Lordpendragon said:
The latest stats that I saw, suggested that women have almost caught men up in the straying stakes in relationships.
Whilst I would confidently say that the majority of men stray for sexual/ego reasons, would you guess that more women stray for sexual or emotional reasons?
Well, I think boredon and routine gives many the sensation of sufocation, trap, desilusion, and desire to fly again. Most of us start marriages thinking for sure ours will be different but I think few commited relationships can maintain the freshness, excitiment, wonder and etc without work. We start to get to know our partners and somehow there are not all of that anymore...and many early on notice so many red flags but the keep trying to avoid to face it or talk about stuff..trying to mend things without really working on things to improve...family life responsabilities is not a walk in the park, for sure.
The way many ends up is in divorce courts as we can observe. There we will find that women are the ones who enters with the petition most of the time...and I think what they claim is incompatibility ? Yep, after few years and at least with one kids, mortgage and bills..the end.
If we look on top one complain married men is lack of sex or not enough sex we can have a clue about their insatisfaction...and women's complain maybe lack of communication ???
Well, in my own personal experiences in my 5y marriages I did not stray even living sexeless for 2 years, bcause I had no eyes to other men... I was to chock to find out that my dreams about living happily ever after was not going to happen plus I did have in my mind before to never get married bcause of could not promisse no men 'eternal' love..until I met my husband. Well, it ended and now I'm on my single mode again...
My single mode I'm free to do as I please...but my ways is that I love the passion, the play, the seduction and all of that...the process to get me to adventurous sex with passionate adventurous men...its very boring to me just have sexual urge and just fuck...I love passion and even if I will live it just for a short time I need that. I want to go deeper and play with the playmate I choose carefuly....bcause a plain sexual release I can do by myself by masturbating me.
I dont fancy the ideia of meeting a stranger and fuck my brains out...it does not work for me. I dont like my body being touched by strangers. There must be and mind, intelectual, fantasies, many mental things exchanges= a brain fuck, to get there. Even if is a 1 night event I need story to get to bed with him...but I still havent had 1 nightstand and do not plan having one too.
But people are different and deal with their needs diferently and they may do not want face their problems and boredon in their relationships, even with red flags all over... But in my mind I would not treat cheating as a light thing in commited relationships, I would prefer honesty even if hurts than to play with my partner heart...I can not live with 'guilt' and look at his eyes.. to just wash my sex and give it to him after sex with another person...it does not work like that to me and wish it does not work like that to him too.