Womens attitude to casual sex?

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many women like casuals sex i personally need the emotions involved with sex. there is no universal for women.

Yes. /agree. I also grew up being told to be a "good" girl. That's all I knew from my family . From friends, I learned more about being a woman.
My husband knew ( as we had talked about many things ) how I felt about sex so soon. He seemed to be fine with that. But he also asked me to marry him little over 6 weeks after I'd met him.
Maybe it wasn't so fine with him, lol.
 
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she doesn't like the bar/clubs scene because most women (and men) that go there only do for one night stands.

What do you think about that?

Do many women today go to bars/clubs just looking for casual encounters/one nighters or pick-ups?

When I was casual about who I was fucking, I didn't use bars or clubs to pick-up people. I actually used a free dating site and Craig's List mostly. Yeah, I know. Sketchy. Worked out ok for me, but not necessarily something I would recommend. I'm over that part of my life where I don't care who I sleep with, but I don't think there was anything wrong with it at the time. If people want to have NSA/ONS cool. I just made changes in my life for myself and it's working out for me.
 

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It's a matter of chemistry.

I have taken a man to a hotel after meeting at a club but that was only because there was an instant rapport and the lust was too intense to be ignored.

Going out specifically to pick up speaks of a certain lack of sexual discernment and while I wouldn't deride others who do, it's not my style.

Yes, my husband and I had that instant connection. I think it surprised both of us. That first night we were only going to have coffee ( I got off work late) and we ended up talking for 4 hours. It seemed like 30 minutes.
It was like meeting an old friend you hadn't seen for years and you had all kinds of things to catch up on. Felt like I'd known him forever. Very hard to explain that connection, but you'll know it when ya feel it.
 

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now this is a great idea! I d better donate for a worthy cause than for a fucking bastard :D

That would be satisfactory. When I receive proof that you have contributed to SING, I will go back to ignoring you.

Strange how I'm a "fucking bastard" for being honest with you and requiring that you do the same with me.
 

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A pigeon is a bird, but most birds are not a pigeon.
Meaning: People looking for casual sex go to bars and clubs. But most people in clubs are not looking for casual sex.


In my experience the best place to pick up a woman for casual sex is at private parties or house parties. I think it is because of the vibe there. House parties and private parties are usually attended by friends and acquaintances of the host(s). Which means that the guests are probably more trustworthy than a random guy from a bar. Does this make any sense? Can the women relate to this?

I can relate to this approach, JamesJonson. The good thing about meeting people at house parties is that they've already been vetted - they're already friends with someone that you probably know, as opposed to the random stranger at the bar with seven types of scary lurking below the surface.
 

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I agree with the poster who said, "I need the emotional involvement with sex!"

(Episcopalian's words). Now, that I am older -- I really need the emotional involved. I do not go to bar/social clubs as I did when I was in my 20s in New York. We used to go to the after hours, around 3:00 a.m. and stay until 8:00 p.m., dancing, talking, and flirting. Then, we would go out for breakfast. People, I guess, do not do that anymore.

Oh, by the way, the after hours were safer than some of the bars -- usually the bar crowd followed into the after hours.

Those were the good old days. Now, all I want is to settle down, have a great relationship, and enjoy the rest of my life.
 

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Here's an interesting article about the "10 Commandments of Casual Sex."

Putting it here because it seems to focus on a woman's point of view....

The 10 Commandments of Casual Sex : CollegeCandy

Your thoughts?

Pretty much how I ran FBs and casual sex partner situations. And for the most part, men knew the rules, too. Occasionally, some poor guy would show up with flowers and stars in his eyes and it would make me sad. For a long time, relationships were not my thing and no matter how good the sex, I wasn't going to change my mind.

Ah, that was such a long time ago! Now I don't do sex OR relationships! :smile:
 

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Ladies, me and my friend are having a discussion. He went to a speed dating event last month and one of the women there had very old fashioned views. She said to him (they were discussing modern day sex/relationship attitudes) that she doesn't like the bar/clubs scene because most women (and men) that go there only do for one night stands.


What do you think about that?

Do many women today go to bars/clubs just looking for casual encounters/one nighters or pick-ups?
i don't get the "old" fashioned view part. are you suggesting the folks did not go to bars in the past looking for hookups and cheap one night stands?? i wasted a lot of time in the 70s and 80s if that is the case.