Women Who Don't Like Sex - Why & How?

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I have been wondering this myself,,, several women i know who have great husbands dont like to have sex no more and have little sex drive where as i love sex and want it at least twice a day if not more......and to me this is normal


Men's testosterone and growth hormone levels can drop dramatically as they age starting in their late 30s or early 40s. That leads to a loss in sexual interest.

One good indicator is morning erections. If your man wakes up with them then something else is going on. If he no longer wakes up with them then it's quite possible his testosterone is low (or he has a pending heart problem)

If it is low testosterone, the fix is to raise it to where it was in his 20's through HRT. That will increase his sex drive. Add back exercise and reasonable eating habits, couple it with viagra as necessary or growth hormone (although this is very controversial at the moment) and he should be back in the saddle.
 
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Men's testosterone and growth hormone levels can drop dramatically as they age starting in their late 30s or early 40s. That leads to a loss in sexual interest.

One good indicator is morning erections. If your man wakes up with them then something else is going on. If he no longer wakes up with them then it's quite possible his testosterone is low (or he has a pending heart problem)

If it is low testosterone, the fix is to raise it to where it was in his 20's through HRT. That will increase his sex drive. Add back exercise and reasonable eating habits, couple it with viagra as necessary or growth hormone (although this is very controversial at the moment) and he should be back in the saddle.

Careful...............

At the core of the controversy is whether gradually declining testosterone levels are a natural phenomenon or a health problem. And the practical question for men and their doctors is whether to treat it, particularly in the absence of scientific evidence. Before you buy into the tempting claims, find out what's known — and not known — about testosterone therapy so that you can make the best decision for you and your long-term health.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/testosterone-therapy/MC00030
 

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I guess I am one of the few women who have a high sex drive one of the biggest problems when I left my kids dad was I wanted sex and he wouldnt give it to me. Or he would but wouldnt finish the job and leave me unsatisfied. I think there should be guidelines set in a prenup b4 anyone marries ever. There was many times I told him if he didnt want to satisfie my needs there was plenty of other men out there who would..
 

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I dated a girl that was completely uninterested in sex. I couldn't relate to it in any way. And therefore it left a huge gap between us. To me it is such a large, necessary, and enjoyable part of life. There were many issues that caused her to think this way. She had early life traumas in losing a parent. The remaining parent was very strict, judgemental, and often negative, in many areas of life. She also produced little to no hormones that control sex drive. That combination led to a very incompatible situation. Often narcisistic, judgemental, self centered, and a tendancy to withdraw from people who may get close. Plus there was no reason to have any kind of intimacy or change that because the thought of having sex never entered her mind unless it was to judge it, reject it, or feel about not wanting to offer. It was still very evident to her that it was a normal part of the human condition. But though she may have tried, she could not come to terms with and accept that part of life. It is sad to me that she will most likely never reach a place in life where she realizes what an awe inspiring thing it is to let someone in that close and express yourselves in such a way. I swear I have never been so close to someone as when making love and for an instant you reach into the very fabric of their being
 

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I enjoy good company with women all different ages, at my morning class at the gym. I have to say these ladies are quite funny and full of life. Their laughter is contagious. One of the topics today was eating ice cream and the pleasure it brings. Before I knew it the conversation turned to sex. One lady said to another what she eats ice cream in place of having sex. To that the class just laughed, especially to 'know' now when they saw her husband that he wasn't getting any. One by one they all agreed, ice cream was so much better than sex any way.

They were almost gleeful with sharing details how sex just was not for them and too bad, so sad for the husbands. Here are these vibrant women; I would have thought their vibrancy was due to a full life that included great sex.

What is it with women that do not enjoy being with man? Is it that they and/or their partner is only skimming the surface? Have they been cheated from the pleasure that woman's body is capable of? Now my intimate life with my ex husband was sorely lacking, but I still ached to have that intimate contact, even if it was only seconds and I never
climaxed. To feel someone else's breath on my body, to have their skin brush up against me, to smell the scent of sex in the air … for me it was a necessity. And now that I have been exposed to all (maybe, who knows there may be more that is yet to be discovered ... oh how yummy that thought is) of the mind blowing things MY body can do and the things I want do when I am experiencing such incredible heights of pleasure, I can't imagine ever desiring ice cream over the touch of a man. To go without (six months) is bad enough, but to be happy to be without or to purposely try to avoid? I just don't get it.

So why do you think there are women that don't enjoy sex? Is it hormonal? Are there men that don't enjoy sex? Are we at lpsg deviants?

I think its too broad a question...it differs for every woman. I think when it becomes too routine. Or if you feel neglected in other areas of your relationship, it becomes a chore or you're just an outlet. At least that's when my interest fades. If I don't feel loved, respected or appreciated and he wants to jump on me, I feel like a tool and ice cream looks more gratifying then a role in the sack for his gratification. Cheating makes it difficult to trust, becaues he's put you at risk healthwise, so then my willingness to gratify or the intimacy is broken.

Just my thoughts... I do think it different for everyone. I had a friend that complained that she enjoyed sex, but her boyfriend did not. He said it's not important for him and it's not a big deal. Yet he wants a bj all the time.

You know there's nothing worse than a selfish lover that wants to received all the time. He just wanted to be gratified, but doesn't care about her needs, so obviously she told him she wanted sex 3 times a week and he complained, she dumped him.

So it's different for everyone and depending what is going on within in a relationship, you just don't know what makes one person happy.

on a side note there was study that was just put out recently, that men that help around the house with housework, get more sex.
 

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Not counting the younger Arizona women who may not be interested in sex, out here we have a lot of 'older' women who have been around.
Many have outlived their husbands and remarried.
Menopause may or may not be a factor.
Many have children and grandchildren.
Many are not lacking financially.
Quite a few of the singles are still Very Sexually Attractive and could engage if they were so inclined.
Those I am familiar with who are not interested in sex are satisfied with their Mom and Grandmother responsibilities. Sexual satisfaction is a low priority and not worth the bother of having a man in their lives.