1, how do you feel about strangers making comments about your body in public?
I've had men say I have a pretty face or otherwise graciously give me compliments, and I really like it.
I've also had some really nasty things said about my appearance in public and it made me murderous.
2, do you feel that you have equality in your day to day life?
Yes and no. Yes, because in my personal life I accept no less. With that said, professionally, sometimes I wonder. Women and men alike are sexist, ageist, racist, classist and to some extent everyone is exposed to all of those things. I have not yet found a way to insulate myself complete from bigots of various kinds out in the world.
3, how soon after meeting a guy might you get physical, and do you ever get physical when you're not sure you want to?
Within minutes to years later. It just depends. No, I don't get physical unless I want to, really want to. I tend to be on or off with no in between concerning physical intimacy, and if I'm not on, nothing is going to happen.
4, where do you stand on the issue of prostitution?
I think it's just fine, but I do think safeguards need to be in place for monitoring the spread of infectious disease. As well as supports for women and men working in the sex industry should be in place to deal with things like coercion, rape, sex trafficking, etc.
5, how do you feel about motherhood?
It's not for everyone, and it's difficult. I like being a mother, but I often have to choose being a mom over other things, like my career, leisure activities, etc. It's a blessing that carries grave responsibilities. Also, it still seems like mothers are expected to do the bulk of childcare and child rearing even if they work, which I would like to see become more equal.
6, how do you feel about ageing?
It's not aging I mind so much per se, it's that I don't feel like I've accomplished with my life what I would like to have accomplished by now. Also, my SO is 9 years my junior, which can sometimes make me feel a little old. He doesn't seem to mind, though.
7, do you ever use feminine wiles to make your life easier, and how do you feel about doing so?
Not really. I have the social skills of an anteater, and it's hard enough trying to interact socially without having to throw in "wiles," whatever they are. I don't see myself as particularly feminine anyway, so I just act like me most of the time and hope that works.
8, how important is it to you to be seen as feminine and attractive?
I like my SO to think I'm attractive. I like feeling feminine and attractive, but most of the time I don't. It's somewhat concerning to me professionally as it's a lot easier to sell people things if you're attractive and confident. So it's important, yes, but it's not something I feel I have the luxury to devote a lot of time to right now.
9, what are your roles and duties regarding the men in your life?
I'm a mother, a badgering ex-wife, a girlfriend, a single parent, a client, a boss, a co-worker... the list goes on. I've been told that I'm very good at being "one of the guys" which suits me fine with co-workers and male friends. In my relationship, we don't really have traditional gender roles, it's just whatever works.
10, what would you like to see change with regards women in your society?
I would like to see women stop being their own worst enemies, and I would like women to get along with each other better and not be so catty and divisive with one another. I would like to see fewer women obsessed with beauty and sex appeal and more women concerned with being intelligent, well-educated, and well-spoken. I would like women to learn to accept their own body images and accept those of other women.