Women's Desires and a Man's Hunger

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Falcon9, Mar 21, 2007.

  1. Falcon9

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    I am taking a leap here. I would like to hear from some women on this one. I am curious to know how often intimate sex with your partner is desireable to you. (ok, since this site is about lp's, let's assume you have found a guy with just the right size for you among other desireable man qualities.) Knowing he is a skillful, caring and passionate partner, would twice a day be a lot, 3 or 4 times a day? A couple of times in the evening and then again first thing in the morning? Maybe again later in the day? Could this or something similar be a daily pattern for you? I know there are times when the timing would not be good for either, stresses, monthly cycles, etc... but when everything else is in place, a large comfortable bed, plenty of pillows and soft lighting... could you be as much of a sex animal as I and many others are? The reason I ask and the reason I am out on a limb is that I am being told by my partner that mornings are not so good... it is starting to feel very frustrating... we've already talked about it and I don't think it will change. I am not looking for reassurance about my situation or my cock size (although I always enjoy the comments you've been nice enough to leave for me here), just curious to know what others (the REAL women here) find desirable when it comes to sexual hunger and frequency.
     
  2. honeydew

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    Hardguard, if I had you at my house(or yours) I do not think you would get out of the bedroom for very long!:biggrin1:
    I could very easily have an intimate relationship 3-4 times a day with the right guy with no problem. My personal favorite is the 2 AM romp after "accidently"waking your partner up:veryhappy: then snuggling back up to go to sleep again.
     
  3. ClaireTalon

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    Haha, do you call that sleep now?

    I think with the right partner, 3 or 4 times a day would be possible. While still new together and with the hunger for each other never seeming to subside, I think I'd use any opportunity, morning, night, evening, breaks during the day. However, so far I've never been in a relationship that really provided the background for such ordeals, except on weekends or temporary leaves. So, if you haven't had an opportunity to go at it for five days, it's usual that you have a more intense sex life when you get together again. For how long I could keep that up if I saw my partner on a daily base, I can't tell, but the plan still sounds fine to me.

    So who volunteers to help me test it?
     
  4. WildHoney

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    Married 19 years to the same guy, love to have sex regularly twice a day morning and night , give or take the following exceptions . Post partum, heavy period days ( he doesn't mine, I do) or the flu etc.

    I am hungy for sex a lot and instigate sex most of the time, it's never been any different.
    Most weekends we have sex more often, maybe 3 or 4 times a day.

    Fuck me anytime I am awake , just dont wake me up to do it ( I love my sleep)

    Longest gone without sex, 5 weeks after babies. Longest gone without sex with no medical condition 10 days.

    :)
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  5. Principessa

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    [HardGuard] Knowing he is a skillful, caring and passionate partner, would twice a day be a lot, 3 or 4 times a day? A couple of times in the evening and then again first thing in the morning? Maybe again later in the day? Could this or something similar be a daily pattern for you? I know there are times when the timing would not be good for either, stresses, monthly cycles, etc... but when everything else is in place, a large comfortable bed, plenty of pillows and soft lighting... could you be as much of a sex animal as I and many others are?
     
  6. ManlyBanisters

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    3 - 4 times a day is, unfortunately, in the past for me. When I was first with my other half 3 times was not unusual, not for the fisrt 6 months I guess. But after that it dropped off a bit.
    I'd say he could happily go 2x a day - for me time pressures, tiredness etc. has a bigger effect on sex drive and I'm only really up for it every second day. In an ideal world, i.e. if I was a lady if leisure with a nanny and a housekeeper, I think once in the morning, once at night and the occassional spontaneous mid-afternoon tumble would be great!
    I LOVE morning sex - but it rarely happens these days - we have kids and a conflicting timetable :mad:

    (I don't mean :mad: about my kids by the way - but they are very young and have NOT LEARNED HOW TO KNOCK! AARGH!)
     
