divorce. I have no moral problem with that, and I think men in a similar situation should do the same.
What do you think?
Bingo, Drifterwood!
Sex drive disparity is a HUGE problem in the Western world, and divorce rates are shocking.
However, the "financial fallout" after divorce is also shocking -- just try being a single mom trying to support your family AND give them love and attention.
I think that, for the sake of the kids, and the sake of financial stability, that "known about and agreed upon affairs" should be allowed, and in fact oughta be "programmed" into marital agreements!!
BUT... our society is really f___ed up on this point because we demand "monogamy without responsibility" -- in other words, we have marital "contracts" that demand sexual exclusivity but without both parties agreeing to do what it takes to fulfill their partner's sexual needs.
If partners had to totally discuss all aspects of...
-- what their needs are
-- what their fantasies are and how important is it to fulfill each one
-- frequency needs
-- frequency compromises (work demands, household cleaning demands, child demands, etc.) so that they have a "strategy" to deal with work overloads
And then both partners need to agree upon "what happens" if their sex drives get out of sync...
-- doctor check ups
-- exercise plans
-- agreement to taking hormonal supplements to restore sex drive
-- agreement on ways their partner can seek sexual satisfaction if their own health or sex drive falls out of sync
If our society routinely examined these possibilities BEFORE marriage, there'd be a lot less divorce, a lot less children living at poverty level with stressed-out single moms, and a lot more people getting "happy":wink: