Women who have been here

[B_Nia88]

I think it isn't that we get gayer but we get tired of being harassed about skyping, showing nude photos of ourselves, or sexting.

 

[MarkLondon]

what else am i going to talk about big dicks? small dicks? average dicks? what porn i like? what sex positions i enjoy the most? why i like blow job?

It would make a pleasant change from your constant bitching about women you don't like. BTW, how's that working for you? Inbox full of invites from hot babes yet?

 

[SR_Dee_Zasther]

I got to page 2 and decided to skip to the end of the thread, doesn't look like I missed much. So just to recap, all the women on the site are man-hating dykes and all the men rutting pigs, right? Or was there an intelligent discussion on sexuality and how it evolves in someone somewhere in the middle of this thread that I missed before it got back to generally bitching and cuntiness? (To be clear, I'm in the nuanced outlook on sexuality camp, in case my sarcasm didn't come across)

 

[Serial Kisser]

No doubt about it, there are women here who seem to get off on trying to make others feel less smart, witty, whatever than them. While many guys say stupid and insensitive things here or maybe ask naive questions, few guys are here to "attack" women. You really see a much more hostile environment in this section than any of the others. Fortunately, it's only a few women or I would've never come back. Unfortunately many of these women in the aforementioned "self policing" group seem to intimidate what other few women might be willing to add to a topic of discussion.

What came first, having already preconceived feeling about men due to past relations and then seeking out a place where the hung and dumb congregate for easy pickens, or legitimately seeking help due to "issues with big penises" and then being turned off and hardened by the overt and gregarious sexual (penis) advances.

We most likely will never know.

You hit the nail right on the head with this one.

 

[helgaleena]

I got to page 2 and decided to skip to the end of the thread, doesn't look like I missed much. So just to recap, all the women on the site are man-hating dykes and all the men rutting pigs, right? Or was there an intelligent discussion on sexuality and how it evolves in someone somewhere in the middle of this thread that I missed before it got back to generally bitching and cuntiness? (To be clear, I'm in the nuanced outlook on sexuality camp, in case my sarcasm didn't come across)

I come back 24 hours later and everybody's avatar is no longer cleavage and pecs, and instead it's all puppies and kittens! Something's going on, and I am thinking I don't want to toss baby animals into my jello hot tub :sad:
Maybe later when the sexy folks come back and need a rub-down. After the troll got banned they all went away to cook turkeys or something.

 

[thkdck4u]

I was married to a woman who worked as a stripper for a few years before we met. She sort of did the same thing that M. Rouge has done and created a broad generalization based on personal experience.

I don't necessarily think that means that it's incorrect, but it's just limited to your personal experience, and those who have surrounded you.

There are several dynamic that are at work in strip clubs. First and foremost, men are there to see you naked, and get horny. Women are there to get money from men. This tends to bring out the worst in both sexes. The dancers and the patrons are using each other. It's like the small microcosm of a typical bad marriage personified in a professional atmosphere. Like a marriage where the man married the young gold digger for sex because she is young, hot and has big boobs. He doesn't about her as a person or want to hear what she has to say. And she married him for his money even if she is not attracted to him, or maybe can't stand him.

Another thing to consider, is that quite a few men who frequent strip clubs are scumbags. They are married, but might be there lusting or even propositioning these girls. After a while, the girls impression of men becomes rather negative, and they eventually believe that all men cheat on their wives, and they are untrustworthy scumbags. They start to see the strip club clientele as representative of the entire male population.

As a result, it becomes difficult for these women to form any trust for men, and ultimately form healthy relationships with me. They are getting all of their intimacy, friendship, camaraderie, and emotional support from women who are going through the same thing they are. In addition, they are in a very sexual atmosphere, with other very sexy women who really know how to project their sexuality. They begin to admire each other in a professional sense in terms who is the best dancer, the prettiest, the nicest body, etc. Many also find it easy to engage in playful light sexual play because maybe they start doing "dual" lap dances where the guy wants to see them touch each other. It may not really even be sexual for them, but it's fun.

I dated one girl for a short time and she said that while she considered herself bi-sexual, she had only been in one relationship with a woman. She had been in some threesomes, and foursomes with other couples, and she said that when that in these situations, when she was with the other females, it wasn't as much of a turn on for her because there was always the element that they were "performing" for the guys. It was never real unless guys weren't present.

However, my main point, is that there are many factors that go into why strippers turn to women. The behavior of men not being cerebral in a dance club is not surprising, but it's not necessarily due to horniness. Most likely they are not cerebral in the first place, or they are simply not interested in being cerebral with you.

One more thing. Lots of guys who end up becoming regulars at strip clubs have difficulty relating to women as real people. They are simply sex objects to be manipulated with money. They don't know how to be cerebral, or relate to women, or chances are they would be out in other locations talking to other women, and forming friendships and relationships, then going home and having sex with them rather than just going home and jacking off, or sucking each other off in the parking lot.

All in all, the strip club environment generally causes both sexes to lose complete respect for each other over time because it brings out the worst in everyone.

 

[helgaleena]

That is fascinating insight.

Broad generalizations are never fair, but why you think they would come into play here at LPSG, which is not a strip club, is not clear.

I must admit that when people resort to them, logic and fairness tend to leave.

It is interesting to me too because I was just posting a book review about one of our titles at the Press (see link) which is part of a seven part suspense series where a Wiccan priest is in love with a stripper and even engaged to her, but their relationship breaks down by volume 4 due to Her narrow-mindedness... there's a lot more to the tale and it's a sub-plot, but I am reassured that our author got something right in the emotional department.

 

[dolfette]

are we beig compared to strippers??
wtf?

you, sir, are an arse.

 

[693987]

I can't say my opinion of men degraded from when I was a completely legal sex worker. It's places like -insert other forum names here-, as well as LPSG that have served to remind me that some people, regardless of gender, are complete and utter scumbags. Hell, some of my clients were complete gentlemen/utter sweet hearts. I still like cock too It's a rare vagina, errr, woman, that catches my eye. :wink:

 

[xX_Sarah_Xx]

....
Has being here for a long time made you put up a wall and require a guy to meet some common sense standards for you to talk to him privately? I have no doubt this is the case for a lot of you because I see in your signatures that you won't befriend just anyone.

Go ahead women, tell me how you feel.
Go ahead men, read how we feel. Some of you won't be surprised.
Go ahead whiny men and womangs....play your violins.
....

I was innocent, some things on here have seriously shocked me.
I was naive.
I thought it strange that just about anyone would try to befriend me without any reason.
I responded to every single PM/comment/profile message.
I was always nice.

I learned to separate the disrespectful horned up guys looking for wank fodder from the respectful (horned up?) guys genuinely interested in me and my opinion as a person.
I still try to respond politely to every PM/comment/profile message, to people in class 1 often with a "not interested" or "no thank you" or "am not wank fodder!" but a lot depends on how I feel at that moment. At times I have been really shocked by the things written down in PMs. Total lack of respect or even a notion that there's a human being at the other side of the computer actually reading those PMs has on some occasions really grossed me out, made me wonder what kind of people are out there, or even made me not log in for a longer period of time because I just couldn't be bothered to put up with that rubbish.
The ones I ignore are usually the "en mass"-messages (as in you can just tell that they've sent it to dozens of people at once) or the "no effort" messages (as in just a "hi" or "wanna chat" etc...) Even though I still mostly respond with "no" back in that last case.

I never have befriended anyone on here just because they sent me a request. Always required some form of personal contact but my "friend policy" has changed a lot since the beginning. I want to have the feeling I at least know them as a person a little, and that we keep searching each other out over a longer period of time here on the site through forum interaction, PMs or wall messages.

I can't say I became gayer, I just got more aware. I didn't really see straight vs gay as a black-and-white thing when I got here, but I do see it more gray now. I'm still "pretty straight" but realize now more than ever that the male psyche is just very different from the female one, and that on some levels, I connect better with women.

I category the women into roughly two classes too, btw. The ones that rather not know other women browse this site as well, and the ones that don't mind/welcome other women on here.

In general, there's a (numerously) big part of the community I can't be bothered with, but the genuine, caring, open-minded or interesting people on here definitely make lpsg worth sticking around for

 

[EllieP]

I was not naive when I got here, but I have learned to not take people so seriously since I've been here.

LPSG is like a recreational activity for me. Kicks off my day when things are slow. I don't think I've changed greatly because of it.

While I've only been on it for a little while my husband was here long before me, and we shared a lot of thoughts together on certain topics. I'd tell him "write this down" and sometimes he would. He finally started to ween himself from the site, and I started feeling deprived of our intimate talks, so I joined. Guess it's a natural progression.

Now we talk about things that I read instead of vice versa.

 

[thkdck4u]

are we beig compared to strippers??
wtf?

you, sir, are an arse.

If you had read my first sentence, you would have seen that the entire reason I brought up strip clubs was because it was a response to M. Rouge. But thanks for the name calling.

 

[dolfette]

If you had read my first sentence, you would have seen that the entire reason I brought up strip clubs was because it was a response to M. Rouge. But thanks for the name calling.

do you have a story about a woman you were dating/fucking who called you names?

 

[thkdck4u]

do you have a story about a woman you were dating/fucking who called you names?

I thought that is why we come on here to share opinions and experience.

 

[cougarblue]

I'm convinced that the longer a woman is around horny men the more queer she becomes

This is what happens when people take things out of context :smile:

But back to the original question....

for a while (I won't place parameters on what a "while" means) but if you go back and look at your post history and read the first few dozen or few hundred posts how do you sound compared to how you post now?

I would say I sound pretty close to the way I sounded then. My intent is the same as it was then : to speak my Truth and to hope the same from others. In response to the original humorous quote from Mademoiselle Rouge...I certainly can't speak for the other women on here, but the longer that I am around horny men, the STRAIGHTER I become. My orientation has nothing to do with how horny people are around me. My orientation comes from my center.

 

[dolfette]

In response to the original humorous quote from Mademoiselle Rouge...I

somebody finally realised!

 

[MelbourneGirl]

I've only been here a couple of months, but even in that short time I've changed. I don't respond to all PM's now, don't accept random friend requests and definitely feel gayer than I have in years!

 

[B_curiousme01]

This was the first first porn site of any kind I had ever visited. I was stunned. I used to leave lots of comments, spend hours in the galleries, visit all the threads, add people, answer mail.

I got jaded after a while though for a variety of reasons and don't visit as much as I used to. It has been a real eyeopener.

I haven't found myself to be more attracted to females. Just the opposite. I am more aware of men in general - at the store, gym, etc. Always wondering how they look without their cloths and if they take pics or have a sexy vid.

 

[fizzyjizz]

Hmmmm... my first post was about Hayden Christensen. Then I was so embarrassed by myself I left for a few years! When I came back it was with a goal, of actually being Supportive. But I also managed to have quite a bit of fun!

Embarrassed, you should be. Killed Star Wars, did he.

 

[D_JohnQPubic]

Embarrassed, you should be. Killed Star Wars, did he.

Much help, had he.