There's some debate on the "Do some women actually like to be gagged with a large penis?" thread about the use of force during sex. I wrote this in that thread. This is what is under dispute: -If you're incapable of discussing these things beforehand, you aren't mature enough to be doing this with a woman. (talking about using force during sex) -Even if a woman loves something involving force, you still need to discuss things verbally before you ever do anything involving force in a sexual situation. This is true for me. I enjoy force during sex, but I don't want a man to just start using force with me without talking about what turns me on and what I want first. I don't want a man I don't trust to use force with me, and I wouldn't trust him if he just began using force without ever talking to me about it. I think without any discussion at all, if he just began using force with me, it would freak me out. I wouldn't trust him any more. I also feel it's also important to do so in order to protect a man from being accused of sexual assault or rape in case of mis-communication, which would be a problem if a man is only relying on non-verbal communication and body language. Several men disagree with me about whether other women feel the same. They say that body language can suffice and talking ruins the fun and that they know that other women want a man to just dominate them without talking about it first. They feel that men shouldn't talk about it first, and that they should just go by feel whether the use of force is okay and how much force to use. I do not know how many other women feel the way that I do. How do you feel about it? Do you disagree? Women only please!