I agree with the poster who said, "I need the emotional involvement with sex!"
(Episcopalian's words). Now, that I am older -- I really need the emotional involved. I do not go to bar/social clubs as I did when I was in my 20s in New York. We used to go to the after hours, around 3:00 a.m. and stay until 8:00 p.m., dancing, talking, and flirting. Then, we would go out for breakfast. People, I guess, do not do that anymore.
Oh, by the way, the after hours were safer than some of the bars -- usually the bar crowd followed into the after hours.
Those were the good old days. Now, all I want is to settle down, have a great relationship, and enjoy the rest of my life.