Women's Desires and a Man's Hunger

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I have to thank those that have been writing in here...the site continues to be enlightening for me. I can see we all have individual drives, needs or expectations. I am still learning what mine are, or rather how to negotiate them. It seems that this is a life-long process, that things will change in relationships and there will be times that are more difficult than others in finding intimacy. I am blessed (and cursed) with not only a large cock but a large appetite for sex and all that goes with this. After the newness in a relationship wears off... I'm still going strong.... I'm in a situation now where there isn't much else I can do to make things more passionate here without being made to feel like I am "abnormal' in my desires. So here I am....It is an interesting thing to share pics on line (here at the favorite lpsg site) and have others tell me how much they'd like to go for a ride with me... yet given the situation at home it is also a frustrating thing. The plusses and minuses of the internet for some good old-fashioned animal cyber intimacy... well maybe it is a good thing... after all, it seems I have a lot to share.

Darling you have an amazing body, a fabuolus cock and seem like a nice you.. Unfortantly we all do have different desires and priorities when it comes to sex. It sounds like you and your girl need to find a compromise and less sex with more masturbation may be the answer..If that isnt enough to satisfy you then id suggest the two of you sit down for a good talk
 

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yes, thank you Lee_M, (I am glad you see some good qualities here) please note though, that in my first post I mentioned we have talked and it is at this point I don't see much light. Even as I wirite this, a cold wave has drifted between us. I am feeling resigned actually. It is an odd feeling since for a while now all I have thought about is how frustrating and unsatisfying it has become. And all the talking does not seem to change the reality of the situation. So, instead of fighting, thinking, or imagining, I am withdrawing it seems. My nature is to be on top in a sense, to have that feeling of control, and at times to equally share that control. Believe me, I know about give and take, but as a passionate lover, as an active guy that likes to give a lot in bed, I know the dynamic is just not balanced in my present situation. So now I am going against this nature, allowing myself to actually feel passive in a sense. And knowing a relationship could end, accepting this possibility is sobering and well, sad in the sense that I am losing someone I have felt close to in many other ways.
 

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For me I'm more into a once a day really good fuck but I'm certainly not against more. I dont live with the current man I'm sleeping with now but with ex's I was more than willing to give oral or handjobs anytime he felt he wanted one. I'm never gonna hold a SO back from feeling good so I'll do what I can. Sex is normal and I believe any normal urge should be satisfied.
 

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yes, thank you Lee_M, (I am glad you see some good qualities here) please note though, that in my first post I mentioned we have talked and it is at this point I don't see much light. Even as I wirite this, a cold wave has drifted between us. I am feeling resigned actually. It is an odd feeling since for a while now all I have thought about is how frustrating and unsatisfying it has become. And all the talking does not seem to change the reality of the situation. So, instead of fighting, thinking, or imagining, I am withdrawing it seems. My nature is to be on top in a sense, to have that feeling of control, and at times to equally share that control. Believe me, I know about give and take, but as a passionate lover, as an active guy that likes to give a lot in bed, I know the dynamic is just not balanced in my present situation. So now I am going against this nature, allowing myself to actually feel passive in a sense. And knowing a relationship could end, accepting this possibility is sobering and well, sad in the sense that I am losing someone I have felt close to in many other ways.

You are in a bad situation.. I mean it is easy to say being incompatable sexually shouldnt be enough to end a otherwise good relationship but unfortantly if the two of you really are that different it does make it hard, and sex is a major contributing factor in a relationship.

Awful to say but if you feel you have to compromise yourself, desires and needs maybe sticking around isnt the best idea. Of course that is last resort so maybe consider beinging in a 3rd person(that she knows about) ..risky but just might work
 

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I know that one of my female friends, also 18 dosn't sleep with her boyfriend that often, they've been together for 3 years and she's only stayed at his house twice but they do sleep together in her bed more often. I still find it wierd that she dosn't sleep withhim that often. It's common knowledge among my friends that we like one another but I'd definately prefer to do it at least twice a day with her. I'm not sure how she would act sexuallly with me though.
 