  7. Mr. Snakey

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    In the morning here. Sometimes night's too. We never say no to eachother. This is the secret to a good relationship in my opinion.I feel it is my duty to take care of her needs in this way. She feels the same way about my needs.:cool: :smile:
     
  8. SpoiledPrincess

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    I don't bring it down to how many times, rather the length of time, and ideally it's any spare time, 4 or so hours a day if possible, longer at the weekends. I'd much rather be 'messing' around than going to the pub or watching tv. It doesn't have to be penetrative sex, just sex in general. I know if it's bought down to penetrative sex any man I'm with wouldn't have the capacity to carry that on as many times as I'd like - however humping for an hour isn't actually my idea of fun, but nice long intense sex sessions building to a nice hard fuck are.
    Unless I'm really ill I never say no, I might not be in the mood but I know I pretty soon would be.
     
  9. No_Strings

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    So when do you give me your address? :biggrin1:

    I guess (even though my third and first hand experiences say otherwise), that most women are 'once a week' is completely false. Or is it a case of, the longer he is, the longer you want him for? :tongue:

    Hmmph, I realise what a shitty female population my has town now, and my sexual opinion of them gets worse day-by-day on here, it's not like I'm in the sticks for God sake.Time to give AFF a try methinks.
     
  10. SpoiledPrincess

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    I think the 'once a week' women may be with guys who don't try to keep their sex life interesting. I except any guys or women on here because I think being on a site of this sort indicates a bigger than the norm interest in sex but some men (and often their women) do let sex get into a rut and I can see then that there'd be a temptation, for an easy life, to let things lie rather than say 'we're crap in bed, let's sort it out.'
     
  11. LongTimeComing

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    I am SO glad I am getting divorced...
    In the earliest days of my courtship and marriage, we might have had sex three or four times a week. Maybe there were a handful of times in the very beginning when it was twice a day. We were about 24 or 25. Once we settled into our rut (pretty quickly), sex was pretty much Saturday mornings... ONLY. I'd had my midweek, nighttime advances rejected enough times to stop trying anymore. My wife likes to sleep later in the mornings than I do. Typical Saturday morning, I'd wake up with normal morning horniness, compounded of course with the expectation that I'd finally be getting laid for the week. Then I'd try to fall asleep for a while longer, read a little, wait, wait, wait, until she'd finally wake up and cuddle over to me. Of course by that time I was starting to feel crappy from laying in bed too long, frustrated that I'd been waiting so long, pissed off that we only had sex on her timetable, and just generally not in the best mood for sex anymore. But since it was only about 3x a month (figure one saturday a month for ragtime, plus the occasional saturdays where something interfered...) I would just take what I could get. Then the kids were born, and saturday mornings took on a whole different flavor. We were probably interrupted more often than not.

    Then, when the kids were older and we'd have a little more privacy in the mornings, my wife seemed to be only interested in a "wham bam thank you ma'am" kind of sex. Virtually no foreplay. She wouldn't let me go down on her anymore. She'd just grab me, rub me enough to get me hard, and then want me on top right away.

    Of course that was before sex stopped entirely about 8 years ago. (But that was because of other things that happened in the marriage to end even the most superficial aspects of our relationship.)

    As I said... I am SO happy to be getting divorced. I am SO looking forward to having a NORMAL sex life! I'm not so sure 2 or 3 times a day would work for me any more (I am 48), but 3 or 4 times a week would be really, really nice.

    Sorry to bore you all with my depressing story. Thanks for listening.
     
  12. Duchess_athena

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    If i had a man that could take care of my needs right 3-4 times a day would be wonderful i have had sex up to 8 times in a day before and that was great then to
     
  13. SpoiledPrincess

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    Sorry to hear your story Longtime but I hear that a lot, when a couple is 'courting' they're at it like bunnies, then as soon as there's a commitment made the sex starts to tail off. Personally I don't think it's fair that it's usually the woman who gets to set the sexual terms, a relationship is between people, decisions about their sex life should be between both of them and not a decision one partner makes and the other has to put up with.

    Athena, up to 8 times a day is great but I've found men can't manage that long term. Sigh :( at the beginning they think they can and men often say 'i'd love to be with someone who was really really demanding', then before you know it they're saying 'for god's sake woman you're wearing my cock to a stump.'
     
