mako shark
Superior Member
Hey, the kid is part of the package, so work with it....I love kids so they have never been a problem.
I've recently met this women [a friends girlfriends friend], she's attractive, down to earth.... but she has a one year old kid.
I don't know if I should get more involved. Anyone been in this situation, or have any words of advice? A females perpective would also be appreciated.
I've recently met this women [a friends girlfriends friend], she's attractive, down to earth.... but she has a one year old kid.
I don't know if I should get more involved. Anyone been in this situation, or have any words of advice? A females perpective would also be appreciated.
Here's the deal. Do you like children? If so, do you think you could love a child that was not your own by blood as much as if they were your own by blood? For many this is yes, for many no. If the answer is yes, move forward carefully. If the answer is no, then do not get involved - at all. Certainly nobody is asking you to make the decision here and now whether you want to get married and move into role as "daddy," but if it is out of the question for you down the road - then don't take another step forward. It would be a poor choice to put this girl and her child through that. If marriage and children is a long term goal for you, then why would this situation really be a problem? Just make sure you go into things as a mature adult, because you have an innocent 3rd party involved that you need to make sure doesn't get hurt no matter what the outcome of your relationship. And keep in mind, as a mother, her #1 is supposed to be her child. That has to be ok with you - and actually you should insist on it. Hope that helps.
am i alone in this but i kinda like it......i had a girl with a 11 year old son....he had deadbeat dad.so no male figure.
1.now we could go to hockey games instead of chick flicks
2. all movies were of the explosion variety.....no huge grant...only bruce willis
3. i culd play two hours of madden foodtball on the play station while she...got sexy for tonight.
normally if you make a date of going across the border to by fireworks you got to pay.....now i could do all my crazy boy stuff and it was like..."thank you so much for spending time with Andy....now come get a treat"
why commit......if i get repalced so what...theres always more womenYou are NOT alone in this at all! Sounds like the best of everything for you. Be prepared for her to replace you if somebody better comes along though, unless you like it well enough to commit.
Her two bestfriends didn't have any trouble using the word 'baggage' in front of her so im sure she wouldn't take offence as tbh she was up the duff young, and the baby was originally a mistake (not my words].
She's had a hard time the last few years so the last thing I want to do is mess her about.
Unfortunately she has actually been with someone since the baby was born [not the father, but apparently still a cock, but to be fair has stuck around] so I don't think its right to swan on in, even if she is interested still.
I'll be seeing her later in the week so I guess I'll have to let her down somehow or just be a friend with benefits.
That's right. Everyone knows that the proper application of the term "baggage" is to the lady herself, not to her children.Okay I admit I am in a pissy mood today but if anyone calls either one of my kids "baggage" they better prepare to get their ass kicked.
--The Taming of the Shrew, introduction, scene 1HOSTESS. A pair of stocks, you rogue!
SLY. Ye are a baggage: the Slys are no rogues; look in the chronicles; we came in with Richard Conqueror.
Her two bestfriends didn't have any trouble using the word 'baggage' in front of her so im sure she wouldn't take offence as tbh she was up the duff young, and the baby was originally a mistake (not my words].