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I mean no disrespect to you, your wife or your marriage, but ugh, reading things like that make me so unbelievably angry, think I better hold off from a rant in this case :mad:

What is it that you are angry about? Are you angry that I shared this? (Not trying to incite a rant, just curious what aspect got you upset...)
 

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DH and I have been together for almost 24 years. For the first several years we would have sex whenever we could. Seems like we would average around twice a day, although there were many times that we must have had sex 5-6 times in a day. Now, we have sex 3-4 times a week and that is really due to how busy our lives are at this point. Interestingly, I actually have always had a higher sex drive than my husband. I can have sex for a long time and I always seem ready to have sex.

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What is it that you are angry about? Are you angry that I shared this? (Not trying to incite a rant, just curious what aspect got you upset...)

Oh no, I was referring to how anyone (your wife) could have such an apathetic mood towards sex, I mean really, isn't it just one step below food, water and oxygen? :confused:
 

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Thanks for the clarification. I don't understand her myself. Especially over the past 8 years... she was about 40 when she became totally disinterested in sex. She should have been about as horny then as I was when I was 20. As far as I know, and I am pretty certain, she has not had any partners at all over the past 8 years. It boggles the mind!
 

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When me and the GF first got together she would fuck me until I would beg her to stop. 3-4 times a day, everyday for 3 weeks. I would get a little breather for the first 4 days of the period and then it would start over again. That was at 18, now at 22 its more like 1-3 times per week. On bad weeks there may not be any sex at all. I think this is a really bad sign of things to come
 

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I am taking a leap here. I would like to hear from some women on this one. I am curious to know how often intimate sex with your partner is desireable to you. (ok, since this site is about lp's, let's assume you have found a guy with just the right size for you among other desireable man qualities.) Knowing he is a skillful, caring and passionate partner, would twice a day be a lot, 3 or 4 times a day? A couple of times in the evening and then again first thing in the morning? Maybe again later in the day? Could this or something similar be a daily pattern for you? I know there are times when the timing would not be good for either, stresses, monthly cycles, etc... but when everything else is in place, a large comfortable bed, plenty of pillows and soft lighting... could you be as much of a sex animal as I and many others are? The reason I ask and the reason I am out on a limb is that I am being told by my partner that mornings are not so good... it is starting to feel very frustrating... we've already talked about it and I don't think it will change. I am not looking for reassurance about my situation or my cock size (although I always enjoy the comments you've been nice enough to leave for me here), just curious to know what others (the REAL women here) find desirable when it comes to sexual hunger and frequency.

Oh, there are not enough hours in the day!!! But since I can't always have my way, I guess 3-4x a day would suffice. BTW, it's all good...morning, noon, night, middle of the night...even calling sick!
 

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I was going to stay away from this one AS I can get a little serious for this website and occasionally get chasitised for it.

However ( never being able to keep my mouth shut) I thought I'd share my thoughts.

Maybe you are pushing all her right buttons sexually, but she feels some resentment towards you in other areas. How long are you spending on the internet? How is her career? does she raise the kids alone>? Is she lonely?

Women sometimes equate sexual desire, and feeling loved and appreciated as the same thing..The worst time sexually in our lives, and it was rocky!! was when my husband was working 18 hours a day, and being consumed by his new business that I was put on the back burner for 3 years while it flourished. I never felt like fucking him, and almost hated him for it.

Two expamples of it-

Man " God what a day, any chance of sex tonight?"

Woman " not tonight , I am exhausted" -

Over the top example

Man - "Honey how was your day?..(then listen)..then..how about I vacumn while you shower and I take you out/make dinner, you sound stressed"

Woman - " oh wow thanks " thinking I SO want to fuck this man right now!!

Resentment to alot of women can kill sex drive quicker than bad porn. You may be the worlds best lover, or have the most mazing cock ( which you do by the way xx ) but long term relationships takes more than that to sustain a good sex life.