  14. No_Strings

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    I mean no disrespect to you, your wife or your marriage, but ugh, reading things like that make me so unbelievably angry, think I better hold off from a rant in this case :mad:
     
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    You're all insatiable! :cool:
     
  16. Mackleanen Beebarf

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    DW tends to be pretty all-or-nothing depending on the ol' hormones. Sometimes she'll want it 3-4 times a day, others she's fine going a week without.

    We pretty much avoid multiple times in one day, though, because she's too prone to UTIs. I wear that shit out. :biggrin1:
     
  17. Pirate Wench

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    Re: EXs....My ex and I were married 10 and a half years.....and he was happy with sex once every 6 to 8 WEEKS !
    I started to think he didn't have Any hormones.
    I thought the "dropping the clothes and going at each other as soon as the door is closed"... was just something on tv and in the movies.....nobody ever really affected anyone that way....

    It didn't happen to me till #2 hubby and I started dating.
    I was 32 and he was 24.
    He was like culture shock after the ex's attitude......plus he was "bigger" than my ex.:smile:
    First time we were alone together, our clothes were off in 10 minutes.:smile:

    We've been married 22 years this May.
    Things didn't get bad till Aug. 2005.....
    Too long a story for what led up to that......

    You know the saying about having some bumps in the road ?....we had some major potholes and bridges out......
    But things have been much better since last summer.

    I'd like sex a lot more often than hubby....but he's now dealing with hypertension and type 2 diabetes (pills, not insulin)......he's been on meds since Nov. 2004..

    The hydraulics still work but at around 85%.....plus 3 of the meds he takes have "decreased libido" mentioned under possible side effects.

    He thinks he can't take Viagra or any of those cause he has a heart condition just because he takes meds for high blood pressure ...
    I know that's absurd.....
    When I asked our Dr. (when I saw him alone).....he said hubby could take anything he wanted.
    But he has to ask for it himself....and I told the Dr. he can't know I asked about it....
    But now that I mentioned it, the Dr. may have a way to ask hubby about things in that area....an innocent inquiry....and suggest what he can take if he needs it in the "future".

    That's a very high tight rope to walk on for me because of the ego thing....
    How do I suggest he ask his Dr. about that ?....(the Dr. may not remember to mention it).....
    And how do I mention to hubby how much better things would be if he was working with 100% hard again....not even every time....just have something to take when you wanted.

    Any suggestions from you guys ?

    As for me.....I feel like I'm climbing the walls way too often......
    Shit, I live on the wall some days.
    Entertaining onesself only goes so far......you need it from the other person.....

    Sorry this was so long ! .....
    Thanks in advance for any advice.
     
  18. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Im a once a day girl (situation allowing) .My prefered time of day is just after ive gotten home from work, before dinner, before anything....

    No better way to forget a bad day then with a good fuck
    :wink:
     
  19. ClaireTalon

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    Amen to that! :biggrin1:

    I guess once or twice a day is much better, more would be like a candle lit up at two ends, and soon all the tension and hunger for each other would have subsided. Or I'd be walking on crutches. But it'd be hard, if the guy is really an appetizer, I guess I'd be horny for him as soon as he's around, and within short time, we would be making out all over the house, whereever we are. Don't laugh, I've been with such a guy, and it was hard for me to restrain myself until we were both off-duty. Needless to say, the times we had together knew little other activities than FUCKING.
     
  20. Falcon9

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    I have to thank those that have been writing in here...the site continues to be enlightening for me. I can see we all have individual drives, needs or expectations. I am still learning what mine are, or rather how to negotiate them. It seems that this is a life-long process, that things will change in relationships and there will be times that are more difficult than others in finding intimacy. I am blessed (and cursed) with not only a large cock but a large appetite for sex and all that goes with this. After the newness in a relationship wears off... I'm still going strong.... I'm in a situation now where there isn't much else I can do to make things more passionate here without being made to feel like I am "abnormal' in my desires. So here I am....It is an interesting thing to share pics on line (here at the favorite lpsg site) and have others tell me how much they'd like to go for a ride with me... yet given the situation at home it is also a frustrating thing. The plusses and minuses of the internet for some good old-fashioned animal cyber intimacy... well maybe it is a good thing... after all, it seems I have a lot to share.
     
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