Women need to feel, heard, validated, apprecatied,to be loving towards men. I think both sexes do really, but for men their testosterone can over ride most "feelings" ....for us, it is harder as we don't have the same hormones you do.

Most men complain about the sex dwindling after a period of time, and blame the women for it. In fact blame must be laid on both parties. It takes work to make along term relationship work sexually, and men sometimes get lazy and just want that passion that was there in the beginning.

Marriage is a work in process, long term sexual activity is also work. If you feel like you have talked and talked about this till you have run out of words, maybe your barking up the wrong tree.

If you had the "spark" years ago, it is possible to re ignite it, and alot of time it just takes work, and not of the sexual nature, to make things right again.

My 2 cents worth, appolgies in advance for the lecture.

xx
Honey
 

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what a strange admission in cyberspace... oh well, I still have my lp! (What a trouble maker!)

Life is too short to spend years in this type of relationship, Hon. And there are already too many men in their fifties who awake one day and realize all they missed and then have to go through the grief of a divorce.
 

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It ended. It took a few more conversations but in the end nothing was going to change... certainly not my sex drive. There were other factors, things like relocating because of a job change which only added to the pressure. So, yours truly has now been set free. I understand for some I am a LOT to handle.. but I can't really change my nature. Something worth noting here: some of the conversations I have been having here have been very liberating, in these threads or in pms from members. There is a supportive feeling that comes through very often. (Of course, it is what you make it also. By that I mean when you make an effort to open up and let things fall where they may, it is possible to find some benefit if you allow it.) SO, by having these kinds of messages about intimate subjects and sharing more than just the cock pics, I've really found a good sounding board here. Not to mention some contact from a few of the great women here that leave me breathing a little heavier and HARDER~! btw: WH: I think I was barking up the wrong tree. It is not always easy to realize this and ultimately admit this and then take action.
 

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It ended. It took a few more conversations but in the end nothing was going to change... certainly not my sex drive. There were other factors, things like relocating because of a job change which only added to the pressure. So, yours truly has now been set free. I understand for some I am a LOT to handle.. but I can't really change my nature. Something worth noting here: some of the conversations I have been having here have been very liberating, in these threads or in pms from members. There is a supportive feeling that comes through very often. (Of course, it is what you make it also. By that I mean when you make an effort to open up and let things fall where they may, it is possible to find some benefit if you allow it.) SO, by having these kinds of messages about intimate subjects and sharing more than just the cock pics, I've really found a good sounding board here. Not to mention some contact from a few of the great women here that leave me breathing a little heavier and HARDER~! btw: WH: I think I was barking up the wrong tree. It is not always easy to realize this and ultimately admit this and then take action.





Wow.

Perhaps because it was a dating relationship, I feel a bit better about the board's influence over your relationship. If it were a marriage, I would feel quite a bit worse if the board and in particular individual members were responsible for the ending of your relationship. Sex is important I am sure but it is not everything. I am glad you are happy with your particular decision.
 

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oh no! hope you're ok with it, even when there's apathy or anger at the end, the end is still the end of something familiar and that is difficult no matter the nature of the relationship.
I felt there was more to it- and thats ok we dont need to know all that? the fact that you know and you are self aware is important. I know how intelligent you are, and yet also how much you can sometimes well, perhaps to quote a cliche- miss the forest cos of the trees. Not cos you want to, but cos you focus very erm, shit whats the word?? wheres my brain thesaurus when I need it- you can be very singly focused on something and not realize that you missed anything at all, until its put in your face. LOL that didnt come out right either, but anyway, women are sure all different, though issues in the bedroom are nearly always symptomatic of issues elsewhere.
I hope Ive not been too uhh- tactless ? brash? (my god where has my brain hidden the dictionary section!!) considering our limited contact, and it is truly, my theory based only on that limited knowledge/contact, so excuse any unintentional offense. I can also be TOTALLY barking up the wrong tree in my theorizing, but- thats why theyre called theories and not fact lol!
good luck, HG. I wouldve liked to help if I couldve, lol- its what I do.

thats Philly, right? :biggrin1: